USMCHokie Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 For those of you who are Facebook users, if you're just starting to date someone, how long do you wait until you become Facebook friends with them? I'm starting to see someone, and we decided not to be Facebook friends, as it would seemingly just complicate things...so do you all jump in and Facebook friend them right away, or do you wait...?
DustySaltus Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Oh god. If you're going to do it, do it sooner than later just to avoid any kind of awkwardness. Sounds serious
Rearden Metal Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 I try to add girls BEFORE it gets serious, if at all. That way I can make them all fight for me publicly. I'm kidding. I don't request people, if they request me, I add. Simple. Unless I hate them. Then I DENYYYYYY MUAAAHAHAHHA!!!!
boogieboy Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Never add them....NEVER NEVER NEVER....unless youre sure youre going to marry them.
DustySaltus Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Ohhh, scratch what I said. I misread. I have to agree with boogie, delay it as long as possible.
Silver_star Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 you guys are weird, holy mind games! If you like them and you want to add the girl so you can talk to her on facebook and connect over facebook , add her..if you think its going to "complicate" it...then there are too many games going on for a healthy relationship to take place anyways, in my opinion.
Author USMCHokie Posted March 30, 2010 Author Posted March 30, 2010 I didn't really mean to ask for advice here...but rather just see what you all do in general...
atlnay Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 For those of you who are Facebook users, if you're just starting to date someone, how long do you wait until you become Facebook friends with them? I'm starting to see someone, and we decided not to be Facebook friends, as it would seemingly just complicate things...so do you all jump in and Facebook friend them right away, or do you wait...? I'm on board with NOT being friends...lol...too much unnecessary drama. Meh.
marsle85 Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 yeah, I don't go out of my way to add them unless it comes up in conversation, etc.
Engadget Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 I add people if I hang out with them and have a good time, so I add them before I'd ever date them
aerogurl87 Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 Once we become exclusive they get added, before that and it's generally not a good idea as I learned. I went out on a date with this one guy I had met off Match awhile back and well let's just say I wasn't feeling the chemistry. So a few days go by and I get this awkward sounding instant message from him on there that says he's sorry to inform me that he won't be able to see me again because he thinks him and another girl may be becoming serious, lol. I didn't care since I had no interest in seeing him again anyway, but I could tell it was awkward on his end, haha.
D-Lish Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 I never add them... Jaysus, I don't need to explain who the hot guy in a photo is, or get into a fight because someone said something on my wall. If I am going to open up my life to someone, it will be in person- and it will be personal. I post the minimal antics of my life on facebook. I keep a lot of things private. I made the mistake of adding my FWB on facebook- it has caused undue problems- and we aren't even in a relationship!!!
Kiley12 Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 I don't recommend adding them during the dating phase! Facebook is an artificial way of getting to know someone. It's much better to get to know someone face to face. Plus it's easy to fall into an unhealthy obsession of checking his/her page. I strongly advise it until you are in an exclusive, happy, relationship.
Engadget Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 One girl I added and have been talking to is one of those people that uses Twitter and about 50 different things linked to her account, and is constantly updating on useless things. That I don't understand.
Wallace1 Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 I don't think its a big deal, but I generally just wait for them to add me. I've got my profile setup so friends can only see what mutual friends have posted, so it really makes little difference since the stuff left is fairly benign to begin with. Doesn't everyone do it this way?
MalachiX Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 I usually add them early on since I've got a lot of friends and I figure it makes sense to do it when we're just paling around instead of any milestone in the relationship (that just seems to create pressure). I have now sworn off the idea of putting "in a relationship" with anyone until I get married.
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