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Hi everyone, I need some help as I am lost and don't know what to decide.

I am married since 10 years, got 2 kids, one is 10 years the the other 3 years.

Marriage started not so good since start then to ugly for me and lasted that long because of trying and trying to make it ok. I traveled and worked outside the country trying to run away from my marriage, had lot of affairs through the past 10 years, changed lot of girlfriends, my wife always nagging to come and live happily ever after but i always ran away, till I met that girl and stayed 2 years with her in the same house outside the country, i felt that she was the one that i should be with knowing that age differ is around 12 years, my parents against me divorcing cause they are afraid of big problems coming out of my wife and they might loose the kids. I myself am wealthy enough to keep everyone happy and gain my kids for life. but my happiness means a lot to me, ofcorse my kids also. N.B sex stopped between me and my wife since almost 3 years.

 

My wife loves me like crazy but to me she is just a sister of friend.

 

My Girlfriend is starting to ask me to choose, since she says she can not keep on that relation with a married guy hiding, she dont want to be the mistress anymore.

 

I need some help on what should I do. PLEASE

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Wow...this thread is going to be a lot of fun.

 

You got married 10 years ago. Your oldest child is 10. So she got pregnant right way and you hadn't had time to really get to know each other. You havent kept it in your pants the entire marriage, and now you have a gf who you've been living with for the last 2 years, all the while lying to your wife, sayig you're away at work...

 

What's the point? Let your wife have a life of her own too. End it now. Waiting only lengthens her suffering.

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Take a long jump off a short pier and take your gf with you. :)

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Hi everyone, I need some help as I am lost and don't know what to decide.

I am married since 10 years, got 2 kids, one is 10 years the the other 3 years.

Marriage started not so good since start then to ugly for me and lasted that long because of trying and trying to make it ok. I traveled and worked outside the country trying to run away from my marriage, had lot of affairs through the past 10 years, changed lot of girlfriends, my wife always nagging to come and live happily ever after but i always ran away, till I met that girl and stayed 2 years with her in the same house outside the country, i felt that she was the one that i should be with knowing that age differ is around 12 years, my parents against me divorcing cause they are afraid of big problems coming out of my wife and they might loose the kids. I myself am wealthy enough to keep everyone happy and gain my kids for life. but my happiness means a lot to me, ofcorse my kids also. N.B sex stopped between me and my wife since almost 3 years.

 

My wife loves me like crazy but to me she is just a sister of friend.

 

My Girlfriend is starting to ask me to choose, since she says she can not keep on that relation with a married guy hiding, she dont want to be the mistress anymore.

 

I need some help on what should I do. PLEASE

 

 

Definitely divorce your wife and go with your girlfriend. Isn't she the one you love? Then move out (or stay out) and divorce your wife and marry your girlfriend. Your wife will get over it and go on to meet the love of her life. It is sad for the kids, but it is better for them to have you two divorced than to see their daddy running around and being unfaithful to their mother. It will make them dislike you. The only honorable thing to do is give your wife a divorce and let her find her life.

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One other thing. What do you mean you have to choose before stepping into divorce? Choose what?

Edited by stillafool
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