rebirth Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 My ex and i have been apart for almost 6 weeks now and we have had limited contact. She broke up with me because she "didn't feel that spark anymore". We have seen each other once since the break up. She is out of the country now and she told me that she would bring me back some coffee from where she is going. My plan is to not contact her when she gets back and just she if she even talks to me. If she does talk to me when she gets back, then i guess we will hang out or something? If not, then I will probably wait a few weeks and contact her. Right now I really do want to get back together. I love her deeply and I miss her a lot. I want to ask her if she is happy with her decision to break up. If she says no, the I guess we would have to talk about a few things. If she says yes, then I will go no contact. I feel that right now, with all the stress and heartache I've gone through lately, I need an answer. I have been wondering how she feels for 6 weeks now. I never did anything horribly wrong to her. I really was a good boyfriend and I don't deserve this. Since the breakup, I have started working out again. I upgraded my wardrobe. I have been trying to stay busy with my studies and hanging out with friends, but I can't get her out of my head. What are your opinions on my plan? I want to be honest with her and tell her how I feel, but would this just push her away?
DustySaltus Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Sorry about your situation. She broke up with you. How would you expect her to respond to a question about being "happy" about a breakup? Whatever way she answers it is going to put her in a very precarious position. You have your answer already. Unless she comes back to you and says, "I made a huge mistake, I want to make things work, I want to try and rekindle that spark again and I am willing to do whatever it takes"....you have nothing to talk about. It takes TWO people to keep the "spark" going. Why didn't she say something to you earlier so you BOTH could work on it. Why did she take the easy way out? Because she quit on the relationship. The best response is no response. Read the link in my signature. Begin the healing process for yourself.
jms76 Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 Rebirth, Dusty is right. She already gave you an answer. It does not matter if you think you did nothing wrong and don't deserve this. Unfortunately, that's life. Whatever her reason(s) is/are you just have to accept them. The sooner you do, the sooner you will begin to heal and move on. I know it's hard but unless she's willing to come to you and state that breaking up was a mistake, you really have nothing more to talk about. Sorry man.
USMCHokie Posted April 2, 2010 Posted April 2, 2010 People are funny- maybe she (or my ex) broke up in order to see how much the other person "Wanted It".. I don't agree with that kind of behaviour, but let's just face it- people do that. If someone did this to me, I'd say they were crazy and thank the stars that I'm not with them anymore. You can do much better than that. Insta-LAUNCH.
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