Lucy24 Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 I have been in NC with my ex for a week (I blocked everything even rang up my phone comapany to get the number blocked everything). I have not thought much about my ex only I tend to wake up in the morning when my ex apears in my dream, I go about most of my day cycling and have started a new job I start thrusday so I make my self busy as possible. While on facebook I was looking at friends photographs of the hawian party we had in the pub I used to work in the photograph was my ex standing at the bar and me puttin glasses on the shelf. It made my stomoch churn over with really bad butterflys makeing me feel sick and sent flooding memmories of that day when we was gettin to know each other. Now I know im going to bump into my ex at some point while out and about how do I escape this from happening again?
LostInLimbo Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Now I know im going to bump into my ex at some point while out and about how do I escape this from happening again? You Can't, it happenes it happens, react with Hello and move out of there, but don't run out, the option is, AVOID all places he may be and go, you know his routine, that should help, even if it means giving some things up, better to lose a little then to be hurt over and over. As for FB, its a nightmare after a break up, just my opinion, I Temp disabled mine, just me though....things are going to find you, without you looking for them, trust me, you just need to be prepaird for when it happens is all.. Wish You Well.. LiL
Author Lucy24 Posted March 31, 2010 Author Posted March 31, 2010 (edited) Last nite while out with a friend steve as it happens he asked me to go outside for a smoke which I agreed to he told me about his mother which was fantastic news and a big load off his shoulders. My ex pulled up in his car and wound down the window I was not expecting to bump into him so soon he is training to be a taxi driver I did nothing and he sat there in his car wating for me to go over so I did I said nothing he asked if i was ok so i nodded yes he asked if i was talking to him i did nothin he then said i was doing my training runs and i was going past here so i though i would stop and see if you was here and by chance pretty weird that you are here he asked me how my family was so i asked how his was and how his brother was getting on with his maths he then asked me if i got a mobile phone yet to which i said no i dont and then he asked me how work was I said i better go and walked away i did not say by at all. what do you think he is up to? Edited March 31, 2010 by Lucy24
Author Lucy24 Posted March 31, 2010 Author Posted March 31, 2010 can someone please give there opinion?
Author Lucy24 Posted April 1, 2010 Author Posted April 1, 2010 He broke up with me, this would be the 2nd time he has done this. he left me as he dose not want to settle down not that I am asking him to do so at all. There was not reason for him to pull up outside the pub and I think using his training as a excuse at all to do so he said he wanted to go straight home if that was so he would have done it with out pulling up outside to see if I was there.
hoping4thebest Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 does your friend steve know him at all? or do you just drink in that pub? (just wondering how he might have thought you'd be there...) sounds like he's worried you might be seeing someone else already... nobody likes to think their ex got over them quickly, i know i wouldn't! you should try asking him straight out why he did it, you might get a straight answer? btw i hate those things like seeing pics on facebook.... when my ex split up with me a few weeks ago her relationship status changed and 2 of her friends clicked the like button... i felt like a million bucks after that ! so i just clicked that i like it to! you can disable their newsfeed if you click on the hide icon beside their post on the home page, thats if you can stop yourself checking their page, i have a note stuck to my screen saying DON'T DO IT, seems to be working so far....
Author Lucy24 Posted April 1, 2010 Author Posted April 1, 2010 I did speak to my ex face to face and no he dose not know anyone I know of not even my friend Steve who happens to be in his mature 40's he knows I go there to see friends but not that often. I asked why did you turn up to the pub it was the same excuses. I was on my way home and I wondered if you was there and by chance you was. So I said im sorry but if you was going home why did you not just continue and do not tell me you was going home because you would have done it regardless. you was checking up on me and done it intentionally you don't just think maybe my ex is outside lets stop and see if you was going home. To which he told me to get over myself? and that he don't want to be with me. and I told him what am I meant to be over and I meant to be over you so you think i still want to be with you because if you have not noticed I have not called you in weeks now and it was you who turned up to the pub you who asked me if I had got a phone yet it was you who wanted me to sit in your car and talk. I made it very clear to him that I do not wish to know him anymore that we a finished and I have no intention of being anything but completely away from him and was not happy about him turning up out the blue just for a friendly chat. So now I just think he is jilted as he has had no one say no to him and go there own way he is the one that ends things but expects the other party to still be friendly to him.
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