numbredheart Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 This is a message she left me after i started to act like i didnt care anymore, what you think her feelings are????? ok look .... im sorry its like i dont wanna hurt u or anything... cuz i do love u but right now i think we need a break n once again not cuz i wanna see any1 else just cuz its like id always get annoyed over stupid stuff n idk then all this stuff i just think its whats best n then we can go from there n see where that takes us... sometimes she would get annoyed easily around me, then i do sumthin sweet and she goes back to nice mode.--sometimes i thought to myself we need to do NC or minimal contact for a month an let us miss each other again.. how does her comment sound to you guys? ( a outside perspective) for the past month are lives have been hectic, is this break thing sensible? we been having small arguments lately. nothing serious. she created a new FB account and refuse to add me she also has aanother FB that still says In a relationship she keeps talking to these two brothers, she added them on her new FB( i dont know about them) shes the type that if i ignore her long enough shell come around, but what do i do when she does????? I want to be with her, but i want this whole break thing to work. Also, I dont want to reply to short messages she sends, I want her to come running back, or at least say i miss you...and advice on her comment...?
StrugglingS Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Should you really have to ignore her to make her 'come round'? Surely if she wants to be with you, she would be. It sounds like she's pretty mixed up, but I would also say that it sounds like she plays with your emotions on a fairly regular basis. Is that really what you want from a relationship? From the way that message is written I would hazard a guess that you're in your teens, or early 20s at most... From experience I would urge you to make sure that you're with the right person - I wasted 6 years of my life on 2 women that were blatantly wrong for me - Sure hindsight is a wonderful thing, but don't make the same mistake I did. Take a good long look at the state of your relationship as a whole - can you really see it lasting? Does she make you happy? Can you see the relationship hitting 'the next level', assuming that is what you want?
LostInLimbo Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 StrugglingS right, if you have to cut now, cut now, don't repeat the mistakes over and over, it MAY NOT change, not saying it won't.... I went through this 4 times with the same person, I kept going back, thinking she would change, because the caring came on REALLY Strong from her towards me when we first get back together and always seems to slip back to the old S**t again..... Just becareful and don't hurt yourself, keeping in mind, my case scenario involved 2 Kids of my Ex's which made it hard to stay away, because they would be somehow thrown at me during a breakup....knowing that was my weak spot.... Best Wishes... LiL
Rearden Metal Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 She sounds like every other manipulative, childish, bi polar little bit*h that all the rest of us are crying about, too.
GrayClouds Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 STOP, I will say it again, STOP. Stop with the cyber stocking, stop with the facy-facebook, stop the TxT, IM, emails, etc etc etc. Go NC and focus on you, not her.
boogieboy Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 She is manipluating you to keep you around, to make herself get over you faster. She will keep doing this as long as you let her manipulate you. Thats why when you ignore her, she tries to grab your attention, because she sees that you dont need her. You have to ignore her permanently because she will never come back to you. right now i think we need a break n once again not cuz i wanna see any1 else This is common bullshyt line to keep you around just in case the new guys shes with doesnt work out. Dont fall for it. And dont be fooled, she says she isnt with someone else, but she is, right now. She knows if you know that shes with someone else that you will move on. Shes lying and its a damn shame. Trust me, Ive been through it. You wanna believe her, but think about it from her mind. SHe says one thing, but acts another way. No one deletes someone that they might want to get back with from all theor contacts, do they? She also doesnt want you to move on, its a control issue. So forget about her. Dont let her work her crap on you.
Author numbredheart Posted March 30, 2010 Author Posted March 30, 2010 Yea she maybe trying to manipulate me...well its day 1 since that message and im not gonna call her nor answer her calls...o and the realstionship made me happy at time not...we been goin out for 2 and a half years...im just gonna not call her..however i do want her to miss me
vivrantflo Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 she created a new FB account and refuse to add me This is because she's done with you, and doesn't want you knowing anything that's going on in her life anymore. she also has aanother FB that still says In a relationship Don't be flattered.. it's probably because she's already in a relationship with another dude. She won't put up "in a relationship" in reference to you, when she doesn't even have you as a facebook friend! she keeps talking to these two brothers, she added them on her new FB( i dont know about them) That's because one of those brothers is most likely her new man. I want to be with her, but i want this whole break thing to work. I know you want her, but breaks never ever work. Breaks are a prelude to a break up. Its a "Strategy" to ease the pain of a breakup, but in actual fact, it makes things a lot worse. She will only miss you, when you vanish. Trust us on that one ok? She won't rethink things, if you're still in the picture.. Take this time to separate from her emotionally.. let it burn, and just take it one day at a time.
Author numbredheart Posted April 1, 2010 Author Posted April 1, 2010 i just want to thank everyone here whos helped me out...i think shes bi polar cuz now were back together...were going to giordanos tommorow, which is favorite restaurant...any ideas on how i should act????
aussieguy Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 Goodluck mate, i recently went on a 3 week break with my ex. We got back together after she chased me, then 3 weeks later she got rid of me again. If i was you i wouldnt get attached, keep it simple like you would if it was a new girl as it could quite easily be gone in a few weeks. Let her chase you during this period or it wont work.
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