goingoutofmymind Posted January 14, 2004 Posted January 14, 2004 I posted on here some time in October/Nov about how my g/f of 5 years had decided she 'didn't want to be in a relationship anymore'. Well after 2-3 months of developments we are now back together and happier than we've been for a long time. If anyone would like any advice or wants to pick my brains then please do although obviously everyone is different as is nearly every circumstance so what worked for me may not work for you. One thing I would say at this stage, please don't always take the advice of people in this section on this board. I don't mean to offend anyone but at the end of the day most of the people on here have actually FAILED to win their girlfriends back. While maybe we can all learn from their mistakes, some people IMO are often giving out blind advice based on what mood they're in that particular day! No offence meant!
dyermaker Posted January 14, 2004 Posted January 14, 2004 I don't think for the most part people here give blind advice based on their mood. I think sometimes the advice may be difficult to follow, but never is it simply wrong for the sake of screwing with your head.
Hoping Posted January 14, 2004 Posted January 14, 2004 Well, I guess the big question is, What did you do to get her back? We all like success stories. Most importantly, did you use the no-contact rule, or were you two in touch the whole time?
RobertoPNW Posted January 14, 2004 Posted January 14, 2004 Yes, please share your history of events that you think or know brought her back. How did you rekindle the love?
mandrews1119 Posted January 14, 2004 Posted January 14, 2004 Please post your whole story, or at least as much of it as you can. We all (or at least most of us anyway) love to hear happy endings.
monkey Posted January 15, 2004 Posted January 15, 2004 Yeh! Yeh!, tell us all your story, does the answer come in big & small bottles & how much does it cost!!! It's enlightening to hear positive news, like a summer wind after a dark winter!
UCFKevin Posted January 15, 2004 Posted January 15, 2004 Needle in a haystack story. REally hope it works out for you. Pretty damn awesome
ThatAngelGirl Posted January 15, 2004 Posted January 15, 2004 Hopefully things are going so well there's no time to post! Good luck!
mbf5482 Posted January 19, 2004 Posted January 19, 2004 please help me i want my girlfriend back so bad and i would do anything please tell me your story and say what you did i miss her so much
RobertoPNW Posted January 19, 2004 Posted January 19, 2004 Originally posted by mbf5482 please help me i want my girlfriend back so bad and i would do anything please tell me your story and say what you did i miss her so much what is your situation? I miss my ex, I hadn't spoken to her in about 3 weeks. So this week I called her home and left a msg on vm saying I missed her, that's all. She called me back within an hour and said that was very nice of me and thanks. Her tone of voice was exciting, but then she went back to closed. I know she's not ready to talk with me. I'll give it another couple of weeks and try again. I'm being persistent without being a pest.
helpsaraslove Posted January 19, 2004 Posted January 19, 2004 This is my first post... Please enlighten me and the others that are curious about getting their loved ones back. I really would like to know what you did! My boyfriend and I broke up about 3 weeks ago b/c October 2002 I cheated on him and lied about it. We have spent the last year sort of trying to halfass work things out. I don't know where to go from here b/c he says he doesn't want contact anymore. I feel like I've been jipped b/c the last year I was so busy worrying about what each little thing meant that I didn't look at the bigger picture. Now I think I'm driving him crazy and further away. HELP!!!!
werty Posted January 20, 2004 Posted January 20, 2004 where is this person now? is he busy because theryre together, or maybe they broke up the nxt day? hey, wheres your story.. all of us wana know!!!
NEONINK Posted January 20, 2004 Posted January 20, 2004 I guess you could call this thread a tease... We could make up our own stories of what happened... The spell wore off?
fnouri Posted January 20, 2004 Posted January 20, 2004 I am going through a lot of pain, because she has fallen for someone else. What do I do?
heartburn Posted January 20, 2004 Posted January 20, 2004 Let Go. It hurts now, but you get over it. Pray to God for strength.
Author goingoutofmymind Posted January 21, 2004 Author Posted January 21, 2004 it was my birthday and went on a weeks trip to Europe (With the gf) I promise to write my story over the weekend
monkey Posted January 21, 2004 Posted January 21, 2004 I don't understand my gf, she always told me to be positive & never say never! , but she tells me she needs time & that she won't love me in the future, a contradiction i think. How does she know, i am a changing man, i'm doing this for us. She says the love is gone, but when i say the positivity that she always told me to have, she doesn't have this, . She says look to the future & be positive, i am doing! But for us. She wants to be my friend & that i'm important to her, but friends help & are there for each other, we are good friends, i'm not expecting to jump back in bed with her, just to be mates & hang out. So many contradictions. What about the other persons feelings, just cos someone wants this, where's the 50/50 in a relationship!!
dlb311 Posted January 23, 2004 Posted January 23, 2004 I was with my boyfriend for two years we started to move to fast and so we broke things off for about 5 months. Now we are back together and things are going so well. But in the five month break up which was him breakin up with me. (it was very hard) I met a guy. I liked him alot. But after two weeks of talking and hanging out sometimes he started gettting sarcastic and rude. I couldn't tell if he really wanted to be mean or if that was just his sense of humor Well we pretty much ended thing but still talked alot in the internet and texted messages. Then my ex came back and have been working things out. Well I talked to this other guy and he invited me down to teach me an intrument which he promised to teach me. I went and he taught me alot. I had a really good time. And I am still way attracted to him. He didn't make a move but he had friends there. First it was just he and I. Then a friend showed up and he asked him to leave and come back but he wouldn't so he came in I am not sure what his intentions were but he didn't make a move. Then when we were done he asked me to join them for pizza and beer. He insisted he said. So I went. It was fun. I got up to use the restroom and when I came back they were talking about me because this guy said okay stop talking about it. I smiled like what the heck. Then when we got back to his place I said I was out. Because I felt like I was invading in on the boy time. he didn't walk me out or anything. but whatever. Anyone have advice? I love my boyfriend but I am so into this other guy. I know in the end this guy and I wouldn't or I think wouldn't become anything serious because why did it end before I don't know he would say things like I seem clingy but to me for some reason I am not? I didn't get it he would say he didn't like clingy girls. So I assumed he wasn't in to me thinking that in the long run I would be clingy. But I want to see what would happen but don't want to ruin my current relationship? anyone been through this?
lost lamb Posted January 23, 2004 Posted January 23, 2004 dlb311, sounds like you just have to choose one of the men, if you like the other guy, go with him, but if you want things to work out with your bf, you should let go of the "friendship" with this other guy and focus on your current relationship. btw, how did you get back with your bf after the 5 months?
dlb311 Posted January 23, 2004 Posted January 23, 2004 HOW WE GOT BACK TOGETHER IS FOR THE FRIST 4 MONTHS IT WAS REALLY HARD FOR ME WE TAKLED EVER SO OFTEN HE SAID HE WASN'T SURE WHAT HE WOULD WANT IN THE FUTURE. bUT WE WERE SO GOOD TOGETHER IT WAS HARD FOR ME TO THINK HE COULD JUST END IF FOR NO GOOD REASON. WE DIDN'T FIGHT OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT. HE GOT SCARED BECAUSE HE WAS PLANNING ON MOVING IN WITH ME. I GET IT NOW AND I UNDERSTAND IT. BUT WHAT HAPPEN WAS I FINALLY MET SOMEONE WHO TOOK MY MIND OFF OF HIM AND SO I WASN'T CALLING OR E-MAILING HIM SO HE STARTED THINKING MAYBE SHE IS MOVING ON AND REALIZED THAT WAS NOT WHAT HE WANTED AND THOSE ARE HIS WORDS. SO HE CALLED ME UP AND ASKED ME TO HANG OUT WITH HIM AFTER A MONTH OF NO CONTACT. I AGREED WANTING TO KNOW WHAT HE WANTED. HE TOOK ME TO DINNER, BOWLING AND THEN TO A MOVIE. HALF WAY THROUGH THE MOVIE HE GRABED MY HAND AND ITS ALL HISTORY FROM THERE. HE TOLD ME I WAS WHAT HE WANTED AND HE WAS GOING THROUGH CHANGES AND TO TELL YOU THE TRUTH I AM GLAD WE BROKE UP BECAUSE IT GAVE ME TIME TO REALIZE WHAT I WANT AND TO EXPRIENCE SOME THINGS I HADN'T BEFORE THAT I NEEDED TO ON MY OWN. IT WAS GOOD THINGS ARE REALL GOOD FOR US RIGHT NOW THAT IS WHY I CAN'T UNDERSTAND WHY I STILL WANT TO HANG WITH THIS OTHER GUY. BUT I WILL FIGURE IT OUT.
Steve2usa Posted January 24, 2004 Posted January 24, 2004 dlb, I am going through a similar experience myself, My ex has started talking to me again after a month, but has not spoken of getting back together although she admitted she still loves me. I to met someone who took my mind off my ex. She is a great girl who knows my situation with my ex and knows my heart is still confused, yet she stands by me and does'nt pressure me about it, she just listens. From my past experiences, I know that this a a quality that is rare in anybody...male or female. As, I have posted in other threads, there comes a time when you have to choose between your heart and your mind and make a move towards your future. As for your situation, If you truly love your bf, and are happy and want a future with him, then you need to let the other guy go completely. Sooner or later your bf will catch wind on whats going on and I would not be too surprised if he leaves again, and if he does and things go broke on this other guy, will it be worth it. Good luck, I hope this helps you.
jw32802 Posted July 11, 2004 Posted July 11, 2004 going out of my mind Id like to know what happened!
Kevin Kristopher Posted July 11, 2004 Posted July 11, 2004 I decided to do the No Contact thing 2 weeks ago so it has been 2 weeks since i have talked to my ex-girlfriend. The only thing i am worried about is the timing of the no contact. Me and my ex-gf both go to arizona state university an she lives in northern cali and i live in southern cali so now its summer and i decided to do the no contact thing when summer came along because then i wouldn't be able to see her which would make it a lot easier for me but now now i think it is making it really easy for her to get over me also so now i am thinking if it was a good idea becuz i know she talks to some guy on the phone a lot and actually went to visit him in san diego on her way home to northern cali from arizona. she said nothing happened an he is just a friend but now since she doesn't have me to talk to she can easily just talk to him and me thinking about that makes me feel real sh*tty, so could i get some advice on what i should do. should i keep the no contact thing going, i dunno what i should do, help pleeeeeez!!!!
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