sigurpol Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 So, as I wrote before, I'm on and off with dating sites. But just recently got on a free one, after one of my friends had some success with it. I did a quick search, and found this girl's profile and read through it. She listed a ton of things that I enjoy talking about, so I messaged her and complimented on her taste. I added in the note that I know she's far away from my location, but I just wanted to mention it. She replies back with it's only a few hours away from her, and writes a nice reply back. For the next week, we write back, asking each other questions until she catches me and instant messages me on there. After a bit, tells me to go on AIM and add her on facebook. We're flirting most of the time. We talked about traveling and joked that were gonna travel a bunch of places together, and she chimes in saying that she wishes I was a little closer cause she would want to get to together right now. I mentioned that I've gone out near her area before, for sporting events, and she said we should go together sometime. So obviously, I'm a little excited about this.. I mean, it's neat and refreshing to me. I've done LDR's before, and they got messed up but not because of distance. I know I'm getting ahead of myself, but I'd really like to make the few hour drive trip and see her. Then again, I don't know where I would stay.. I don't just wanna be like, "yea, I'm coming out there, so make room in your bed for me". She said tonight that we should meet sometime, so that's a pretty big green light. I just don't want to come off as too pushy. I'd at least want to do a number exchange and chat on the phone a few times before suggesting that I should come out there. Yea? No?
Pyro Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Not pushy at all to want to talk to her over the phone. Its a much better indication of who she is versus just IM. As far as the lodging goes, never assume that she will invite you to stay with her. Reserve a hotel/motel room ahead of time and if you two hit things off and she invites you to stay, you can always call to cancel your reservations. Good luck.
Author sigurpol Posted March 30, 2010 Author Posted March 30, 2010 Exactly. Obviously, I'd want to talk over the phone for a bit. I was afraid that would be pushy, but we've already mentioned about meeting up (at least, spoke about it briefly). Good idea, though, about the reservations. This is something I would like to look into. Danke!
Pyro Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Bitte I would think she would want to talk over the phone as well before meeting. That would be weird to me to meet someone before hearing their voice.
JustJoe Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Sig, as a rule, I'm not a big fan of LDR's Few seem to end well. I would think that before you talked to, and met this girl, you had better be sure that you can deal with it. If it stays light and loose, OK, but if it becomes a real relationship, what then? My best advice is to find a local girl to have a relationship with, and avoid all of the issues involved in an LDR.
Author sigurpol Posted March 30, 2010 Author Posted March 30, 2010 Sig, as a rule, I'm not a big fan of LDR's Few seem to end well. I would think that before you talked to, and met this girl, you had better be sure that you can deal with it. If it stays light and loose, OK, but if it becomes a real relationship, what then? My best advice is to find a local girl to have a relationship with, and avoid all of the issues involved in an LDR. No, I hear ya. I mean, they're different and are handled different from closer relationships. Like I said, I was one myself for about 3-4 years, and it was probably the most functional relationship I had... oddly enough. The distance never became a problem.. a big problem at least. But that's not what ended it, it ended on other terms. After it ended, I kinda told myself it's better to meet someone closer, or in town. Problem is, every person I've gotten to know and worked towards a relationship has ended rather poorly. So part of me is sorta curious again to see where THIS might end up. Then again, I don't think shes looking for something to progress at the moment. I mean we JUST started talking, so, ya know... I doubt thats something that crosses her mind. I'm sure it's more, "IF he lived closer". Either way, I know exactly where you're coming from, and I'm not dismissing your advice. It's sound, we both know that from experience, haha. But I'm curious enough to talk some more, do the phone thing, and maybe even go down there. Just to... see.
Author sigurpol Posted March 31, 2010 Author Posted March 31, 2010 I'd like to use this thread as a check point/follow up thingy. So pay no mind to little updates like this, haha. Spoke today for a little online.. since we've taken this thing to online messaging, I feel like I start a lot of the conversations which bothers me sometimes. I don't want to be obnoxious. Anyway, I said I had to jet, and before I left I suggested we talk over the phone sometime. So she said, "we can work that out!" and gave me her number. So far, so good, I guess!
aerogurl87 Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 Ahh so she's agreed to talk on the phone, that's good. This is progress.
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