Perhaps Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 For the past few weeks, I've been doing alright but I'm starting to feel down again because of some songs I listened to. Bleh. I've been trying to rationalize that we broke up because we'd argue a lot. What I'm trying to understand is how can one love another person even though they're not compatible? It's messing with my head... every time I think I'm getting better, I slip. And I realize that I'm doing my best to move forward.. but it feels like I'm forcing myself to look forward even though my heart just wants to sit here, listen to slow songs and think of her and be a hopeless romantic. But I can't sit here and mope because it's been months and my friends and family are tired of listening to my stories. I just can't find that personal peace. I constantly catch myself trying to figure out what went wrong.. why it had to happen, what led to it, how it happened.. blah blah blah. I seriously cannot focus on school. I don't know if this is normal because I'd feel a lot better moving on in a way where I don't have to hide from certain songs or I don't have to force myself to stay busy. I want to be able to lie down or walk quietly without having music in my ears to keep from thinking of stupidity. I want to be able to think of the past and not have it suck me into a depression. I wonder how long I have to keep running from it... Have any of you felt this way? Any suggestions?
skydiveaddict Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 You're feelings are normal .. It's just part of the healing process we all go through. Hang tough my friend, you will make it
Author Perhaps Posted March 30, 2010 Author Posted March 30, 2010 Thanks, skydiveaddict, but (and I know this'll sound a bit naive)... how long can I expect to go through this? Some people tell me it may take someone new to replace it... which makes me wonder if I'll ever get over it by myself. I don't want to replace the pain; i want it to heal =\
MrsPeaSoup Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 I don't want to replace the pain; i want it to heal =\ That's really good of you to say that, you know. Everyone I talked with said it is absolutely NO good to replace your pain with someone else. I can only tell you what a friend of mine did, maybe it'll help: After mourning his ex for a year he decided it was really time to move on and he did some kind of ritual: He burned all of the little things he had kept that belonged to her (notes, ring, etc) and scattered the ashes in the ocean where they allways went together. Now, a month later I see my friend is doing much better. You know why? Because he has made peace with himself.
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