Happytobe Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 I am a 52 yr old male. I would like the input from other men regarding the level of attractiveness that they felt/feel for their woman. I have had long term relationships with women that I thought were attractive, but not really attractive to me. I have also had a relationship with a woman that I thought was REALLY attractive to me. Although I eventually ended my relationship with the CRAZY attractive woman because she was CRAZY (LOL). Therefore I clearly understand that attractiveness is only one aspect of personal compatibility. In my relationship since my broken relationship with the crazy attractive woman, I must admit that my mind is still with the attractive woman during intimacy. Other people have advised me that I should not settle for a relationship with anything less than what I really want (crazy attractive), but my own thoughts are that no relationship is perfect, and no one is perfect, and at my age, it many not even be possible or realistic to hope to find a crazy attractive woman again. Being a realistic person, I have basically resigned myself, to NOT finding a crazy attractive woman who loves me for me. My life will be changing alot this year with a geographical move, and more time to do what I want to do. I have resolved to making myself the best, healthiest, happiest person I can be. If the right person comes along, great, and if not, I am ok with that. On the sexual level, have other men had a great satisfying sex life with a woman that they are not really attracted to? I hear other people say that they fall in love with a person, and that they then become more attracted to that person. In all honesty though, I think most men are very visual, and I really dont know if I believe that I will become more sexually attracted to a woman.
CarrieT Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 At 52 years of age, why be so picky? I'm 46 and I am no longer hoping for Gabriel Byrne. Attractive is relative but a good relationship is worth far more...
IfWishesWereHorses Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Being a realistic person, I have basically resigned myself, to NOT finding a crazy attractive woman who loves me for me. Oh the irony!
Author Happytobe Posted March 30, 2010 Author Posted March 30, 2010 Couple of clarifications: Crazy attractive to me does not necessarily mean crazy attractive like a model, or twenty years younger than me. When I was with my crazy attractive GF, I ran into a co-worker. After we broke up, I asked my co-worker her opinion of my ex-GF. Her main opinion was that my EX-GF was NOT very attractive (and I had not mentioned anything to my coworker about my opinion). So what is crazy attractive to me is not necessarily what other think is attractive. Secondly I expect any woman that I am with to be in NO better condition than I am. I stay very fit, with regular cardio and weight work.
norajane Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 It doesn't matter what you plan or "resign" yourself to. When you're with the right woman, you'll know. Because all the elements will feel right, regardless of what balance of attractiveness/laughter/charm/etc. that particular person holds for you. The truth is, we don't fall in love with someone's particular characteristics. We fall in love with how someone makes us feel about ourselves.
Joe Normal Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 On the sexual level, have other men had a great satisfying sex life with a woman that they are not really attracted to? Yes - one of the best women in bed that I slept with was quite ugly. Sexual compatibility is what determines how good the sex life is, not looks. I've found that how much they are attracted to you is also very important. If you think they are super hot, but they think you are so so (nice guy, but don't make their panties wet), then the sex will probably suck, at least after the honeymoon period wears off. As a guy, I find that I get much more turned on if I can tell the woman really wants me like crazy, and is getting really excited - that has much more effect than if she is a supermodel but lying there like a dead fish.
skydiveaddict Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 I am a 52 yr old male. I would like the input from other men regarding the level of attractiveness that they felt/feel for their woman. NEVER settle for someone you dont want
Brightmoon Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 It doesn't matter what you plan or "resign" yourself to. When you're with the right woman, you'll know. Because all the elements will feel right, regardless of what balance of attractiveness/laughter/charm/etc. that particular person holds for you. The truth is, we don't fall in love with someone's particular characteristics. We fall in love with how someone makes us feel about ourselves. That is so true... so true..
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