How do you deal with rude, stuck-up, stand-off-ish or hostile girls?

[LucreziaBorgia]

You could say after the shutdown ...

 

"Somebody told me there would be a lot of good looking women here tonight. I was wondering if you girls had seen any. (shocked expressions) No? Ok, later." And then walk away before they can say anything.

 

You don't have anything to lose by that time. If they think you are a jerk, so much the better. Who cares at that point?

[Els]

Why would you even WANT them to warm back up to you? Ignoring says everything that you don't need to. Any comebacks just make you sound childish and upset.

[ADF]

Let's be honest here: men are rarely "just being friendly." Men almost never go out of their way to befriend women unless they are attracted to them. Almost never. Women know this, and have their defense up. I don;t what you mean by "stuck up." Frankly, many guys I know will call any woman who rejects their advances "stuck up." It's like they think women owe it to them to act interested. They don't.

[boogieboy]

So HOW do you do that? That's what I'm asking.

 

Ive told you before, look up PUA sites. They give you scenarios on how to deal with these type of women. Do some research!

[sally4sara]

Hmmm, dunno about the girl the OP is talking about, but I never went to the club with interest in picking anyone up or being picked up. I went to hang with friends and dance. Have a few drinks. If a guy approached me I would begin with politely saying no if he wasn't being slimy about it.

 

Not respecting my voiced preference or being slimy about the approach did usually get a hostile reaction out of me.

 

What happened most often would be some guy trying to push up on me on the dance floor - not actual dancing - but an attempt to grind up on me as though I would welcome some stranger doing that. That gets you an elbow to the head.

[sally4sara]

The best thing to do is just size up a chick's defaults before you meet her. Examples:

 

1. You see a sexy chick with nice boobs, but no ass. You make your move but she shuts it down. You say, "Whatever. I'm only doing you a favor. You have no ass. That's so gross."

 

2. You see a chick with a cute face but no curves, a stick-figure. After she shuts you down say, "That's all right. I've seen more curves on a telephone!"

 

3. You see a chick with a nice ass. She shuts you down. You say, "Your butts too big and ugly!"

 

Remember, everytime you see a woman, always take in her defects. If you get rejected then talk trash about her looks. She'll try to act like it doesn't hurt, but it'll crush her inside. That's a fact.

 

Seriously?!? That is so childish!

I've had a few guys get all cranky like that. It sounds so hollow trying to insult someone's appearance when you obviously found them attractive enough to try to approach.

And trust, it never made me feel bad in anyway. It usually got a laugh at how foot stomping and pouty the guy seemed by doing it.

I hate to burst your fragile little bubble, but why would anyone care what ego salve a guy you want nothing to do with uses to medicate himself over the rejection? As long as it gets him to get away from my air, its whatever.

[JustJoe]

Dude, What you have to understand is the these types of women are usually the most insecure. Most women with any kind of class at all, will be at least polite, the rude "stuck-up", ones are usually losers.

[Silver_star]

I considered the possibility that u were just trolling..Cause I have seen this thread before by the same poster...actually a few times.

 

It doesnt seem to be working our for you anyways...you are still as insecure and angry at women who reject you as you started out. So...why not just take a hiatus from the club for a while there hot shot? Maybe you need to work on yourself instead of trying to assert your superiority you think your entitled to...or is it eqaulity. Im willing to bet that if an unatttractive woman appraoached u in the club and said "nice shades" youd walk away too. Your superficial, and your a hypocrit. Why would i want to encourage that? im so sick of seeing this same post from you every time. Its pathetic. Cut it out. That is all.

[silic0ntoad]

lol Dude, you are ridiculous.

 

Do like Silic0n and say "Why do you have to be such a rude stuck up b*tch?"

 

And then casually walk away.

[boogieboy]

Seriously?!? That is so childish!

I've had a few guys get all cranky like that. It sounds so hollow trying to insult someone's appearance when you obviously found them attractive enough to try to approach.

And trust, it never made me feel bad in anyway. It usually got a laugh at how foot stomping and pouty the guy seemed by doing it.

I hate to burst your fragile little bubble, but why would anyone care what ego salve a guy you want nothing to do with uses to medicate himself over the rejection? As long as it gets him to get away from my air, its whatever.

 

Youre normal.

Youre not the type of woman this would work on, you wouldnt understand the mentality.

[blind_otter]

I asked this before but didn't get a lot of feed back. If you're genuinely just trying to be friendly and meet a girl (you're not "hollering" at her' date=' cat-calling her or otherwise harassing her) but she either being stand-off-ish, stonewalling you completely, or being rude and hostile, what's the best way to respond? What can a guy do or say that's not either weak nor reactive?[/quote']

 

Leave her alone.

 

This is not only not weak and not reactive, it is also not creepy and offensively stalkerish.

[sally4sara]

Youre normal.

Youre not the type of woman this would work on, you wouldnt understand the mentality.

 

And so capitalizing on the sensitivity or insecurity some people have should be part of how one operates? We NEED more advise like this in the world?

 

Find folks who already have torments and torment them about it, it will make you so cool when it works.

[boogieboy]

And so capitalizing on the sensitivity or insecurity some people have should be part of how one operates? We NEED more advise like this in the world?

 

Find folks who already have torments and torment them about it, it will make you so cool when it works.

 

Hey some women in the clubs are just immature. They get trained to be this way from the guys they meet in clubs. Its going to keep happening forever. Those who know how to deal with it can win. Has nothing to do with insecurity or sensitivity.

[blind_otter]

Hey some women in the clubs are just immature. They get trained to be this way from the guys they meet in clubs. Its going to keep happening forever. Those who know how to deal with it can win. Has nothing to do with insecurity or sensitivity.

 

............win what?

[Engadget]

Defense mechanisms, but I have no patience for stuck up. I do love assertive and just a tad bitchy, it's like a magnet for me.

[Rearden Metal]

I like this Hot Mess broad. She's standing toe to toe with dudes to make sure they don't flinch.

 

I mean, who really cares if you're shot down? Smile, say "Have a great night", chuckle, move on. She just did you a favor, anyway.

[Rearden Metal]

Leave her alone.

 

This is not only not weak and not reactive, it is also not creepy and offensively stalkerish.

 

Seriously. Rude people in general are best met with indifference. Move on. Nothing to see here.

 

Now, if they're being obnoxious and rude.... loudly causing a scene... Well, I'm not averse to cutting someone down in that situation.

[Lights]

Hmmm, dunno about the girl the OP is talking about, but I never went to the club with interest in picking anyone up or being picked up. I went to hang with friends and dance. Have a few drinks.

 

Where do women go when they have the specific intention of picking someone up or getting picked up?

 

I often hear people say "___ is not a social location" or "People go to ____ in order to do ____, not in order to socialize", but no one is ever able to coherently and finally state once and for all what IS a location type where pickup attempts are specifically welcome.

Edited March 30, 2010 by Lights

[Silver_star]

Where do women go when they have the specific intention of picking someone up or getting picked up?

 

 

If they go out and have that specific intention. It doesnt really matter where she goes does it? Most would go to a social gathering. Party, a festival, a concert, a house party, a cruise ship. Does it matter? You wont know if shes specifically looking to pick some guy up until it happens..and she will likely be more assertive and responsive to come ons.

[Lights]

I've told you this already. It helps separate the men from the boys. I wouldn't touch a guy who couldn't cop some flack and turn it around on me.

 

So why are you so averse to helping men separate the girls from the women by teaching said men how to inflict similar "flack" upon the females?

Edited March 30, 2010 by Lights

[Lights]

Now, if they're being obnoxious and rude.... loudly causing a scene... Well, I'm not averse to cutting someone down in that situation.

 

What methods are good for cutting people down in these situations?

[Lights]

Why would you even WANT them to warm back up to you? Ignoring says everything that you don't need to. Any comebacks just make you sound childish and upset.

I don't think the point is to make them warm back up to one. It's more likely to teach them that there's a painful negative consequence for rudeness or disrespect.

[Woggle]

I remember one time a woman accused me of trying to harrass her when I barely noticed she was even there. I told her not to flatter herself and can she please move out of the way while I order my drink. This seemed to geuinely get to her that I truly was not interested in her.

[alphamale]

What can a guy do or say that's not either weak nor reactive?

he can walk away

[Lights]

he can walk away

 

How isn't that weak and/or reactive?