How do you deal with rude, stuck-up, stand-off-ish or hostile girls?

[Don'tWannabeAWannabe]

I asked this before but didn't get a lot of feed back. If you're genuinely just trying to be friendly and meet a girl (you're not "hollering" at her, cat-calling her or otherwise harassing her) but she either being stand-off-ish, stonewalling you completely, or being rude and hostile, what's the best way to respond? What can a guy do or say that's not either weak nor reactive?

[Rhythmic]

You don't deal with them.

[confused and broken]

Girls like it when they get attention

So deal with them by not giving them any more attention, and pretending they don't exist

Find ones that deserve your attention

[Don'tWannabeAWannabe]

Girls like it when they get attention

So deal with them by not giving them any more attention, and pretending they don't exist

Find ones that deserve your attention

 

Yeah, but on the occasions I have run into a girl that was just ignoring me or being rude or hostile, I felt like walking away without saying anything made them feel superior. Is there anything I can do or say that would either make them reconsider warm up to me, make them feel guilty for being rude or to take them down a peg or two?

[confused and broken]

Yeah' date=' but on the occasions I have run into a girl that was just ignoring me or being rude or hostile, I felt like walking away without saying anything made them feel superior. Is there anything I can do or say that would either make them reconsider warm up to me, make them feel guilty for being rude or to take them down a peg or two?[/quote']

Give a very specific example of an exchange

[Kamille]

Yeah' date=' but on the occasions I have run into a girl that was just ignoring me or being rude or hostile, I felt like walking away without saying anything made them feel superior. Is there anything I can do or say that would either make them reconsider warm up to me, make them feel guilty for being rude or to take them down a peg or two?[/quote']

 

No, there's nothing you can say. Besides, it isn't a contest. As said above, don't waste your time with rude people. You have nothing to prove to them.

[Don'tWannabeAWannabe]

Give a very specific example of an exchange

 

Alright, once I way at a club, and there was a girl wearing sunglasses. I got up to the girl and said "Hey, I like the shades." She then looked at me, I think (I couldn't tell through the sunglasses) and looked away. I wondered if she heard me or knew who said it, so I said, "Hey, I said I like the shades" a bit louder again, but she just looked back and walked away.

 

Another time, there were 2 girls sitting at a table, and they were sharing one of those giant martinis; the kind that are the size of a salad bowl. I got up and said, "Oh wow... that looks... like SO much fun! What is that?" And one of the girls just said, "No thank you?" I replied, "No thank you what? I just want to know what that is and how you got it?" but the girl just yelled, "We're not interested!" I couldn't believe it.

 

There were a few other instances like that in my life. Each time, I just walked away, but each time I did, I just felt humiliated and embarrassed. How do you respond to that?

[confused and broken]

Alright, once I way at a club, and there was a girl wearing sunglasses. I got up to the girl and said "Hey, I like the shades." She then looked at me, I think (I couldn't tell through the sunglasses) and looked away. I wondered if she heard me or knew who said it, so I said, "Hey, I said I like the shades" a bit louder again, but she just looked back and walked away.

 

Another time, there were 2 girls sitting at a table, and they were sharing one of those giant martinis; the kind that are the size of a salad bowl. I got up and said, "Oh wow... that looks... like SO much fun! What is that?" And one of the girls just said, "No thank you?" I replied, "No thank you what? I just want to know what that is and how you got it?" but the girl just yelled, "We're not interested!" I couldn't believe it.

 

There were a few other instances like that in my life. Each time, I just walked away, but each time I did, I just felt humiliated and embarrassed. How do you respond to that?

Sorry-

thought I might be able to help, but that's harsh-- no idea

I don't think I would want to deal with them if I were you

[Don'tWannabeAWannabe]

I already gave you a response to this. You chose to ignore me because I am one of "those" girls, however don't you think that being one of them, I would be the one best able to answer your question?!

 

I said it before and I'll say it again - the best response is a humourous one. Or better yet - stop trying to punch above your weight and leave the glamours alone.

 

Okay, well, what are some humorous responses? What if you can't think of something funny to say because you're shell-shocked and dumbfounded at the moment over how rude some people can be?

[Chicago_Guy]

Alright, once I way at a club, and there was a girl wearing sunglasses. I got up to the girl and said "Hey, I like the shades." She then looked at me, I think (I couldn't tell through the sunglasses) and looked away. I wondered if she heard me or knew who said it, so I said, "Hey, I said I like the shades" a bit louder again, but she just looked back and walked away.

 

Another time, there were 2 girls sitting at a table, and they were sharing one of those giant martinis; the kind that are the size of a salad bowl. I got up and said, "Oh wow... that looks... like SO much fun! What is that?" And one of the girls just said, "No thank you?" I replied, "No thank you what? I just want to know what that is and how you got it?" but the girl just yelled, "We're not interested!" I couldn't believe it.

 

There were a few other instances like that in my life. Each time, I just walked away, but each time I did, I just felt humiliated and embarrassed. How do you respond to that?

 

Those women were obviously not interested in you and seem to be stuck-up. I don't think there's a whole lot you can do if they behave that way toward you. Just ignore them and try to find someone a little more receptive.

[St. Nick]

Alright, once I way at a club, and there was a girl wearing sunglasses. I got up to the girl and said "Hey, I like the shades." She then looked at me, I think (I couldn't tell through the sunglasses) and looked away. I wondered if she heard me or knew who said it, so I said, "Hey, I said I like the shades" a bit louder again, but she just looked back and walked away.

 

Another time, there were 2 girls sitting at a table, and they were sharing one of those giant martinis; the kind that are the size of a salad bowl. I got up and said, "Oh wow... that looks... like SO much fun! What is that?" And one of the girls just said, "No thank you?" I replied, "No thank you what? I just want to know what that is and how you got it?" but the girl just yelled, "We're not interested!" I couldn't believe it.

 

There were a few other instances like that in my life. Each time, I just walked away, but each time I did, I just felt humiliated and embarrassed. How do you respond to that?

The best thing to do is just size up a chick's defaults before you meet her. Examples:

 

1. You see a sexy chick with nice boobs, but no ass. You make your move but she shuts it down. You say, "Whatever. I'm only doing you a favor. You have no ass. That's so gross."

 

2. You see a chick with a cute face but no curves, a stick-figure. After she shuts you down say, "That's all right. I've seen more curves on a telephone!"

 

3. You see a chick with a nice ass. She shuts you down. You say, "Your butts too big and ugly!"

 

Remember, everytime you see a woman, always take in her defects. If you get rejected then talk trash about her looks. She'll try to act like it doesn't hurt, but it'll crush her inside. That's a fact.

[Don'tWannabeAWannabe]

OMG you need to grow a pair. If you're "shocked and dumbfounded" because a woman rejects you at a bar then you have more problems than a lack of wit.

 

Obviously the random approach pick up method is not working out for you. Go online with the other aspies.

 

Are you gonna help out? I don't understand what I did or said to deserve that.

 

Here's another question. Why do so many young women (like you yourself admitted) feel the need to act this way? What is there to gain? What does that do for you?

[TouchedByViolet]

I would recommend giving her a face that says "you are such a bitch" and then walking away (this has worked for me great in the past)

or

slap her in the face and ask her where your money is at

[Art_Critic]

No, there's nothing you can say. Besides, it isn't a contest. As said above, don't waste your time with rude people. You have nothing to prove to them.

 

 

Word.......

 

I would recommend giving her a face that says "you are such a bitch" and then walking away (this has worked for me great in the past)

or

slap her in the face and ask her where your money is at

 

Brilliant.. I'll bet you have women crawling over broken glass to get your number..

[tami-chan]

Maybe you should not make comments like that until you can feel the vibe of people around you. There are women who are friendly and inviting and there are women who are outright hostile and full of themselves-you need to be able to differentiate and spot these women.

 

If I was the woman you had commented on about the sunglasses, I would be very polite and say "thank you" and slowly turn my back on you if I am not interested in having a conversation with you, just in case THAT was your opening. What she did was pretend she did not hear you and when you repeated it, you repeated it as if to say, "oh no, you are not going to ignore me" and put her on a defensive. So now, it has become sort of, a power struggle.

 

At any rate, why do you think you need to comment on other people's orders? I think that's a bit tacky.

[Don'tWannabeAWannabe]

I've told you this already. It helps separate the men from the boys. I wouldn't touch a guy who couldn't cop some flack and turn it around on me.

 

So HOW do you do that? That's what I'm asking.

[Chicago_Guy]

The best thing to do is just size up a chick's defaults before you meet her. Examples:

 

1. You see a sexy chick with nice boobs, but no ass. You make your move but she shuts it down. You say, "Whatever. I'm only doing you a favor. You have no ass. That's so gross."

 

2. You see a chick with a cute face but no curves, a stick-figure. After she shuts you down say, "That's all right. I've seen more curves on a telephone!"

 

3. You see a chick with a nice ass. She shuts you down. You say, "Your butts too big and ugly!"

 

Remember, everytime you see a woman, always take in her defects. If you get rejected then talk trash about her looks. She'll try to act like it doesn't hurt, but it'll crush her inside. That's a fact.

 

What's the point of even responding in this manner? If she was a bitch before you talked to her, she'll be an even bigger bitch to the next guy who tries to talk to her.

[Woggle]

:love:

 

It looks like your name could not be more appropriate.

[TouchedByViolet]

Brilliant.. I'll bet you have women crawling over broken glass to get your number..

 

I only want 1

 

and I normally just ignore the rude type of girls. They don't find me very exciting either so it works

[Art_Critic]

I only want 1

 

and I normally just ignore the rude type of girls. They don't find me very exciting either so it works

 

Well your game is going to have to change to get that 1..

Most women can see a if a guy is a chump a mile away..

[tami-chan]

The best thing to do is just size up a chick's defaults before you meet her. Examples:

 

1. You see a sexy chick with nice boobs, but no ass. You make your move but she shuts it down. You say, "Whatever. I'm only doing you a favor. You have no ass. That's so gross."

 

2. You see a chick with a cute face but no curves, a stick-figure. After she shuts you down say, "That's all right. I've seen more curves on a telephone!"

 

3. You see a chick with a nice ass. She shuts you down. You say, "Your butts too big and ugly!"

 

Remember, everytime you see a woman, always take in her defects. If you get rejected then talk trash about her looks. She'll try to act like it doesn't hurt, but it'll crush her inside. That's a fact.

 

LOL...:lmao:! This reminds of some poster who called me ugly (well,indirectly) because he could no longer defend what he was mouthing off on the thread. I was really hurt. As a matter of fact, I am scarred forever.....

 

Yes, OP you should try this!

[Johnny M]

If you greet her and she ignores you, say the following:

 

"Excuse me for being persistent, but I'm only bothering you because I'm a personal injury lawyer and in my professional opinion, what they did to your face is totally against the law!! We should sue your plastic surgeon for all he's worth...In fact, I'd even take your case on a contingency basis!

[Don'tWannabeAWannabe]

Maybe you should not make comments like that until you can feel the vibe of people around you. There are women who are friendly and inviting and there are women who are outright hostile and full of themselves-you need to be able to differentiate and spot these women.

 

If I was the woman you had commented on about the sunglasses, I would be very polite and say "thank you" and slowly turn my back on you if I am not interested in having a conversation with you, just in case THAT was your opening. What she did was pretend she did not hear you and when you repeated it, you repeated it as if to say, "oh no, you are not going to ignore me" and put her on a defensive. So now, it has become sort of, a power struggle.

 

At any rate, why do you think you need to comment on other people's orders? I think that's a bit tacky.

 

Because according to Flaming Disaster (AKA "Hot Mess") that's how a guy is supposed to respond (there, is THAT what you're talking about, miss Smoldering Rubble Heap?)

[St. Nick]

What's the point of even responding in this manner? If she was a bitch before you talked to her, she'll be an even bigger bitch to the next guy who tries to talk to her.

A bitch is a bitch. There isn't such a thing as a bigger bitch or a smaller bitch.

 

If you compliment her then it gases up her head and she gets an uppity attitude. So the best thing to do is cut her down to size. Nobody needs to get an uppity attitude merely cuz of looks.

 

Besides, I don't care if she's a bitch to the next cuz of me. That's his problem.

[TheBigQuestion]

It's simple. Either ignore these people, don't let them get under your skin, or say something that knocks them down a peg. Anything that pokes fun at any of the typical female insecurities usually works. You can also respond with humor, as Hot Mess suggests, and turn it into a bit of a game. The truth is, a lot of women, for whatever reasons, are going to end up with a standoff-ish and rough exterior. A lot of them are just reacting to being hit on way too much in their lives. It doesn't indicate that they're a bad (or good) person, it's simply a way of being. I understand the motivations for why women act this way. You don't really seem to be willing to deal with the ones that do put up this front.