bluz73 Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 final words that are still burned in my brain from the night I walked away after a long hug goodbye..."I DONT HATE YOU DONT EVER THINK THAT", "YOU ARE A GREAT WOMAN" "I CANT PREDICT THE FUTURE OF WHAT COULD HAPPEN DOWN THE ROAD" and finally "YOU WEREN'T A WASTE OF MY TIME"...he was so cold but yet so kind..just had to vent that and rid more of him so I can completely heal
paleblue Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 you just keep on writing and venting bluz whenever you feel you need too
LovelyDaze Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 My ex said, "I just feel I gotta do this (marry his new GF)" He repeated it a few times during the conversation without mentioning that he was in love or anything like that. Yet still, he broke NC and kept contacting me for the next 2 months. Very happy and grateful I am no longer in his random world.
Author bluz73 Posted March 30, 2010 Author Posted March 30, 2010 you just keep on writing and venting bluz whenever you feel you need too Im tired of wondering why you said those things to me and then walked away knowing full well I was the girl of your dreams? I mean Im not perfect but you had it made..I am "hot" blonde blue eyed woman(yes woman cause u are now dating a lil teen girl) I can cook, clean like a freaking street sweeper, I am so unconfrontational and easy going full of laughter and love, loved the outdoors, lazy nights just watching movies, NOT A DRUNKIN FOOL, hated the club scene and so did you, Im a typical all around girl next door with a bit of kinkyness in the BR that you loved and was amazed by, but yet you walk away leaving me with these words thinking thats suppossed to help with the pain of now having to change all my plans.Thats okay cause your drug addictions was wearing thin on my mental state and the fact you never had the ballz to move out of your parents home and try to make a good life for us just shows I dont deserve a weak irresponsible man that needed a sugar momma..now your back to square one with this girl making a 18 year old work full time to support your bum ass...Anyway I loved you for many years now I just feel nothing but sorrow for you when your world comes crashing down and you realize what the heck you did..embarrassing me and your family by dating this teen girl and moving her in your parents home after 3 months..humiliating to say the least. Get some morals and standards cause guess what I DID! GOODBYE OLD LOVE!
Perhaps Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 The first one pretty much introduced the word "asphyxiate" into my vocabulary by telling me I asphyxiated her. The second one said too many to recall... not that I want to think of 'em anyway.
MrsPeaSoup Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 "I miss you, but not enough". Another one: "I love you, but I'm not in love with you"
dianna Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Me: So can you please explain to me ...? Him : I GIVE UP I DON'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT a lot of yelling but the I GIVE UP line ..that's what I remember . ......
cdt76 Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 "I don't want to be with you anymore". When I told her I'd do anything to make us right....she rolled her eyes. That hurt the most.
MrsPeaSoup Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 "I don't want to be with you anymore". When I told her I'd do anything to make us right....she rolled her eyes. That hurt the most. Ouch, eye rolling.. yeah I know how cruel that can be! Me: "Why don't you want to let yourself feel in love with me again?" He: "You just know me too well.."
hopeless4u Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 final words that are still burned in my brain from the night I walked away after a long hug goodbye..."I DONT HATE YOU DONT EVER THINK THAT", "YOU ARE A GREAT WOMAN" "I CANT PREDICT THE FUTURE OF WHAT COULD HAPPEN DOWN THE ROAD" and finally "YOU WEREN'T A WASTE OF MY TIME"...he was so cold but yet so kind..just had to vent that and rid more of him so I can completely heal I have so many things going round my head about what he said and how he said them. He told me after DDay #1 that his W held all the ace cards.... History, kids blah... The classic when he rang to tell me his W had OD'd and I asked what he would do if I lost it like that and his answer... The same as what he was doing for his W.... Yeah whatever!! He also said he believed he was in love with both of us and if he could put our qualities into one woman she would be perfect.. Shame he didn't love me enough to help me get through all of this ... I'm still breaking my heart in private, not a day goes by where I don't cry those heartbreaking tears. I still feel empty and I still love him but I really don't like him very much.
9Lives Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 I keep hearing I hate you and we are never getting back together. I hear different parts of his conversation. I still dont understand why it was that serious to be so hurtful.
nobmagnet Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 It still after 7 months rings in my ears. ME "did you use protection" Lowly " no why?" me " how could you?? how could you put my health at risk??" Lowly " but she is a good girl" Me "good girls dont fu*k married men" gutted always will be. I had to get checked out a week after he left on top of our world falling apart. To all of those out there cheating its not just the cheating that hurts its the total lack of respect in health and mind of the one you are cheating on. Ashamed you all should be. In oh so many ways. Nobby xx
cdt76 Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Another one of my favorites: Me: Are you seeing someone else? Her: ......No........ right.
Rearden Metal Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Another one of my favorites: Me: Are you seeing someone else? Her: ......No........ right. LOL exactly. Funniest part is she was MANIC about making sure I wasn't seeing anyone, AFTER THE BREAKUP!!! Only after a bit of this did I realize it was because she was the one seeing other people.
DramaFree Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 (edited) I am cleaning and not coming over.....burned in my brain here was the convo me: You coming over tonight him: I'm a little busy cleaning" I'm not seeing you tonight me: we always get togather on weds nite - were you not going to call me or let me know? him: I told you sometimes I just want to be by myself. Ive told you this over and over. me: mmm you don't seem to have much time for me here lately are you disengaging? This is coming out of nowhere. You would rather clean then see me? (actually calmly) him: Look I am going home to visit in June - (family overseas) me: and what is your point on going home and tonight you told me you were going home and i've knew this all along. What does that have to do with tonight? What are you saying? are you breaking up with me? You dont want to see me? him: I tried to do this in October and you wouldn't let me me: WHAt? Everything has been so good and we had the best valentines ever..why are you doing this???? this is not making sense him: silence me: I don't understand why you are doing this but obvious you were planning this by just distancing yourself. Really cleaning????? why are you hurting me out of the blue - this makes no sense? him: silence me: why did you come over just 5 days ago and spend the night him: you asked me too. me: You know this is what you want you are getting - I would have expected it at least in person. Take care of yourself bye well i broke down called him 3 days later to tell him to not send me the deposit and his response was....I hope you will forgive me I am sorry. There is no one else. Didnt acknowledge what he said --- told him i dont want your deposit dont send to me or I will send it back. Is this a LOSER!!! Im getting to the angry stage as of today Edited March 30, 2010 by DramaFree
cmoney Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 My very first girlfriend. Left me to be with her ex-boyfriend but wanted to be "friends". We had several conversations while breaking up. Been years. #1 Me: What did you expect? Her: I expected some maturity. Me: I do not drive by your house, I do not crank call you, I choose not deal with you period. #2 me: I don't want to be your friend. her: I am friends with all my ex-boyfriends me: well, you will not be with this one. her: just forget about me Me: I don't want to her: It's just going to take some time. Me: fine her: I'm going to pray for you. Me: I don't want nor need your prayers or pity.
jlr Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 This is a good one. Well, we've had a few last words. There was when we actually broke up. I just remember she wanted to go out to dinner. Which, looking back, was ****ty. At dinner she started talking about the relationship, then said "I wasn't going to do this yet (!), but I think we should break up." Then I said, "thanks for taking me out in public for something like this". So we went home, where I cried on the couch and slept there. And she cried in our bedroom. As for memorable words, I remember her calling me when I was getting in my car after moving my stuff out. Tears were streaming down my face. She had called after me out the window but I kept walking. When she called I picked up, and she said "Are you gonna be ok" and I said "I guess, that's not really your problem now, is it?" and hung up. Then of course, we started hanging out again, where I thought we might get back. We had last words then. There might have been a couple "last times" here, as it was rocky. Alot of them she would say really awful cliche **** ("who knows what the future holds," "i hope one day we can be friends," "i care about you, but i can't do this anymore," etc. Most memorable of them was when she met some new dude and we stopped talking. She said "he does things in a few weeks that you never could". Wow. That hurt. I also realize it's bull****, because she lives in fairy tales, but... The LAST time we talked was at the very end of '09. One night, I was having a hard time with it all. And I drank too much. She called me and asked me to meet up with her, and I said I couldn't drive. She asked me if I'd walk somewhere, and I asked her why. I'd done this thing before, and it never led anywhere. When she wouldn't reply as to what this was about, I said fine, I'd meet. She then told me to go **** myself, never to call her, or email her, or text her (she was going to put "don't answer" for my contact, she said, which is hilarious because it's what everyone advised ME to do before) and to "have a nice life." It was really weird. She was really manic and up and down. It was sorta scary. The next day I called her to say I thought it was all sorta dumb, and if I was being dumb, I'm sorry. I told her I wish it wasn't this way, but if that's what she wanted - for me to **** off, and leave her alone - I wouldn't bother her anymore. Then my phone died. It was New Years. She had called back and requested I call her back by 6pm, or "that was it." And that she wanted to "get this out of the way" for the new year? At 6:05 she left a message saying "it's 5 after, and you never called. Have a nice life." Her last words were "have a nice life." Wow. I hate that phrase. It's such bull****.
jlr Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 I'm sorry that was so long, and probably boring. This topic hit me. I think about this stuff alot lately.
ingridh Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 "... she is much younger than you..." "... I am in love with her. I am going to marry her...."
dreamingoftigers Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 ^^^^^^ Sounds like you are much better off. The 6pm ultimatum sounds pretty controlling and BS.
Tamia78 Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 The one I loved made excuses about everything he did so it would be my fault.... Him: "So, do you think we should break up?" Me: "Yeah, I do" Him: "Well, I don't know....." Me: "What don't you know?" Him: "Well, I don't want someone who is verbally abusive..." (that was BS) Me: "Fine, since you think I'm verbally abusive, then you should probably get away from me" Him: " So are you breaking up with me?" Me: "You just said I was verbally abusive.....you should probably not be with someone like that, then" Him: "Well, it's just that you....." Me: "Save the excuses, have a good one" *click* I'm actually proud of the way I handled it. I broke down and cried after all that, and he tried to text 2 days later with no response from me. Yay, me! :-) --T
MrsPeaSoup Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Lol, this one really hurts: "When I look into your eyes I see those wonderfull 2 years we've spend together. I can't look at you because it fills me full of regret that I don't love you any more" Oh boy... tears again
spriggig Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Not on the last day, but during the early begging phase. The words I will never forget: "Maybe when I cared.". Put a real quick end to me making suggestions about our future together. Shredded me like wet mozzarella.
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