LostInLimbo Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 (edited) Just a quick question and I think I know the answer, my ex left me back in January /10 (for the 4th time) (2 times cheated on me)but always took her back (I loved her 2 kids to death, like they were mine but it was unfortunate she never went for custody), anyways I haven't heard from her since Feb /10, in a text message, in which I never replied, as she demanded I do something for her, followed by a TY, never did. I have been NC since the first 2 weeks of our breakup(had a breakdown after 2 weeks she left and textd her) but still NC and continuing to be so, her history everytime she left, would ALWAYS be to text me here and there, but this time is different, she hasn't at all, since Feb/2010 which actually has helped me. Recently of course I was told, she posted pics of her at a bar with another guy and girl/guy, don't know the story behind it (may have been for her Bday in which I never wished her a HBday (March/10), don't want to know the story behind it....still kept/keeping NC....she has mutual friends on her FB (closed my FB after our breakup) and felt she may have done it to get me to react. (don't Know) cause I never did. Cutting to the chase, I have been getting called from Creditors constantly, every week, by a creditor, I had told them several times she had left, I have no contact number (I did but didn't want to give it out) till I said take me off your list, its my house number your calling. I was taken off the list and it started up recently again, with the calls, so I finally had enough and gave the last (new) cell number I had from her, from her last text message 2 months ago to the credit company, as this has been going on for a yr or so and had addressed it when she lived here. My question is, should I feel guilty doing this? with the Creditor Her Daughter has never text me and I understand (as she did last breakup, but found it odd and think Mom had something to do with it, cause of my weakness for the kids) (age 12), I did feel guilty about not sending a Bday wish to her 6 yr old son (should I Have?), but felt the kids didn't needed to be dragged in and out like yoyos or didn't need to hear from me, to mess there heads up. Thanks LiL Edited March 30, 2010 by LostInLimbo
GrayClouds Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Really sorry for your lost. It is sad but it sound you care more about her kids then she does. That said no you should not feel guilty, her debts, her choices and quite sadly, her children is her responsibility. Your doing the right thing, keep NC and keep taking care of yourself. Good Luck.
Author LostInLimbo Posted March 30, 2010 Author Posted March 30, 2010 Thanks GC for taking the time to read my post, I haven't been on much and try to answer others post, but I needed some advice myself.. Thank You Again... P.S. Your right, I cared deeply for her kids, and I know there living in a good place, with there true Dad...
Rearden Metal Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 God that sucks about the kids. I really feel for you... I think keeping NC is probably best. It's painful, but it's necessary in this situation. I would not feel guilty about giving the creditors her phone number. It's her responsibility, and you're actually doing her a favor if she ends up cleaning up her mess.
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