hurtingandconfused Posted January 14, 2004 Posted January 14, 2004 I am thankful for all those who helped me with advice regarding my recent breakup. No we have not gotten back togther. I do not know what the future will bring, however I do have a life to live. It was not my decision whether I still wanted to maintain or try to fix our problems that we had. My ex made that difficult decision and I respect her for being a strong woman. We were too young and we went too fast; she was a wonderful experience and I do not regret what we did or had. I am still in love with her, but nothing that I could do will change her mind. I have accepted the fact that she will never return to me again. She knows that I have my heart open for her, but the reality is that she will not return. I have started to go out with friends to parties...clubs...and we are going down south of the border to party. I would rather be with my ex than to go party, however; I will have to make my life better by accepting the facts and try to have fun on my own. Thanks again for all the advice, especially about sending that letter I wrote. I know that I would have regreted sending it...I am looking for women I could talk to(not to replace the ex-could never be done) or get to know, but it is difficult because all I do is compare them to my ex. I know that I am not ready for a relationship, but I want to make girlfriends'(friendship wise), yet I fear rejection...Hrmm other than drinking...How do you become brave again?=)
SoleMate Posted January 14, 2004 Posted January 14, 2004 Cut way back on the drinkin, it just makes you sleepy and gives you a gut. You'll feel better if you start thinking about things outside yourself. Why don't you go help out homeless men or animals at the Humane Society? Seriously.
advicegirl Posted January 14, 2004 Posted January 14, 2004 I think you should keep meeting new people. Just try and have fun and I know its hard but forget about her. Remember it is her lose. advicegirl
Author hurtingandconfused Posted January 15, 2004 Author Posted January 15, 2004 Actually I have volunteered at the probation department...it will be a benefit for me as well for the people i will try to help. Anyhow, most (not all) people who are homeless are lazy, they dont need help they need self motivation.(that would be a different topic) My point was that it is hard for me to meet new people because I feel a little guilty about meeting new people(eventhough I was dumped)...anyway I could overcome this fear of rejection/guilt/ and being too picky about women??
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