highlyevolved Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 (edited) OK, so basically we've been friends for a year and we'd see each other maybe every 6-8 weeks and usually sleep together. I told him about a month ago that I wanted to take it further. Since then we've been hanging out, going to places, sleeping together etc. I've been really unsure about what exactly he wanted to I asked. This is what he said: "im very interested in u i have been for like a year.. i love spending time with u.. so i wouldnt say testing the waters but when it comes to take it to the next level im sure we will both know" "i think we should keep going how we are atm and see what happens?" "i still find it weird when u say things like "im crazy about you" so thats probably why i can be a bit distant sometimes cause u always made me feel like u were too good for me..". He also said he's a bit scared cause he usually ALWAYS hangs out with his best friend on friday and sat nights. I reassured him that I'm not gonna take him away from his friends. I feel a bit upset cause I'm in fairly deep with the guy, but I'm not sure what to do next. I wanted to be his boyfriend but I guess he needs more time? I don't want to get my heartbroken. He told me he'd never hurt me. What are your thoughts? Edited March 29, 2010 by highlyevolved
melodymatters Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Is he openly gay ? ....... Or did you mean to say " want to be his girlfriend ?" I'm not being mean or judgemental, but can't opine until I know the basic scenario.....
melodymatters Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 BTW, the whole reason I clicked on this thread : what the heck is a D&M ???
marsle85 Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 BTW, the whole reason I clicked on this thread : what the heck is a D&M ??? yes, share!
Enema Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 D&M = Deep and Meaningful conversation. Hard to say based on this whether he's scared, or simply not interested in a relationship. I got nothing - sorry.
Author highlyevolved Posted March 30, 2010 Author Posted March 30, 2010 Openly gay. And he tells me he misses me and stuff so yeah it can get confusing. I just might have to give it time..
Johnny M Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 D&M = Deep and Meaningful conversation. Ohh...I assumed it was dick & manhole.
tami-chan Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Ohh...I assumed it was dick & manhole. !!! I have to admit, while I did not assume the above like Johnny M did, I did think it was something along that line, that my naive little self did not know about......lol..."deep and meaningful, it is! Thank you, enema...
Author highlyevolved Posted March 30, 2010 Author Posted March 30, 2010 Wow, you really don't think he's interested.
alexlakeman Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 How old are you kids? You are his booty call.. lol Do you give him head or just screw?
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 My thoughts? He is happy with things the way they are and doesn't seem too interested in taking it to the next level. but when it comes to take it to the next level im sure we will both know "we will both know" = I am aware you know, but I don't know that I want to and I'm trying to find a way to say it as nicely as possible so that you won't leave think we should keep going how we are atm and see what happens?" I like things the way they are, and don't really intend to change what I'm doing, but I'm throwing a hopeful line in there so you don't walk away i still find it weird when u say things like "im crazy about you" so thats probably why i can be a bit distant sometimes cause u always made me feel like u were too good for me.. When you express how deeply you feel, I get uncomfortable because I don't feel the same way about taking it to the next level but I threw in the 'too good for me' part because I really don't want to hurt your feelings and I don't want you thinking that there is anything wrong with you that is making me be distant - I just don't want that sort of commitment he's a bit scared cause he usually ALWAYS hangs out with his best friend on friday and sat nights he isn't scared, he just doesn't want to interrupt his relationship and status quo with his best friend - saying he is 'scared' is intended to make you feel empathy where you might otherwise feel anger or rejection There is little doubt he likes you, but I don't really see this turning into a deeply committed relationship at this point.
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