GrayTree Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 This is x-posted to "second chances" because I didnt know where it fit best... I dont know if anyone remembers me...but here is my story: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t222577/ Its now been three months since he left me suddenly. Ive been swinging back and forth with emotions. One week is okay, Im smiling again and laughing but this week...Ive just been crying again all the time. I cant handle the fact he might be gone from me forever. I miss him more and more each day. We've had no contact at all. He said he'd be my friend but hes gone to great lengths to avoid me. The only connection we have is friends on facebook. If I go over to a mutual friends house...I know he was there five minutes before I was and he comes back five minutes after I leave. He said I wasnt welcome anymore in a hotel room for an event in May....he hasnt talked to me at all. My birthday passed a few days ago. I was so torn up that he didnt wish me a happy birthday at all that I spent most of it crying my heart out. I heard from a mutual friend that the reason he didnt say happy birthday when she told him to was that "because it would lead to talking to me which would be okay, but then I might want to stay in that hotel room in May with him and our friends and that might lead to sex..." And thats basically all Ive heard from him about me. Is he is afraid of sleeping with me. Ive seen some statuses on facebook that sounded sad from him after I found out he went and read my personal blog online which has been very raw and honest about my pain... Is this all terrible signs that he wont come back? its been three months...and Ive just been waiting everyday. Not contacting him...but being open about my pain online.... I feel like Im drowning again...I miss him so much...and I love him so much. And how it seems he dosent care at all is destroying me completely. That Id die to get a phone call from him and he wont even contact me at all...it kills. Will he come back?
Rearden Metal Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 No, he won't come back. Not as long as YOU are like THIS! Especially if he has access to you via your blog and Facebook. My advice is to block him on FB, and make your blog password protected to allow only your friends access. Only when he misses you completely will he even have the chance to think about whether he wants to see you again. And you, in the meantime, MUST move on with YOUR life!
Crazy Magnet Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 Sweetie, this man isn't coming back. I believe he has made himself perfectly clear where he stands since he avoids you. I know it hurts, and that sucks. I agree that you need to block him from your FB page and blog. He doesn't need personal access to the train wreck he has caused. It's none of his business anymore, it's your business and your pain. He chose to no longer be a part of you life, so give him what he asked for and take him out of it. He may suddenly wake up and realize the error of his ways, but that doesn't often happen. Besides, who's to say he won't up and "poof" again. No one should be treated the way this guy has treated you.
MrsPeaSoup Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 I'm sorry this had to happen to you It really sucks and it is so unfair this happens to us, to almost everyone! But, remember this: YOU are amazing. You can get through this! You're a strong and beautiful women and you WILL get through this. It may take a long time and you may still cry sometimes, but try to focuss on the remaining happy things in your life. Please, work on yourself: friends and family are really important right now. Let them pamper you, you deserve it! And remember, we on LS are there for you in you darkest hours.
leoine Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 I know how you feel. But hang in there. And I don't think it helps if he can read your blog where I'm assuming you are writing out how you're feeling and all your self doubts about yourself.
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