marsle85 Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 To me, swearing is improvisation for those who don't have the vocabulary to articulate what they're feeling. I don't find it attactive for anyone. Even when I've been out with guys... seemingly perfect gentlemen will say "*****ing this" (joking around) or "****"...etc. I'm turned off. I don't like being talked to like I'm your bar-buddy or casual friend. Even my girl-friends... even in the worst fights, i'll never call my friend a "b!tch" or "assh0le." The most i'll say to one of my friends (guy or girl) is a sarcastic: "you're an ass" - but my intention is to say they're acting silly, not as if they're behaving in a way I don't like/insult them.
Author LittleMissWonder Posted March 30, 2010 Author Posted March 30, 2010 You know I'm just teasing the OP and others. LittleMissWonder, worry less about men in general and worry more about your own needs within a relationship and also, what drives you. Overall, if you swear less it's best, especially within a professional environment. threebyfate, thank you for your advice, but I really am not worried one way or the other. Just curious! I am actually very surprised by all the responses! I didn't know that it bothered so many men. In fact, i assumed that some men would be turned on by it. Thanks everyone for answering
Gruesome Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 It's a big deal to me. I don't care if she curses occasionally, but if I make an honest effort not to curse when talking to her, I expect the same thing. When I'm with my other dude friends, we curse a lot.... But when I'm around women in general I try to tone it down a lot.
Engadget Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Doesn't faze me, people are offended by swears make me laugh.
homersheineken Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 As long as they have a decent vocabulary and know when to use it and when to use swears, I couldn't give a f*** There are better ways to measure intelligence, but if they have to rely on it like a crappy rapper, it will make me think twice about this intellect.
CarrieT Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 I don't like ANYBODY who curses all the time. To me, it shows tremendous ignorance the same way the word "like" is overused. I got into a pretty big fight with my Ex because he and his entire family peppered all of their language with profanity and I found it really distressing and annoying. Once he called me from a yacht, all excited that the dolphins were breaking and cresting the waves and swimming along side the boat; "you should see these f**king dolphins! It is f**king great and so f**king beautiful!" The mere language made a beautiful occurrence ugly.
Norville_Rogers Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 I see it as she is comfortable enough around me as she can say whatever she wants. I know she holds back from saying certain stuff when we're in public. But as soon as we close the door of the car she'll say something like "That ****ing moron." And of course I tend to laugh and agree with her by saying "Can you believe that ****?". So bottom line....no biggie for me.
poodoo Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 My girlfriend is a sweet girl, but she curses nonstop and as much as I hate to say it, it definitely is a turn off. I'm all for well-placed f-bombs and have no problem occasionally using profanity myself, but when my girlfriend starts telling me a pretty normal story about her day and it's littered with f-ing this and that for no apparent reason, I start to tune out.
Author LittleMissWonder Posted March 31, 2010 Author Posted March 31, 2010 Well what about during sex? Don't you guys like it when women talk dirty in bed, or is that just a porno myth
Norville_Rogers Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 Well what about during sex? Don't you guys like it when women talk dirty in bed, or is that just a porno myth Are you kidding??? That's the F***ing BEST!!!
tami-chan Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 Well what about during sex? Don't you guys like it when women talk dirty in bed, or is that just a porno myth But is "dirty talk" the same as cursing and cussing?
cooldudeinberlin Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 depends on how much they do it... if they are regularly doing it along with their brash, classless behavior, its a major turn off... embarrassing actually. there is a time and place for everything... just as long as she knows how to switch roles for the appropriate situation... nothing is sexy as a woman who is confident and socially skilled enough to know when its the right time for being elegant and feminine and when she can throw down on the docks.
Author LittleMissWonder Posted April 1, 2010 Author Posted April 1, 2010 But is "dirty talk" the same as cursing and cussing? It is if there is cursing and cussing involved, isn't it? :-\
carhill Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 My dad used to say people resort to vulgarity and profanity, whether in conflict or in everyday discourse, when they lose the ability or desire to express themselves in a mature and constructive fashion. Upon examination, wrt my own life, I find his analysis to be pretty spot-on. YMMV. AFAIK, he was not talking about 'love-talk', like that between two lovers meant in a loving way, but in general, everyday life. Personally, I don't mind a woman occasionally using profanity and vulgarity but, if it appears to be a primary method of discourse, I do find it a turn-off and will avoid that person. Same goes for a man. Equal treatment
tami-chan Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 It is if there is cursing and cussing involved, isn't it? :-\ i think not...one is a "an order" or 'a request"....the other is at least, telling somebody off, no?
Author LittleMissWonder Posted April 8, 2010 Author Posted April 8, 2010 Cursing is not necessarily telling someone off OR an order. It can be used in many contexts, including humor.
frustr8ed Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 I doesn't bother me, but you can have fun with non profanity too, like... Tea bag cherry camel toe melons fun bags hot sausage in out cream doggie kitty 69 junk tool carpet taco peach meat glazed donut Mary Palm her five sisters ballon knot You see every word is innocent and it's what you project on that word that changes it's meaning. SO QUIT BEING SO JUDGEMENTAL! Afterall it's only letters put together to form a sound.
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 I think there is a difference between coy and outright crass. Most of the guys I know are intrigued by coy, but are put off by outright crass.
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