Marlenas Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 So here is my situation... I Have been dating this guy for about a year now...and we've been living together for 6 monthes and all is swell..i met his family and he met mine we almost have common friends...ect so things can't get aby better we even think seriously about the future .. untill this one girl his ex starts calling him and it looks she wants him back...she's been calling on and off for about a week now and he wouldnt answer he didnt talk to her he recognized her voice and hung up..i asked him to tell her to stop calling and to leave him alone and that he wants nothing to do with her but he didnt do that saying he doesnt want to be mean with people...i am very disturbed by this and i am losing my temper everytime she rings him and we are together ... What should i do??? his ex has a bad reputation and she is crazy she is just ughhhhhh please reply ...to my email! thanks
Bejita463 Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 It doesn't matter what she does. It matters what he does, and what he has done is choose you. Not her. You are getting yourself worked up for no good reason.
Marek Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 Why do you care about this other whore? Are you that insecure that you believe your BF will dump you for his ex? They're called ex's for a reason. Obviously, things went sour, and broken relationships don't mend together again so easily. Quit your worrying unless you get something more concrete than continuous phone calls from his ex.
Jersey Shortie Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 Yes, she is worried what her boyfriend will do with this girl. How do we know? She felt the need to call the ex a whore. Thus trying to make herself feel better then the girl in question. Not saying the girl's behavior is right but I think it's trite to call the girl names.
SomewhatExperienced Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 Don't get bent out of shape because he won't tell her to bugger off. I don't know how that relationship ended, but he may still care for the girl. NOT THAT HE HAS FEELINGS FOR HER, but she was a part of his life and it's not right to completely write that off and demonize someone who was so close to him. None of my ex's could I be straight up mean to now, even though I have no interest in starting anything back up with them. She'll get the message and go away on her own.
sally4sara Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 Whores get paid to have sex; this girl is just triflin. And you blowing up about it makes you look like you consider her a threat to you. If he isn't talking to her or hanging out with her, let him handle it his way. If she doesn't get the hint after a while it is grounds for a harassment action - still his responsibility. But hollering at him and calling her names won't make you look so classy either.
Author Marlenas Posted March 29, 2010 Author Posted March 29, 2010 I just want to clear one thing... first she isnt much of an ex gf ..they actually had an affair ( she was cheating on her bf with my bf now) just for like a week and first two monthes when my bf and i started going out she tried to get back to him ...and he told her he is in a relationship and its serious and that he loves me so she said ":what do u want with this bitch i am better than her ...screw her and stay with me..." thats that ....and she is calling his brother and asking about him and its obvious she doesnt want good..she is after trouble.. i was telling my friend about her and it turned out she kind off has mental problems...she is crazy and obssessed !!! PLease i need an advice what should i do ??? and how should my bf solve this???he is ignoring her calls but thats certainly not going to solve it ....
Author Marlenas Posted March 29, 2010 Author Posted March 29, 2010 I just want to clear one thing... first she isnt much of an ex gf ..they actually had an affair ( she was cheating on her bf with my bf now) just for like a week and first two monthes when my bf and i started going out she tried to get back to him ...and he told her he is in a relationship and its serious and that he loves me so she said ":what do u want with this bitch i am better than her ...screw her and stay with me..." thats that ....and she is calling his brother and asking about him and its obvious she doesnt want good..she is after trouble.. i was telling my friend about her and it turned out she kind off has mental problems...she is crazy and obssessed !!! PLease i need an advice what should i do ??? and how should my bf solve this???he is ignoring her calls but thats certainly not going to solve it ....
TaraMaiden Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 Ditch him. Find someone without complications. He obviously can't - or won't - ditch her, so that's your only option. Unless you'd like a cat-fight - which is neither dignified nor commendable. Also, the fact that he cheated with her, knowing she had a BF....? Hmmmmm...your BF sounds a bit questionable, with regard to boundaries.... Yup. Ditch him. She can have him. you should look for better quality males with less baggage.....
stillafool Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 I just want to clear one thing... first she isnt much of an ex gf ..they actually had an affair ( she was cheating on her bf with my bf now) just for like a week and first two monthes when my bf and i started going out she tried to get back to him ...and he told her he is in a relationship and its serious and that he loves me so she said ":what do u want with this bitch i am better than her ...screw her and stay with me..." thats that ....and she is calling his brother and asking about him and its obvious she doesnt want good..she is after trouble.. i was telling my friend about her and it turned out she kind off has mental problems...she is crazy and obssessed !!! PLease i need an advice what should i do ??? and how should my bf solve this???he is ignoring her calls but thats certainly not going to solve it .... Well apparently you aren't going to be satisfied until you pick up the phone the next time she calls and say to her "Why are you calling my man when he has already told you he is in a serious relationship with me?", "Cease your calling and bounce bitch"! Hang up and go sit by your bf, eat popcorn and watch movies. Right? Just do it and get it over with, but make sure you do it in front of him.
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 If your boyfriend refuses to cut her off, then there really isn't much you can do. She is taking his silence as consent.
confused and broken Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 IMO You have 2 options 1. Continue being worried and somewhat jealous (refusing to trust your BF) and eventually that will eat away at the relationship until it destroys it 2. TRUST your BF let him handle the situation (unless he gives you a reason not to trust him ie cheats) Relationship need to be built on trust if you can't trust him there is no point
aerogurl87 Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 Just let your bf take care of her drama filled self. My boyfriend's ex kept calling him the first month we got together and he just ignored her after he told her he had moved on. I didn't lose any sleep over it.
Author Marlenas Posted March 31, 2010 Author Posted March 31, 2010 thank you all for your replies...and if you want to know what happened...just txt me lol just kidding anyways he answered infront of me ..told her wat she needs to know and just hangup...in a very cool way.. that was it ... she ddnt try calling again i am glad.. thanks all for your replies..
SilkRose Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 I just want to clear one thing... first she isnt much of an ex gf ..they actually had an affair ( she was cheating on her bf with my bf now) just for like a week and first two monthes when my bf and i started going out she tried to get back to him ...and he told her he is in a relationship and its serious and that he loves me so she said ":what do u want with this bitch i am better than her ...screw her and stay with me..." thats that ....and she is calling his brother and asking about him and its obvious she doesnt want good..she is after trouble.. i was telling my friend about her and it turned out she kind off has mental problems...she is crazy and obssessed !!! PLease i need an advice what should i do ??? and how should my bf solve this???he is ignoring her calls but thats certainly not going to solve it .... So your boyfriend helped her to cheat on her ex boyfriend...what does that say about him? Also he seems to want her in his life, he could tell her not call again or change his number, he hasn't, are they facebook friends too? You have to figure out what you want.
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