Dodgers27 Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 Some of you read my post from a few days ago talking about how my gf of 10 and a half months who I loved more than anything broke up with me and decided to date someone else only a week or so after the breakup. I have been extremely broken up over her, and it's killing me. Everything reminds me of her, and life doesn't seem nearly as bright without her. I haven't shown up to more than 2 classes for college since, because I just don't care enough (I missed 2 sessions of all 3 of my classes prior to the breakup) to go. I've been sad and missing her this entire time since February 24, rarely getting mad at her and mostly just missing her. But tonight, I feel angry. How could she do this to me? I treated her like a princess. I did everything for her. That being said, I can't blame her if she fell out of love with me and didn't love me like she use to. I did everything I could to try and stop it, but I couldn't. That's fine. What I am very angry about right now is what's happened post breakup. For one, I'm here just depressed about not being with her, and she's literally acting like it's the best time of her life. She's been almost living at her best friend's house for the last month and a half. The last time I talked to her (well, 2 times ago actually) she ended up telling me that she hasn't felt bad in the slightest since the breakup, and i'm not sure (unless someone who's broken up with you has told you this) you know how bad of a feeling that actually is. It's not that I want her to suffer, but if I'm feeling bad about this it would make me feel like it was actually a hard decision for her to break up with me if she felt a bit of pain afterwards as well. For another thing, she just started dating a friend of her best friend a week after the breakup. Now from what I've seen he's "the most amazing guy in the world" and apparently the most perfect guy for her. She's happier than she's ever been with him. If I felt the way that she did and broke with her like that I would NEVER EVER go out with someone that early just out of respect for the other person. I think a month would be too early. How is that supposed to make me feel? You dump me and then go date some other guy right away? How god dam*ed unhappy was I making you (while still doing everything to please you) the last part that we were together? Could you not even just NOT date this guy even if you thought you liked him just out of respect for me? It is not right and fair to me how she has acted since breaking up with me. I don't expect her to just be single forever and not be happy just to make me happy, but do you have any f*cking sad emotions? Or any consideration for anyone else's feelings? I was in love with you and willing to do anything for you, and you just sh*t all over that and toss me to the side right after like I am NOTHING. You just forget about me like I was someone guy who sat next to you in class but never bothered to learn their name and never remembered the day you left that class. I feel like I deserve much more than that. Too bad she doesn't even care, no matter how much it hurts me.
Macaw Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 I don't want to sound like a prick, but if a month after breakup you still have this much anger within yourself, you probably should seek counseling. You started the topic seeking for advice, then the last paragraph was almost entirely aimed at her. She doesn't deserve you and the new guy won't even last 6 months with her. Some people can be really cruel and superficial and would rather cut themselves in the face than let others know they're feeling down, or regretful. They'd do anything to not show any signs of weakness to anybody. Cut all forms of contact to her if you can. All of them. You can't begin to heal until you forgive yourself and let her go. You did the best you could.
4LOVE Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 I told my boyfriend of 3 years one day that I didnt love him anymore. He thought he had been blindsided. Truth is, nobody ever just BREAKS up. Its something that they have been thinking about for awhile. It just sucks that she had all that time to prepare and you didnt see it coming. Perhaps that is why she is acting this way. Because she got ready for it. Im SURE she feels sad. Shes just not showing it because of self preservation. In my situation. I had 2 months of thinking before I did it. I also let him know several times what was bothering me and he did nothing. Which helped me out even more. Were there any warning signs?? He hasnt spoken to me in 6 months. Good for him. I deserve it. But I do wish that I had never done what I did. It just took me 4 months to realize it. If you ever want her to respect you. Stop talking to her for a few months. Dont bend over and take it up the ass and tell her how hurt you are. That will give her the upper hand and the opportunity to run you over again if she wants. Its sick how much of game playing has to go on with dating... but it does. Sometimes saying nothing, says the most.
Author Dodgers27 Posted March 29, 2010 Author Posted March 29, 2010 I don't want to sound like a prick, but if a month after breakup you still have this much anger within yourself, you probably should seek counseling. You started the topic seeking for advice, then the last paragraph was almost entirely aimed at her. She doesn't deserve you and the new guy won't even last 6 months with her. Some people can be really cruel and superficial and would rather cut themselves in the face than let others know they're feeling down, or regretful. They'd do anything to not show any signs of weakness to anybody. Cut all forms of contact to her if you can. All of them. You can't begin to heal until you forgive yourself and let her go. You did the best you could. This was meant purely as a rant, just to vent out my frustrations as I have nowhere else to do this. I did this instead of writing something on Facebook or Myspace, and I'm sure other people can relate to how I feel about this right now. And this is the most anger I've ever felt during this entire time, and I've never felt close to this angry up until now. I don't need counseling for my anger, because it's usually non-existent. Maybe it would be useful for other things about the breakup, but it would most likely be a waste of money. After thinking about it last night I don't want to talk to her ever again if how I think she feels about me is really how she does think about me. I want to be happy, I just don't know how to go about making myself happy right now. I'm not usually like I was when I posted this last night, I'm much too mellow for that. It's just that everything that has happened since the breakup has been bubbling up and I haven't really let it out, minus some crying the day of the breakup and the day she told me she was dating someone. I'd really like to be able to move on and forget about her, it's just hard to do for me right now. I've been without contact with her since last Sunday, and I haven't felt the urge to talk to her, so that's a good sign I'm guessing anyway. Thank you for the kind words and advice.
Author Dodgers27 Posted March 29, 2010 Author Posted March 29, 2010 I told my boyfriend of 3 years one day that I didnt love him anymore. He thought he had been blindsided. Truth is, nobody ever just BREAKS up. Its something that they have been thinking about for awhile. It just sucks that she had all that time to prepare and you didnt see it coming. Perhaps that is why she is acting this way. Because she got ready for it. Im SURE she feels sad. Shes just not showing it because of self preservation. In my situation. I had 2 months of thinking before I did it. I also let him know several times what was bothering me and he did nothing. Which helped me out even more. Were there any warning signs?? He hasnt spoken to me in 6 months. Good for him. I deserve it. But I do wish that I had never done what I did. It just took me 4 months to realize it. If you ever want her to respect you. Stop talking to her for a few months. Dont bend over and take it up the ass and tell her how hurt you are. That will give her the upper hand and the opportunity to run you over again if she wants. Its sick how much of game playing has to go on with dating... but it does. Sometimes saying nothing, says the most. I felt like something was wrong 2 months before the breakup, and I tried to spice things up by going on more dates and doing more things. I finally told her how I was feeling, and that it seemed like she wasn't interested anymore, and she flat out told me she still loved me more than anything and nothing had changed. She had plenty of opportunity to tell me how she felt at that point, but instead she lied to me and made me think everything was ok just so she could later blindside me like she did. If it wasn't for her reassuring me that nothing was wrong, I don't think I would have taken it as hard.
OndaChin Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Don't pay her stories any attention. I went through the exact thing. When we broke up- ex went out of her way to let me know she had met her "Soul Mate", "The One", "The Most Wonderful Man In the World", etc, etc. She even went as far as to tell me "I meant Sh*t" to her and she has moved on. It hurt me to hear that from her but... After 8 months..... She got her a$$ dumped!! From what I heard, the guy (she was to marry) used her like a bitch and she was so devastated that she needed counseling afterwards. She came looking for me to take her back!! I never answered her messages and just ignored her- like she did me earlier in the year. Can you believe that crap??? What happen to Mr. Soul-Mate?? Like I said- don't read into her B.S.!! Just stop contact with her and leave it alone. I promise you the grass is not "greener" on here side. IT NEVER IS.
Author Dodgers27 Posted March 30, 2010 Author Posted March 30, 2010 Don't pay her stories any attention. I went through the exact thing. When we broke up- ex went out of her way to let me know she had met her "Soul Mate", "The One", "The Most Wonderful Man In the World", etc, etc. She even went as far as to tell me "I meant Sh*t" to her and she has moved on. It hurt me to hear that from her but... After 8 months..... She got her a$$ dumped!! From what I heard, the guy (she was to marry) used her like a bitch and she was so devastated that she needed counseling afterwards. She came looking for me to take her back!! I never answered her messages and just ignored her- like she did me earlier in the year. Can you believe that crap??? What happen to Mr. Soul-Mate?? Like I said- don't read into her B.S.!! Just stop contact with her and leave it alone. I promise you the grass is not "greener" on here side. IT NEVER IS. That story made me smile and laugh, haha. I hope you're right, I just need to forget about her and let her see how it is to get f*cked over like that.
Rearden Metal Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 That story made me smile and laugh, haha. I hope you're right, I just need to forget about her and let her see how it is to get f*cked over like that. My ex jumped into a new relationship super fast, and the last thing she said to me is "I'm happy now, you've ruined my life enough". I'm willing to bet that ends just as badly as ours. Time will tell...
just1guy Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 (edited) I felt like something was wrong 2 months before the breakup, and I tried to spice things up by going on more dates and doing more things. I finally told her how I was feeling, and that it seemed like she wasn't interested anymore, and she flat out told me she still loved me more than anything and nothing had changed. She had plenty of opportunity to tell me how she felt at that point, but instead she lied to me and made me think everything was ok just so she could later blindside me like she did. If it wasn't for her reassuring me that nothing was wrong, I don't think I would have taken it as hard. Man, same thing happened to me (especially with upping the romance with getaways, flowers, dates, etc). Funny how things seemed fine, Thanksgiving at her parent's home, her telling them how we will be planning to get married this year (we'd been ring shopping for a month)..who'd have thought that she would just turn the switch off??? I even asked her 4 days before we broke up if we were ok and if we were starting to grow apart. She told me that everything was fine and there was nothing wrong between us. Then I get the "We need a talk" call and bam, she's done, right before Christmas....two years, down the drain. A month later, she's with someone else... Edited March 30, 2010 by just1guy
Author Dodgers27 Posted March 30, 2010 Author Posted March 30, 2010 Man, same thing happened to me (especially with upping the romance with getaways, flowers, dates, etc). Funny how things seemed fine, Thanksgiving at her parent's home, her telling them how we will be planning to get married this year (we'd been ring shopping for a month)..who'd have thought that she would just turn the switch off??? I even asked her 4 days before we broke up if we were ok and if we were starting to grow apart. She told me that everything was fine and there was nothing wrong between us. Then I get the "We need a talk" call and bam, she's done, right before Christmas....two years, down the drain. A month later, she's with someone else... That's ****ed up, neither of us deserved that ****. I've been thinking about it tonight, and I feel like I know the point where everything turned to ****. There might be 2 nights (one was Christmas, she didn't have a great Christmas and it was my fault), but this night was what may have done the most damage. It was the weekend and her best friend's birthday was a few days before that, so she was having a party. I had hung out with her and her friends before a few times, but they were just different types of people than me. It was most likely going to be a drinking party, and that's not me at all. We went to the park and hung out with a bunch of people for a while, just waiting to go to the party. It was obvious I wasn't having a good time, but I still wanted to go for my gf. She ended up telling me i didnt have to go if I didnt want to, and she would completely understand. After a couple minutes of convincing I agreed and went back to her house and told her I'd pick her up from the party. That was right before the time where things started fizzling a bit, and I'm thinking that THAT was the thing that did it. Despite everything I wish I could have gone back in time and gone to that party and had fun with her friends. One of the reasons she broke up with me I think was to hang out with her friends more, and she knew that me and her friends weren't really compatible, but I really should have tried more and definitely would have if I had known how important it was UGHHHHH.
DramaFree Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 My female perspective is the new guy might be in her party circle of friends and be fun for a while and then she will realize he is not all that. Sounds like you were treating her well. For some folks it's the challenge and they don't realize how good someone was to them. That is what I am hoping my X will think and by then I don't want to be waiting for him..seriously I was sooooooooo good to him and really once that trust is broke I think it's hard to go back to where you once thought you were? Make sense? Don't let her know you even remotely let her think you think her decision was based on those 2 things. That will allow her to justify her decision even more and you don't want that. Bottom line she decided to move on and it might not have been a thing you did. I really think if you back off and she realizes you've moved on out of sight you could hear from her and by then you might not be wanting her back.
DustySaltus Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 This anger that you have is a powerful force. You need to use this to your advantage to better yourself. Hit the gym, reconnect with old friends, get a new hobby and most importantly GO TO CLASS! She seems very vindictive, nasty and classless. These issues won't go away with a new guy. These are issues within herself and they finally manifested. One week later she's with another dude? Either she doesn't know how to process a breakup or she was snooping around for a while. Either way she's not GF material. You just keep being yourself. I promise you that in time you will look back and realize why it just wasn't going to work.
just1guy Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 That's ****ed up, neither of us deserved that ****. I've been thinking about it tonight, and I feel like I know the point where everything turned to ****. There might be 2 nights (one was Christmas, she didn't have a great Christmas and it was my fault), but this night was what may have done the most damage. It was the weekend and her best friend's birthday was a few days before that, so she was having a party. I had hung out with her and her friends before a few times, but they were just different types of people than me. It was most likely going to be a drinking party, and that's not me at all. We went to the park and hung out with a bunch of people for a while, just waiting to go to the party. It was obvious I wasn't having a good time, but I still wanted to go for my gf. She ended up telling me i didnt have to go if I didnt want to, and she would completely understand. After a couple minutes of convincing I agreed and went back to her house and told her I'd pick her up from the party. That was right before the time where things started fizzling a bit, and I'm thinking that THAT was the thing that did it. Despite everything I wish I could have gone back in time and gone to that party and had fun with her friends. One of the reasons she broke up with me I think was to hang out with her friends more, and she knew that me and her friends weren't really compatible, but I really should have tried more and definitely would have if I had known how important it was UGHHHHH. You gotta stop trying to piece it together. I did it the first couple of months and I'lll tell you, it's those regrets that'll eat up your healing process. I've finally accepted the fact that no matter what I could have done, she would've walked away because if she wanted to be with me, then she would've stayed and wanted to work on our relationship. Plus, she would've accepted WHO YOU ARE. If she chooses her friends over you (like mine did also at the end), then as all my friends tell me, "she was never meant to be and DIDN'T DESERVE YOU" But as someone said, the anger is good. I've read what you posted many times and I feel the EXACT same anger as you..probably more so because I felt betrayed by what she did to lead me on and then to f*ck off with some other guy. So you know what, I'm normally a gym rat anyways (been working out for a couple of years), but now I'm using this anger to motivate myself even more cut for the summer. She was not a big fan of the gym (and it was starting to show) and her new guy looks like he could drop some pounds so knowing that I will be in the best shape for the summer while they are looking mediocre is what gets me going. I'm planning a vacation to Hawaii with a couple of friends (where she'd always wanted me to take her) as a reward at the end of the summer.
Author Dodgers27 Posted March 31, 2010 Author Posted March 31, 2010 You gotta stop trying to piece it together. I did it the first couple of months and I'lll tell you, it's those regrets that'll eat up your healing process. I've finally accepted the fact that no matter what I could have done, she would've walked away because if she wanted to be with me, then she would've stayed and wanted to work on our relationship. Plus, she would've accepted WHO YOU ARE. If she chooses her friends over you (like mine did also at the end), then as all my friends tell me, "she was never meant to be and DIDN'T DESERVE YOU" But as someone said, the anger is good. I've read what you posted many times and I feel the EXACT same anger as you..probably more so because I felt betrayed by what she did to lead me on and then to f*ck off with some other guy. So you know what, I'm normally a gym rat anyways (been working out for a couple of years), but now I'm using this anger to motivate myself even more cut for the summer. She was not a big fan of the gym (and it was starting to show) and her new guy looks like he could drop some pounds so knowing that I will be in the best shape for the summer while they are looking mediocre is what gets me going. I'm planning a vacation to Hawaii with a couple of friends (where she'd always wanted me to take her) as a reward at the end of the summer. You're exactly right, I've gotta stop thinking about woulda coulda shoulda and just move on. Any chance of a relationship is long over, and I'm starting to get that. It just sucks because I feel like I've been wronged so badly. Oh well. Yeah, Ive actually been wanting to join the gym for a while now, and whenever I'd say that to her she would be skeptical and say "You want to get this and get that, you're never going to do it because you always say you want to buy so much stuff." That always pissed me the hell off, and I think this or the next paycheck I'll look into joining 24 hour fitness and get into better shape. I told her I would take her to Universal Studios in Florida at the end of the year so we could go to the Harry Potter theme park (both of us love the books and movies...shut up, lol). Instead, I think I'd rather go to Miami in the Winter and visit my friend Kristin who my ex hated because she found a picture of her boobs on my phone from 6 months before I started dating my ex I've always wanted to go there to see her for like a week, and the kind of screw you it would be to my ex would be good incentive to save up for it.
jmaclean Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 (edited) It just sucks because I feel like I've been wronged so badly. You have been wronged badly. Incredibly badly. No-one deserves it. And every time that thought comes into your mind, don't turn it into anger or sadness, but use it to realise why she's basically just trash. You don't need trash. You don't want trash. Trash belongs in the bin. Instead, I think I'd rather go to Miami in the Winter and visit my friend Kristin who my ex hated because she found a picture of her boobs on my phone from 6 months before I started dating my ex I've always wanted to go there to see her for like a week, and the kind of screw you it would be to my ex would be good incentive to save up for it. I have just booked flights to see a friend, call her X, whom my ex was extremely jealous of (X and I had a thing just before me and my ex got together). X and I were best friends for like a year and I stupidly and blindly cut her out of my life for almost 3 years because of my ex. But X phoned me the moment she found out my ex dumped me. Now that's someone who really cares about you - we need to keep these friends in our lives and NC the exes! Also, like you said, it's a brilliant way of having fun, catching up, and ultimately saying "screw you" to your ex. PS I absolutely LOVE OndaChin's story ^. That totally made my day. Edited March 31, 2010 by jmaclean
Author Dodgers27 Posted March 31, 2010 Author Posted March 31, 2010 I was on my Myspace and I decided to check my home page, just because. I see she posted new pictures to a picture album called "baby you changed me..." I really wish I hadn't seen that. I am shaking right now. It angers me to no end that I did everything for her and she just didn't even care at the end, and now she's with some other guy who's apparently making her happier than she's ever been. I f*cking hate life right now. Her mom told me they aren't allowing the new guy in the house, but she's been basically living at her best friends house for a month now, and I think she's been going to this god damn douche bags house doing god knows what. I feel so hurt **** I wish I could even remember who she was.
just1guy Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 (edited) I was on my Myspace and I decided to check my home page, just because. I see she posted new pictures to a picture album called "baby you changed me..." I really wish I hadn't seen that. I am shaking right now. It angers me to no end that I did everything for her and she just didn't even care at the end, and now she's with some other guy who's apparently making her happier than she's ever been. I f*cking hate life right now. Her mom told me they aren't allowing the new guy in the house, but she's been basically living at her best friends house for a month now, and I think she's been going to this god damn douche bags house doing god knows what. I feel so hurt **** I wish I could even remember who she was. Seriously man, you gotta lay off the social sites. Take it one day at a time. I was just as bad as you back in Jan. I still remember what she posted about her new life with her doucher boyfriend and his bastard kids that she's now playing house with, but now I don't feel a thing. That's when I said, "F*CK her and this emo crap. She's not crying over me, so why should I?" (I repeat this to myself when I get a those emo feelings back) When we were together, I was ALWAYS on the sites, so this is definitely a big change for me as I started to visit them less and less. I guess she was the main reason why I visited the sites. Now, I hardly go on the sites, only to read what some friends are doing, and then I log off. You need to also stop talking to her family. Eventhough they probably mean you no harm, they are actually hurting your healing process. My ex had the best parents, and they actually cried when we broke up because they knew she was leaving a great thing. But you know what, I want nothing from her so that means her friends and her family. Join that gym. Start talking to your friend in Miami to give yourself a goal to work for. Start planning your trip to see that theme park. Do what you gotta do, but stop this crazy mess to yourself. I've have made some huge steps towards getting over her by following all the advice on LS, so listen to everyone here. The advice works. Edited April 1, 2010 by just1guy
Author Dodgers27 Posted April 1, 2010 Author Posted April 1, 2010 Seriously man, you gotta lay off the social sites. Take it one day at a time. I was just as bad as you back in Jan. I still remember what she posted about her new life with her doucher boyfriend and his bastard kids that she's now playing house with, but now I don't feel a thing. That's when I said, "F*CK her and this emo crap. She's not crying over me, so why should I?" (I repeat this to myself when I get a those emo feelings back) When we were together, I was ALWAYS on the sites, so this is definitely a big change for me as I started to visit them less and less. I guess she was the main reason why I visited the sites. Now, I hardly go on the sites, only to read what some friends are doing, and then I log off. You need to also stop talking to her family. Eventhough they probably mean you no harm, they are actually hurting your healing process. My ex had the best parents, and they actually cried when we broke up because they knew she was leaving a great thing. But you know what, I want nothing from her so that means her friends and her family. Join that gym. Start talking to your friend in Miami to give yourself a goal to work for. Start planning your trip to see that theme park. Do what you gotta do, but stop this crazy mess to yourself. I've have made some huge steps towards getting over her by following all the advice on LS, so listen to everyone here. The advice works. I only go on Myspace for a baseball group that I post in, and i just went to my home page to see if i had any comments or anything, and I didn't even think i'd ever see actually do anything on there because she's a goddamn facebook/twitter whore. I definitely did not want to see her and what she was doing. I want nothing to do with her anymore, though I still do enjoy talking to her mom every once a while. I really wanted to go to her mom's wedding next year, but that won't be happening now. I honestly don't even want to talk to her anymore, but I still love her. Sounds stupid I know, but it's how it is. I'm doing what I can to take my mind off her, like hanging out with friends more, talking to old friends more, playing video games more, whatever I can basically. It's working for the most part, but today just sucked really badly.
just1guy Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 1. Why aren't you hiding / unfriending / blocking her from those sites? 2a. I can see why you still want to talk to her mom. But do you think that on some level, by staying in contact with her mom, you're trying to stay in their lives and then maybe, just maybe, she'll come around someday because her mom will be on your side? That's wishful thinking and only happens in the movies. Sorry to break it to you. 2b. Do the benefits of talking to her mom outweigh the hurt that you feel when she talks about the ex and her doucher guys? If you're ok with feeling like crap everytime she talks of the ex then go for it. If you're going to keep the communcation lines open with the mom, at least set some rules with her about not talking about the ex.
Author Dodgers27 Posted April 1, 2010 Author Posted April 1, 2010 1. Why aren't you hiding / unfriending / blocking her from those sites? 2a. I can see why you still want to talk to her mom. But do you think that on some level, by staying in contact with her mom, you're trying to stay in their lives and then maybe, just maybe, she'll come around someday because her mom will be on your side? That's wishful thinking and only happens in the movies. Sorry to break it to you. 2b. Do the benefits of talking to her mom outweigh the hurt that you feel when she talks about the ex and her doucher guys? If you're ok with feeling like crap everytime she talks of the ex then go for it. If you're going to keep the communcation lines open with the mom, at least set some rules with her about not talking about the ex. Myspace was the only one I didn't delete her, and it was basically because I thought it wouldn't matter cause she's never on there. That's what I get for assuming. 2a. You may be right, and it may just be me trying to hold onto my ex any way I can. I just really like talking to her though, because she's really nice. Oh well though. 2b. I don't talk to her mom about the new boyfriend, they just told me they didn't want to get close to another boyfriend she has because they got really close to me then she broke up with me and now it's all ****ed up. I told them they should give the guy a chance at least and let him prove that he's a douche, lol. Everyone is telling me it's weird to talk to her still, but idk, it makes me feel better, so I'm not sure what to do.
KewlBum Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 How do you talk to her mom. Like does she call you or do you call her?
Austen Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 Don't pay her stories any attention. I went through the exact thing. When we broke up- ex went out of her way to let me know she had met her "Soul Mate", "The One", "The Most Wonderful Man In the World", etc, etc. She even went as far as to tell me "I meant Sh*t" to her and she has moved on. It hurt me to hear that from her but... After 8 months..... She got her a$$ dumped!! From what I heard, the guy (she was to marry) used her like a bitch and she was so devastated that she needed counseling afterwards. She came looking for me to take her back!! I never answered her messages and just ignored her- like she did me earlier in the year. Can you believe that crap??? What happen to Mr. Soul-Mate?? Like I said- don't read into her B.S.!! Just stop contact with her and leave it alone. I promise you the grass is not "greener" on here side. IT NEVER IS. This story made my night. Thank-you And good for you not taking her dumb ass back!
Author Dodgers27 Posted April 1, 2010 Author Posted April 1, 2010 How do you talk to her mom. Like does she call you or do you call her? We talk on the phone. Some of the talking has been necessary, because I was on their family plan for ATT (glad i made that decision...) and we've been working on getting me off which I finally have been. She really felt like she was my mother in law with how she and her (essentially) husband embraced me.
Author Dodgers27 Posted April 1, 2010 Author Posted April 1, 2010 Oh can I relate to this! I've been trying to move along with my life, until today when I decided to look at my ex's facebook to find out that he is seeing or at least getting very flirty with another girl. It cut me to the core!!! All the emotions I had today brought me back to the day we broke up. I use to feel sad, but now I just have this ball of anger in me! I've never felt this mad before! I wish I had never looked. I treated my ex so well just like you! I did everything for him. When things started to become different, I sat him down and was mature about asking him if something was wrong and if there was anything I could do? I told him that I felt he was distant lately. He told me that everything was fine and nothing was wrong. I let it go, then found myself feeling that same way the next day and asking him again. At first, he says everything is completely fine, then he says that he feels like the spark was gone between us and that he was confused and not sure how he felt about me. He said that he was unhappy with his life and that he needed to be single to work on himself. I was heart broken! And I asked him how long did he feel this way? He told me 2 weeks ago! Seriously the JERK should have talked to me about it then instead of just leading me on like everything was okay. Just 2 weeks later (him claiming that he needed to be single for awhile) was a complete lie. I'm pretty sure he is seeing someone now. I feel hurt & so angry! I've read advice on this board & given advice myself. But for some reason, I've tried to move on without deleted him from my life, but remaining NC. After the facebook discovery today with this new girl, I decided to block hin on facebook & cut out his friends. Like everyone says, why care about someone when they don't care about you? It's true & I need to stop being in denial and accept the fact that he's never coming back. Your story sounds just like mine. Asked her if something was wrong because she felt distant, she said it was all good and still loved me. A month or so later she broke up with me because "I haven't felt the same about you, and it's been like this for a few months. I thought it would change, and it did once, but then it just went back." Freakin bs. Be straight forward with me, doing what she did hurt me more than if she had told me earlier (I would rather have not been with her February 14th if she didn't really love me.)
Author Dodgers27 Posted April 1, 2010 Author Posted April 1, 2010 I was debating sending back a jacket she gave me (it was one of her old friend's though, so she didn't buy it for me), the V-day card she got me, the picture frame she made me saying that she loves me and it has our anniversary date, and a few other things she made me in a box to her. I'm not sure what I'd be trying to do, but I know I don't want anything to do with these items anymore. Maybe it will make her feel sad, or maybe it will make her angry. Idk, maybe I want both. Chances are though she wouldn't care. Idk.
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