MrsPeaSoup Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 Hey guys, My bf broke up with me 2 weeks ago and I'm trying to hold NC as long as I can. As a lot of you guys suggested, I'm working to get my acts together and I'm concentrating only on my life and doing stuff with friends and all that. Thing is, I'm dying to know when I should end NC to get in contact with my ex again, to see if he still feels SOMETHING for me. I'm determined to try once more to win his heart back, because I believe in all those 'true love' stories and more so believe it is meant for us to be together. Not that I'm trying to sound desperate or something. So, what do you think? HOw long should I keep NC? - Thanks for reading this!
confused and broken Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 NC works best if you keep it forever This guy who breaks up with you and breaks your heart isn't worth it find someone who is
kimflute26 Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 Generally it's best to keep it until HE contacts YOU... and preferably not just with a "Whats up?" message.
Author MrsPeaSoup Posted March 29, 2010 Author Posted March 29, 2010 Generally it's best to keep it until HE contacts YOU... and preferably not just with a "Whats up?" message. Yeah you're right. Let's hope that'll come one day
Ilovecake Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 Hey guys, My bf broke up with me 2 weeks ago and I'm trying to hold NC as long as I can. As a lot of you guys suggested, I'm working to get my acts together and I'm concentrating only on my life and doing stuff with friends and all that. Thing is, I'm dying to know when I should end NC to get in contact with my ex again, to see if he still feels SOMETHING for me. I'm determined to try once more to win his heart back, because I believe in all those 'true love' stories and more so believe it is meant for us to be together. Not that I'm trying to sound desperate or something. So, what do you think? HOw long should I keep NC? - Thanks for reading this! First of all if you're asking how long than it hasn't been long enough. If y9u want to break NC to try and get him back then you definitely should not. NC isn’t a tool you use playing head games. NC is not contacting the person who told us they don’t want us in their lives. It’s about keeping your dignity and moving on without them. Secondly these 'true love' fairly tales you were raised on are not true. If he still feels something for you then he will contact you. Guys who like a girl will go to the ends of the world to get her. If he's not trying to get back together with you then he does not want to be with you.
spriggig Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 Hey guys, My bf broke up with me 2 weeks ago and I'm trying to hold NC as long as I can. As a lot of you guys suggested, I'm working to get my acts together and I'm concentrating only on my life and doing stuff with friends and all that. Thing is, I'm dying to know when I should end NC to get in contact with my ex again, to see if he still feels SOMETHING for me. I'm determined to try once more to win his heart back, because I believe in all those 'true love' stories and more so believe it is meant for us to be together. Not that I'm trying to sound desperate or something. So, what do you think? HOw long should I keep NC? - Thanks for reading this! If you contact him first it will mean more heartache for you and you're back to square one. Never contact him first! If he "feels something" for you, he will contact you--time, other girls in his life, whatever he is doing now, whatever you have done to break contact will not change this. If he feels something for you he will contact you. Stay in NC. Be strong.
nobmagnet Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 hi, Ilovecake is correct IMO. a smashing chap who is into you will do anything in his power to be with you. He broke it off and you need to honour that by keeping to NC for your own dignity and at his request. It hurts and the questions you may have might never be answered because there are few on here that have had honest answer as to WHY? Keep strong my sweet you are doing so well. Nobby xx
ADF Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 What? You should NEVER end NC. That's the whole point. If you are still preoccupied with whether he cares for--and he clearly doesn't; not enough to stay with--you're just missing the point.
Author MrsPeaSoup Posted March 29, 2010 Author Posted March 29, 2010 (edited) I believe you are all right, guys. It is extremely hard to accept this, but I think it's the best thing to do. Thank you for your comments. It is really helpfull to know you are there! It's really too bad, though... We both were convinced for a long time we were meant for each other. And I wanted to do so much more things with him, experience so much more things! Blegh. Edited March 29, 2010 by MrsPeaSoup
Ilovecake Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 MrsPeaSoup. I know the reality of it hurts but you sound fairly young and I know you'll still get to do all those things, just with someone better. I promise you in a few months or years you'll be in a great relationship looking back at your ex going, "what was I doing with this guy?".
nobmagnet Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 hey honey, When Lowly worm and I moved to this place ( its lovely here) he said with his arms around me.............hey babe we will never leave here.........take me/ us out in a box? yeah? I wish they flippin had! he didnt honour his duty and love for us. He found a way out and flit. They say stuff, we feel stuff, not many people commit to a relationship expecting it to go wrong. Hell it sucks. nobby xx
Author MrsPeaSoup Posted March 30, 2010 Author Posted March 30, 2010 MrsPeaSoup. I know the reality of it hurts but you sound fairly young and I know you'll still get to do all those things, just with someone better. I promise you in a few months or years you'll be in a great relationship looking back at your ex going, "what was I doing with this guy?". Thank you for your comment, cake. I know you're right. It only sucks real bad right now to know you're right. Pff.. just need to get him out of my head I guess.. Enjoy the good things in life, right?
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