Don'tWannabeAWannabe Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 Seriously, what is a single guy to do in suburbs? I went to school in a big city, and there, it was so easy to meet people; girls included. It's so easy to date, but when you're out in the boonies, the dating pool is just so small and constricted. There's no semblance of a 20-something social scene around here. There's only a few thousand people in my town and only a few thousand more in the towns surrounding me, this is a pretty "family-oriented" area (older people with kids). The only girls around here are high schoolers or married women moving here to start a family. It seems like all the 18+ girls are either still in college or moved to other places after they graduated, and the tiny, tiny few that stayed behind are already taken. Which I can't blame them; it's pretty boring around here. No clubs; no live music; the few bars and restaurants scattered around close at 11:00 ON WEEKENDS. I usually have to drive a good hour and a half for decent nightlife. But seriously, if you have no choice BUT to live in the 'burbs, how do you improve your chance of meeting and dating someone? What's a single guy to do? Does anyone else feel like single-life in the suburbs sucks?
start-fresh Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 (edited) I feel your pain. I'm in the same boat and am starting to think that's why people get married so young around here. If you don't snatch someone up quick, your SOL. I don't have advice for you either. I've tried church, volunteering, just getting out in public walking my dog and nothing. I do have this creepy old lady that always manages to find me in church though. I used to sit in front of her, but I moved to the other side, and now EVERY STINKING TIME I go up for communion, I turn around and she's kneeling beside me at the altar! I don't know how it happens but it's freaky. I'm hoping she has a single granddaughter. Edited March 29, 2010 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
confused and broken Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 I lived in the suburbs for awhile in a basement suite.... it was terrible my advice MOVE you will be much happier Suburbs are no place for singles
dave22 Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 I can understand what you're saying. I don't live in a suburb but I do live in a smaller city and there are not many single women who are not in university (and those are mostly too young for me now). It's hard to get a date. I think the best solution is just to move, which is what I am planning on doing as soon as I can find a good job in a bigger city. Either that, or it may be worth it to give an online dating site a chance. At least that way you might be able to meet single women from other cities/suburbs.
boogieboy Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 A single guy like you is to come here and post about talking to women instead of actually doing it.
all in Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 sounds like you have your life together and don't have many strings attached so why not consider moving or at least traveling to get an idea of where you would consider going? never know what (or who) you will come across that will become the catalyst for change. travel can rarely ever do you wrong
Author Don'tWannabeAWannabe Posted March 30, 2010 Author Posted March 30, 2010 A single guy like you is to come here and post about talking to women instead of actually doing it. I HAVE been talking to girls. Every time you accuse me of this and I explain that I have been talking to girls, and that I've been dealing with girls who're snotty or stuck up or unresponsive or stone-walling me, you never respond. What's up?
Author Don'tWannabeAWannabe Posted March 30, 2010 Author Posted March 30, 2010 sounds like you have your life together and don't have many strings attached so why not consider moving or at least traveling to get an idea of where you would consider going? never know what (or who) you will come across that will become the catalyst for change. travel can rarely ever do you wrong I really can't afford to move or have my own place at the moment. I'm living with my parents. I am working, but any spare money I have left over at the end of the week, I'm putting it away for grad school, since my parents spent my entire college fund on my undergrad education. Until I start (and finish) grad school and get a better job, I'm pretty much stuck here. Which goes onto another question... I frequently drive to the city (which is a good hour and a half away) for nightlife once or twice a week, so for the ladies; would you be willing to date a guy who lives really far away who came by only once a week?
boogieboy Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 I HAVE been talking to girls. Every time you accuse me of this and I explain that I have been talking to girls' date=' and that I've been dealing with girls who're snotty or stuck up or unresponsive or stone-walling me, you never respond. What's up?[/quote'] You havent talked to girls, because you keep coming back here with the same questions, and the same MO...youre asking where to talk to girls as if you talked to 1 woman and gave up. I DID tell you how to deal with the snotty girls. I said to look up PUA sites, have you done that?
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