Notsogood Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 10 months on from the end of my 5.5 year relationship and I am starting to find myself thinking about her again. She has even popped up in a few dreams lately. I don't know why - could it be because I 'got over it' too fast? I have had no contact for the last 8 months except for a text on her bday and a text from her on my bday yesterday. A couple of months ago I could have honestly said that I was "over it" and happily single and at that point, it was true. It doesn't hurt as much now though, but it does bring back a bit of the sadness and emptiness I felt before. Does anyone truely "get over" a former love?
Jlovestruckx0 Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 I honestly think that when your with someone for that long the have an impact on your life , no matter how big or small. If you truly loved her you'll never forget her, and you don't ever fully get over it, i believe you just learn to deal with it and hide it in many ways but at the end of the day there's always going to be a missing part. I feel its okay to miss her, she was a big part of your life, a part you will never forget. Time only heals the wound, but the scar will always be there. Good Luck ~
monkeymaid Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 you miss her, its ok. ...as far as never going away, i think that when you are over her, you will be over her, and only fond memorys will remain. ...so what happened?? whats the story?
Author Notsogood Posted March 29, 2010 Author Posted March 29, 2010 you miss her, its ok. ...as far as never going away, i think that when you are over her, you will be over her, and only fond memorys will remain. ...so what happened?? whats the story? We met at the end of first year uni and were together for over 5 and half years. We lived together during the last three years, with her moving to another city with me when I got a good job offer there. The job was extremely stressful (stock trading) and I worked long hours. During this time, I was always grumpy and got very lazy and started taking her for granted. Yet she stayed with me through it all. She decided to go back to do a masters degree in our home town so she moved back whilst I stayed on for another 6 months and finally decided I had had enough of the job and moved back home as well. Looking back now, there were plenty of warning signs during the last 6 months that I was just too self-absorbed and blind to see. I took everything she did for granted and never gave anything back. The breaking point was a fight three days before we finally broke up. It was a friday night and I had an exam on the Sunday (for the CFA program which is a notoriously tough exam) and after an argument whilst walking back home, I decided to go home to my parent's place instead. It's quite funny (or not) that I don't even remember what that fight was about now. She called me a few times on saturday but I ignored them as I wanted to focus on the exam and didn't want to have another argument to distract me. Come Sunday, I go to her house and she says she wants to break up. Looking back now, I know that the argument was not the reason for the break up, the issues had been building up for a while now and I was just too blind to realise. I loved this girl with all my heart but did not show it enough. My only consolation is that this experience will make me more prepared for my next relationship now that I can look back and see the issues more clearly. I have given up all hope of any future with her but I do hope I can love someone like I loved her again in the future. Its quite disappointing to look back and see the kind of person I turned into and to be honest, it is one of my biggest fears that I will turn into that person again without even knowing it in my next relationship.
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