lovely_lady77 Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 my ex and I have had a very rocky off and on relationship for quite some time. I have begun to realize and feel it in my heart that we are never going to work. He is never going to give me what I want and need in a relationship. It's not because he's a bad person or anything like that, we both have our flaws and have both done things to hurt each other. I'm to the point where I just want the madness to stop. We run back to each other every now and then and as much as I'd like to believe that it's because we really love each other...and he's just too scared to recommit to me, I realize that its more so for comfort than anything else. I've allowed that to go on for too long, typically it ends up with me feeling used. I know that it's my own fault for allowing that to happen time and time again. I love him, I really do...but how much longer is this going to go on? Lately, I've been thinking about how amazing it would be to start fresh with someone else and what it will be like to fall in love again! The thing is, I know him and I need to stop talking for good in order for that to happen, and I'm not sure how to go about that. I've thought about writing him a letter explaining that I DO love him, but I can't do this anymore and I need to get the temptation out of my life...meaning him and I need to say goodbye, for good. However, I'm not sure if there is another way I can approach this. I've been here before, but it's never lasted...but I never really put a stop to things, nor have I ever felt this strong about it. So my question is, for anyone who has been in a situation like ours, how did it end? Do you just stop talking? Do you write a letter? How did it feel after? I know this might sound totally rediculous, but I don't want to start drama or cause him anymore pain for him (although more recently it seems as if he only wants to talk to me when it's good for him..so I guess I shouldn't worry too much about that!) I've realized that true love is never supposed to be this hard, and I'm just ready to put all of this behind me! I have to remember that this is something I need to do for ME!
Rearden Metal Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 Hey LL, Check out the Coping section on this site. There are several threads running on how to cut off contact and cope with moving forward (my thread is one of them). Good luck!
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