shadowplay Posted March 28, 2010 Posted March 28, 2010 Just as I expected two days after I blew him off in the cafe, he makes contact. He sends me a text that starts with one of our old inside jokes and then goes on to say he has some of my old clothes. This is suspicious because we haven't been together for four months, and he's telling me now about the clothes? I didn't respond to the message until today. I asked him when/where I could pick them up. He asks me if he can come by my house and drop them off. I tell him that I'd rather meet somewhere in public. We agree to meet at a cafe -- I tell him I don't want to talk, just pick them up. When I get to the cafe, he is sitting down with a book and pulls me over into a seat and starts chatting as if nothing is different. The first thing he says is that I look hot , and then he starts asking me questions about school and talking about himself. I tell him I have to go and ask for my clothes. He says, "like an idiot I forgot them." But he says we can walk to his place to pick them up. I tell him I have to go and he can bring them to class on Tuesday. He asks me with a suspicious look if my boyfriend is waiting in the car outside (since I'm in a rush), and I tell him no. Even though I was able to leave quickly, I felt unsettled by the whole encounter. The problem is the more I ignore him, the more interested he gets (that's how he is). I just want him to leave me alone and I'm worried he'll sucker me in to getting re-attached. Even seeing him briefly, I felt a twinge of attraction to him on a purely physical level (he's handsome and has a very superficial air of charm). How do I prevent him from screwing with me?
LovelyDaze Posted March 28, 2010 Posted March 28, 2010 How do I prevent him from screwing with me? Go back to NC. For your ex to go "oopsie, silly me. I forgot your clothes." is ridiculous. He wanted to get you there, then go to his house to rekindle some of the fire. Eventually, he would get the itch to leave and not contact you for awhile again and rinse and repeat. Glad you didn't bite that apple to go over his place.
Tamia78 Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 Whoa.....that is really low! I agree with Lovely. Go NC. Who knows what he wants from you besides an ego boost, and for him to try to get you to go to his house. I'm not so sure I could've been as strong as you were, so big kudos to you. Let him have your clothes! He'll need them to sleep with when he starts missing you again. :-) You know what's funny? The fact that he got really suspicious because you weren't falling for his tricks. He's like, "how could she NOT love me?" Good job, you are my new heroine! :-)
Rearden Metal Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 What a douchebag. I hate this guy already for assuming he has power over you like that. Good for you for sticking it to him and walking.
Author shadowplay Posted March 29, 2010 Author Posted March 29, 2010 Good job, you are my new heroine! :-) Haha, thanks!!
D-Lish Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 the more I ignore him, the more interested he gets (that's how he is). That's how most people are. We look at behaviour like that as a challenge when we are younger, but it gets old when we grown up and learn to value ourselves. You seem to be on track with the new bf, and your confidence seems to have matured quite a bit in the passing few months. Tell him to throw your clothes out- they couldn't possibly be in style or important to your wardrobe if you haven't realized they were missing by now:cool:
teanoranges Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 You could always respond by acting natural and tell him you'll come over... then show up WITH A FRIEND! But don't tell him you're bringing a friend or he might decide to say no. Grab your clothes, and run. And tell your friend to act like they're in a hurry to get somewhere with you? Its a gamble... but if you power yourself to get out of there... you might just be able to do it.
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