sweet_peach115 Posted March 28, 2010 Posted March 28, 2010 It seems common amongst myself and a lot of women I know that we wait for guys we really like to contact us. Almost as if we are too scared to call them and ask them out if we have feelings for them. Does this ever happen to guys?
Rearden Metal Posted March 28, 2010 Posted March 28, 2010 It seems common amongst myself and a lot of women I know that we wait for guys we really like to contact us. Almost as if we are too scared to call them and ask them out if we have feelings for them. Does this ever happen to guys? Does what happen? You mean do we wait for girls to contact us? Or do you mean do we want you to ask us out?
Author sweet_peach115 Posted March 28, 2010 Author Posted March 28, 2010 Does what happen? You mean do we wait for girls to contact us? Or do you mean do we want you to ask us out? Are you ever too scared to contact a girl to ask her out
aroll32 Posted March 28, 2010 Posted March 28, 2010 I have been a couple times, but that was only when I was infatuated with the girl. But I never let the coward in me take over and would eventually make the contact. I have been a little scared to make contact, but only if it's the first contact. After that I don't really get scared to contact, maybe a little nervous, but not scared
ADF Posted March 28, 2010 Posted March 28, 2010 All the time, sure. Actually, I think it is a bit more difficult for guys because a man who confesses interest can seem threatening if that attention is unwanted.
SomewhatExperienced Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 I don't know if I get scared asking out a girl. I usually only do it if I feel like I have a decent chance with her. And of course, with practice it gets easier. When I was younger I would physically shake when asking out a girl (I don't think they saw it, but I felt it). Now, if I really like a girl I can certainly get bent out of shape wondering if she'll CALL ME BACK. As much as I hate it, I'm growing accustomed to having to always call first, Some girls aren't interested and don't call back in which case I don't want to bother them. But some play games and want us to chase them so we have to keep calling even if they don't show interest. It's a tough game to play for us guys a lot of the time. But listen, if you like the guy CALL HIM. All my meaningful relationships were with girls who were much more forward about the way they felt about me. If I know they like me when I like them, it makes me much more comfortable taking the steps in the relationship to make it go forward because I have more confidence I won't be hurt or disapointed.
alphamale Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 It seems common amongst myself and a lot of women I know that we wait for guys we really like to contact us. Almost as if we are too scared to call them and ask them out if we have feelings for them. Does this ever happen to guys? yes it happens to guys
sagetalk Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 It seems common amongst myself and a lot of women I know that we wait for guys we really like to contact us. Almost as if we are too scared to call them and ask them out if we have feelings for them. Does this ever happen to guys? When I was a teenager, yes. Now, (late 20's) no.
St. Nick Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 Yeah, it happens to many guys. But I wouldn't necessarily say he's a coward. He may naturally be introverted. There are the usual reasons: 1. Fear of rejection. 2. Not knowing what to say. 3. Not knowing how to go about it. In addition, a guy might be seen as being threatening or harassing, whereas a woman who approaches a man isn't as likely to seem so (unless she's an amazon going after a really short dude).
Rearden Metal Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 It only takes a few times asking out a girl you're SURE is into you, then get rejected, before it takes a toll on a guy. But I don't give up. I keep asking, preferably before I'm actually invested in her answer.
JohnnyBlaze Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 Are you ever too scared to contact a girl to ask her out Yep. St. Nick pretty much nailed the reasons. I find that Nick Reason #3 (how to go about it) is my biggest drawback. I'm horrible at breaking a girl away from a group. As my father so eloquently paraphrased it, "the best laid plans of mice and men get blown all to rat s___t."
skydiveaddict Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 There have been a ton of women I liked a lot but was too afraid to ask out. If a guy tells you otherwise, he's lying. true words..................
boogieboy Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 If someone GAVE you their number, its to contact them. No reason to be afraid to ask them out, it wont happen any other way- except in person. if they say no, you delete their number. Simple as that.
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