Author Physical Graffiti Posted March 30, 2010 Author Posted March 30, 2010 I'm waiting for the sale of a house for which we'll receive a lot of money because it's paid for. All profit, except the realtor's fee and such. Then I can take my half and go, and be set. I guess that's general and vague enough!
aerogurl87 Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 I'm waiting for the sale of a house for which we'll receive a lot of money because it's paid for. All profit, except the realtor's fee and such. Then I can take my half and go, and be set. I guess that's general and vague enough! Hmm ok, but if the house is partially in your name as well as your husband's you'll still see your part of the profit I'm guessing. I'm no lawyer, but I'd assume that'd be correct. And if your husband is as bad as you say he is, either way you won't see a cent if part of it isn't in your name because he'll leave you high and dry.
Author Physical Graffiti Posted March 30, 2010 Author Posted March 30, 2010 It's in both of our names. 50/50 split.
Author Physical Graffiti Posted March 30, 2010 Author Posted March 30, 2010 OK enough questions. You know enough. Do you think he'll be back or not?
jnj express Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 whether he will be back---depends on his home life, and his own guilt---which he obviously has--You are not considering that he has a lot to lose if he gets caught, and he may not be able to hide what he has done, or his emotions so easily, and believe me----If he thinks he is gonna get caught, and have to give up half of everything that comes, and goes with divorce----you will never see him again. My question to you is---why can't you find a single guy---out there if you just wanna satisfy yourself physcially. As to the sale of your home are you waiting for the market to rebound----I don't know where you are, or how long a divorce takes where you are, but you are gonna get half no matter what----half of everything----Why stay in a bad mge??????
Dexter Morgan Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Why don't I divorce him? Did you not read all the posts? I can't right now yes....you can...you just won't.
Dexter Morgan Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 I'm not justifying my behavior. Only people who care about their behavior try to justify it and I don't care. yes...you are. otherwise why even mention that your husband is a bad husband? Just belch the platitudes of your affair and be done with it. Only reason to tell us all that your husband is bad is to justify what you are doing...plain and simple.
Dexter Morgan Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 I'm waiting for the sale of a house for which we'll receive a lot of money because it's paid for. All profit, except ! uh, you are still entitled to half the equity in the house, whether its sold or not. you can always let him keep the house, sign over a quit claim deed to him, and get your half off the equity another way....like more money from his retirement account assuming he has enough in it to cover your 1/2.
Author Physical Graffiti Posted March 30, 2010 Author Posted March 30, 2010 Sometimes he travels for work. I could meet him where he's working. Not much of a chance for him to get caught there. Why not find someone else? Because I think he'll be back and he's worth the wait. Note to the judgmental: you're on my 'ignore' list so don't bother posting.
Dexter Morgan Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Note to the judgmental: you're on my 'ignore' list so don't bother posting. pot...kettle...black.... judgemental? hmmm...glad you aren't judgemental of your husband.
Author Physical Graffiti Posted March 30, 2010 Author Posted March 30, 2010 This is my thread. Stay out of it if you don't like it! You don't go to someone's house (well, YOU probably do) and complain about things. and what makes you think I'm sitting at home?
Author Physical Graffiti Posted March 30, 2010 Author Posted March 30, 2010 and you're on ignore, so go ahead and post but I'm not gonna see it.
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Dear OP: I don't think anybody is on your side, or cares whether your FB calls you back again or not. And, if you only want to hear opinions that justify your own behavior, you've come to the wrong place.
Lizzie60 Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Physical... next time, start a thread in the OW/OM forum..
Dexter Morgan Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Physical... next time, start a thread in the OW/OM forum.. just what I was going to suggest. That forum caters to those that only care about themselves.
Author Physical Graffiti Posted March 30, 2010 Author Posted March 30, 2010 mme chaucer: I just find it incomprehensible - and maybe I'm naive - that anyone would come onto someone else's thread say stupid ****. That's beyond me. Lizzie: I think I will. thanks
Dexter Morgan Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 mme chaucer: I just find it incomprehensible - and maybe I'm naive - that anyone would come onto someone else's thread say stupid ****. That's beyond me. Lizzie: I think I will. thanks so much for the ignore button:o
Dexter Morgan Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Dear OP: I don't think anybody is on your side, or cares whether your FB calls you back again or not. And, if you only want to hear opinions that justify your own behavior, you've come to the wrong place. chaucer, is it me, or do you think that the main problem in the marriage wasn't her husband, but her character and attitude?
jnj express Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 Hey Phys. Graf.----Why are you so sure your affair partner, is gonna seek you out again?????? What he has told you about his situation is not necessarily the truth. I believe you said he was calling his mge. in trouble also---but he could very well be lying to you, and justifying to himself, his reasons that are allowing him to cheat. Does he have children at home----that alone is a reason to stay away from him and go seek out another partner. Remember he is a liar---he is lying to his family, and he could very well be lying to you. Even if he does come back to you----what then---you know in your deep down, he is not gonna run out on his kids. So what happens if you get emotionally attached, which I think you already are----Are you gonna enjoy being alone holiday after holiday. Will you enjoy growing older by yourself. If you are gonna divorce your husband---why not at least seek out someone who you can start a legitimate, lasting relationship with.
aerogurl87 Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 Hey Phys. Graf.----Why are you so sure your affair partner, is gonna seek you out again?????? What he has told you about his situation is not necessarily the truth. I believe you said he was calling his mge. in trouble also---but he could very well be lying to you, and justifying to himself, his reasons that are allowing him to cheat. Does he have children at home----that alone is a reason to stay away from him and go seek out another partner. Remember he is a liar---he is lying to his family, and he could very well be lying to you. Even if he does come back to you----what then---you know in your deep down, he is not gonna run out on his kids. So what happens if you get emotionally attached, which I think you already are----Are you gonna enjoy being alone holiday after holiday. Will you enjoy growing older by yourself. If you are gonna divorce your husband---why not at least seek out someone who you can start a legitimate, lasting relationship with. Very valid questions. I mean Physical Graffiti, I'm sure the sex is good, but for every guy who is awesome in bed, there are another 10 out there who are just as awesome if not better. You being married complicates the situation enough, why not find some single bachelor who's willing to have sex with you minus the complications of having a wife (and possibly kids) at home? Plus on the upside if your new guy turns out to be awesome beyond sex at least you'll have the option of having a real relationship with him once you're done divorcing.
fooled once Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 no - i guarantee you - not ALL women cheat because a man is a bad husband. i chose to divorce - even after 20 years... i never cheated. do not say ALL women cheat when the H is bad. bad is subjective as well. you are generalizing a lot to justify your bad behavior. Totally agree. I had a bad first marriage to an abusive drunk. Like 2sunny, I chose to DIVORCE and I had a small child. Believe me, I took the hit financially, but for ME and MY belief's and morals, this was the only way to do it. I personally wouldn't cheat on a spouse -- and I will go even further and say NEVER because that is just not who I am.
Joe Normal Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 It's quite possible he'll be back. Testosterone makes men think with their genitals until they have sex...afterwards they regain sense and realize it was a bad move. Lesson - if you are a married man with a high sex drive, avoid women who make you feel horny.
Joe Normal Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 yes...you are. otherwise why even mention that your husband is a bad husband? Just belch the platitudes of your affair and be done with it. Only reason to tell us all that your husband is bad is to justify what you are doing...plain and simple. You made your point in the first post - no need to go on like a broken record. Cheating is justifiable sometimes, such as if the husband is violent or cheats on the wife. What's good for the goose is good for the gander.
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