justme101 Posted March 28, 2010 Posted March 28, 2010 Why is it that my ex gets angry when girl post on my FB page and then is talking to some guy while we were having problems.We were together for 3 years and broke up on Valentines day because of a fight because she thought I was talking to someone so she went ahead and talked to some guy.She checks my FB page and then texts me this after we broke up: its funny how the truth comes out MR good boyfriend.its better late than never. I texted back saying I'm not interested in any other girls and she said to do what I want to. Now I know that this guy is probably a rebound but it bothers me to know that we still love each other but I guess the timing was wrong.We did everything together and the relationship was fun for the most part.I'm 24 she's 23. I was her first boyfriend and did everything a good guy would do.But her curiosities and mine came in the way of what could have been a good relationship. How do rebounds turn out?she''s not with this guy but she's using him to get over me I guess.We split up before in the past and always ended back together.I want to marry this girl and she wants to marry me too She said we can be together in the future but not right now.and she said I should relax because she's not going to go off with anybody
DustySaltus Posted March 28, 2010 Posted March 28, 2010 So you broke up after three years because a girl posted on your FB page? Sounds like you guys have some serious trust issues. Unless those issues are worked out this relationship won't go anywhere. My ex-fiance checked my page all the time. Would check my emails and phone as well. I thought by moving to her country and getting engaged everything would work itself out. I wanted to prove to her more than anything that I was willing to do whatever it takes to make it work. things still fell apart because of her trust issues at the end of the day. Unless these trust issues are worked out you will be in a constant cycle of trying to "prove yourself" to her. And eventually you'll sepnd so much time doing this, you won't even recognize who you are anymore. You'll let her define you. This whole "rebound" nonsense is just childish and actually somewhat vindictive. So what you need to do at this moment is disappear. Have No Contact with her whatsoever and focus on yourself. If she comes back, she needs to say that she made a mistake, is willing to work on her trust issues and do whatever it takes to make it work. If you get back with her under any other circumstance it will make you look like a doormat. Sorry to be blunt but it's the truth. She has the trust issues, she broke it off....let her live with HER decision. Read the link in my signature.
LovelyDaze Posted March 28, 2010 Posted March 28, 2010 It's sounds like a game. If your ex is so concerned about who you deal with on FB(or in your personal life altogether) then you both need to decide if you are actually going to work things out and reconcile or both of you get lost from each other and not be concerned about each other period. And for your ex to make the decision that you two will not be together "right now but later on" is a bunch of bologna. In English, she wants you to stay backstage after she skirts around town and wants to come back to you whenever she feels like it. The games that a lot of exes play is beyond silly. Don't play them with her.
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