I cant stop thinking about her! these are the worse days of my life...

[Jimmy87]

I mentioned this is another thread but I thought id make a new one, Im actually depressed, I feel so low right now and its alright saying things will get easier but its hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. My girl broke up with me just before Christmas, we live really close and were a close couple, probably saw her 5 times a week and she slept over most nights as we worked pretty much next dorr to eachother... She broke up with me and I just let her go, I went out and pulled the first girl I could, at first it felt great, kind of like a **** you to her, but all the while with this new girl I was still thinking about my ex. I found out recently that she is with a new guy, and its messed me up really bad.

 

I don't feel strongly for this new girl im with but its early days, I dont know whether to give her a chance or not, shes older than me and seems mature and by all means is a great girl but im not sure its right for me at the moment, how can I be in a relationship with her if my ex is the only thing on my mind right now??

 

Im going to be in a situation soon where ill be in the same bar or pub as my ex and her new girl, and its going to take alot for me to deal with that, they work together and the thought of her being over this and with him is heartbreaking, but at the same time I did it first! surely she had all these feelings aswell and surely she still thinks of me! a 3 and a half year relationship doesn't just go from your mind especially when your as emotional as her.

 

I don't know what to do, be single and try to focus n getting over this, or giv this girl a chance, or even contact her?? the latter is the least likely but man its hard, I hate this!

[Jimmy87]

I don't hate the guy she is with, he is a nice guy and hes my friends friend, and sometimes we all go out getting drunk and me and him are in the same circle, my mate can't understand why its going to be a problem with me still hanging out with this guy, there's awkward and then theres that, im sure that he is a rebound anyways, she just grabbed hold of the first guy she could after she found out about me having a girlfriend, if this is the case which I think is and we are both with people we dont feel strongly about then if I broke up with mine and she broke up mabe we could reconcile and start again? I dont know im messed up, im doing eveything everybody is telling me to do, ive started a night course, ive started going to a local judo club, but she is CONSTANTLY on my mind, if it feels so wrong us being apart surely that means something?? I want her back or atleast want to talk to her...

[Jimmy87]

Plus I worry alot about making a dick of myself to her now she is with this guy, a drunken text or something, then all my friends would know....man this sucks, its been 3 months and its as hard as ever, I pity anybody who is going through this.