bittersweetcupid Posted March 28, 2010 Posted March 28, 2010 (edited) i broke up with my ex 4 months ago.And 1 month into the break,she got tgt with a classmate of hers.i was so heart broken when i heard about the news.i knew they were close but nvr had confirmation until then.jus after the break,i tried so many ways to try to get her back,i bought her stuff,ask her out and even suggested being frens(tho i was obviously nt interested in being jus frens).i cried so many times infront of her but she simply said its nt possible.to make things worse,she said i was immature and i wasted her time.HOW MEAN IS TAT.but still all i want is for her to be happy. im planning to make something sweet for her. i bought her sweets and meaning toys and also a letter.i bought her mum stuff to cos her mum was v nice to me.i even ordered cakes for her family to enjoy.i bought her a bday present stating tat if i dun have a chance to ever see her again,let this be my last gft to her. im planning to put everything outside her house and msg her mum to come get them(since i dun wanna irritate my ex directly)is tat a good idea?i wan everything to end well.we broke up cos i was too possessive. any ideas whereby i can touch her n maybe make her think twice in gicing up our r/s? Edited March 28, 2010 by bittersweetcupid
zetkin Posted March 28, 2010 Posted March 28, 2010 Well, sounds like you love her very much. And all this sounds very nice of you and so on. But the idea is bad. Believe me, she doesn't want any presents from you right now. The more you try to keep contact (no matter with her or with her family), the more she will hate you. You were too possessive when you were together and all you did after the break up made her even more convinced that you are trying to be possessive again. You will never get back together that way (or any other way). You better leave her alone. It would be best if she sees you started our own life without her and you are not hung up on her any more (that's what you should do - get over it). That way she won't hate you at least. What you are doing now is only making both your life and hers harder. And, one more thing - you never ever cry in front of a girl. If you wanna be with someone, do not try to make her feel pity. Have respect for yourself.
Author bittersweetcupid Posted March 28, 2010 Author Posted March 28, 2010 thanks for the advice.i was thinking about all this cos i just wanna show her i still miss her but at the same time showing her respect as i wouldnt be giving the presents to her in person.but il simply be leaving it outside her house...is tat fine?i jus have the urge to get her stuff
zetkin Posted March 28, 2010 Posted March 28, 2010 (edited) May be look for another object for your urge to get stuff))) You can send something to me if it will make you feel relieved )))))))))))))))))))))) I'm telling you, really, you won't make her happy by giving her presents. She will only feel worse, knowing that you're not over her. Edited March 28, 2010 by zetkin
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