venkatdabri Posted March 27, 2010 Posted March 27, 2010 Hello Friends, I am an Indian and I have been trying to date for about 4 years now with limited success. I am just not able to get into a long term relationship. Most of the relationships I have been in the lady has made the first move. Each and every time I asked a girl out I have been rejected, not that I mind it. I have a good job, a nice car and a better than average physique. I am above average dancer. Most of my male friends expect me to be more successful in dating and wonder why I am single most of the time. My biggest problem is that I don't know when to ask a girl out. I go out dancing and I meet girls and spend quite some time becoming friends with them. Once they are friends, I find it tough to ask them out because I worry that if rejected then it would be awkward and I would have to meet them again in social situations. I am unable to tell when I meet a girl as to if she is interested in me or not in first few mins so I wait too long to become friends with her and by that time she is either taken or I find it tough to ask her out. What would be the best strategy to ask someone you are interested in? Wait to be her friend and then suggest we go out or ask her out immediately? If a friend does ask you out and you are not interested or you got rejected by a friend did you have a tough time not being awkward about it. This is a very important question that I want answered. A couple of months ago , a lady who lived in my apartment complex asked me out and i said no but our friendship continued on like nothing had happened. I was wondering if this is the norm or usually people will avoid u after rejecting you.
Lovelybird Posted March 28, 2010 Posted March 28, 2010 Hi, they say practice makes it perfect. I guess it is. If you practice enough "ask girls out", then you will learn from failures and get better. If the fear of failure is too strong to move a finger, that is the definitely a failure cannot bring any lesson for you I think this lady may be a big person, didn't take that rejection seriously. rejection for love interest not mean rejection for friendship. But usually I think man takes the lead will have good result, maybe I am old style
hapadude Posted March 28, 2010 Posted March 28, 2010 For telling if a girl's interested: Does she make touch you, does she laugh at your jokes over enthusiastically, etc. It can be challenging at first but just look into her eyes and try and feel her vibe. Or you could be like some guys and just assume that every girl likes them, (course that's met by many more rejections). For handling a situation of asking out a friend: It all depends on confidence. If you get rejected and are completely confident about it, I don't see why it can't often rub off on them. If post rejection interactions are awkward and you're doing everything right, then the girl's probably just really insecure.
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