JamesDean5398 Posted March 27, 2010 Posted March 27, 2010 I was talking to a coworker. She is on the same work team I am on. I stepped out on a limb to ask her things about the gum she just joined. When i was speaking to her in the kitchen. Immediately, when Jeff walked in she started talking to him, completely ignored me. I thought it was completely rude, and I don't like to be treated like. So, I just stopped talking to her, except just to only say hi. I say it polite to her. I don't know why feel this way. It as almost like she cheated on me. We do work on the same team, and the work place has gossipers there. Just to give u an idea. I don't think we have any thing in common, and I wouldn't even know how to ask her on a date. I have ignored her now for 3 weeks. She seems fine. She tells her whole life events to certain people. I guess I just feel left out, because she doesn't share with me what she goes through. So, far I have realized it is only me that was sharing, and she just listened when I was talking to her. What am I feeling?
Woman In Blue Posted March 28, 2010 Posted March 28, 2010 Why is it "stepping out on a limb" just to ask her about a gym she's joined (I'm assuming "gum" means gym)? That's hardly news-worthy conversation or anything that can be considered taking a 'risk' just because you asked her about her new gym. Jeez. Quite honestly, people like you frighten me. You've attached some serious issues to a simple, nothing little conversation you had with a co-worker. Because her attention was turned to someone else during your conversation about the gym, you're now on a campaign to ignore her? You feel "left out" because she chooses not to share her daily drama with you? You feel like she CHEATED on you because she talks to others and abruptly ended YOUR conversation with her? You need serious therapy. Now.
troggleputty Posted March 28, 2010 Posted March 28, 2010 I was talking to a coworker. She is on the same work team I am on. I stepped out on a limb to ask her things about the gum she just joined. When i was speaking to her in the kitchen. Immediately, when Jeff walked in she started talking to him, completely ignored me. I thought it was completely rude, and I don't like to be treated like. Well the answer you seek is right here in your own question. Don't waste your time with rude people. She may be superficially attractive, but you said it best: She was rude to you. So, I just stopped talking to her, except just to only say hi. I say it polite to her. Right. Ignore her except if you have to talk to her for work, and keep it polite and impersonal. Just be business-like. I don't know why feel this way. It as almost like she cheated on me. She deliberately "dissed" you by talking to Jeff and rudely interrupting her conversation with you. But, she didn't "cheat" on you. She made you feel bad as an emotional manipulation. Yet another reason why you should not waste any time trying to have a personal relationship with a person like this. We do work on the same team, and the work place has gossipers there. Just to give u an idea. I don't think we have any thing in common, and I wouldn't even know how to ask her on a date. Keep it professional. Don't date her. She actually sounds like something of a beotch. I have ignored her now for 3 weeks. She seems fine. She tells her whole life events to certain people. I guess I just feel left out, because she doesn't share with me what she goes through. So, far I have realized it is only me that was sharing, and she just listened when I was talking to her. What am I feeling? You need to get a social life outside of the workplace.
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