Back2dabasics Posted March 27, 2010 Posted March 27, 2010 My ex-girl called me in the middle of the night (Saturday) but I didn't pick up because I missed the call. After 5 months of NC, I don't know what she wants. I know she has a boyfriend so I don't understand why she would call me especially in the middle of night. My theories are that she coulda been drunk and dialed my number. Anyway a week later, she called again but in the middle of the night (Friday). This time I didn't bother to pick up. I just wanna know if you guys think I should pick up....to make the long story short of our break up...she lied to me and had a boyfriend a week BEFORE we broke up for good. Personally, I take disloyalty very serious. I don't tolerate when someone especially someone close to me lies to me. Should I pick up next time she calls? And if I do pick up, what should I say?... I would pick up but in the same time I don't want to because I don't wanna hear her drunk talkin because it's a waste of time.
mark982 Posted March 27, 2010 Posted March 27, 2010 chances she's calling late, that she's drunk. also why subject yourself to the misery. broke up 5 months ago over her lying, you've moved on pretty well,just forget about her.
DustySaltus Posted March 27, 2010 Posted March 27, 2010 to make the long story short of our break up...she lied to me and had a boyfriend a week BEFORE we broke up for good. Personally, I take disloyalty very serious. I don't tolerate when someone especially someone close to me lies to me. Should I pick up next time she calls?. So let me ask you a question. What has happened in the last five months for her to make her LESS dishonest than she was? Did she apologize in her phone call? Did she even leave a message? Probably not. Things are not going well for her right now. She wants to know that you still are pining for her. Well, the BEST and ONLY response is silence. Whether or not she called you 5 minutes, hours, months or years AFTER you broke up, the first words out of her mouth should be I made a mistake, I'm sorry and I'll do whatever it takes to make things work. Anything short of that is peanuts, crumbs....nothing. She's calling for her OWN needs. Stick to NC and focus on yours....
Disintegration Posted March 28, 2010 Posted March 28, 2010 She's probably calling because she had a falling out with her bf. I personally would not give her the time of day just because she basically was cheating on you the week before you officially ended your relationship. I don't take anything lightly either so looking at it with your best interest I would suggest not taking her calls. Just leave it at that.
Perhaps Posted March 28, 2010 Posted March 28, 2010 So let me ask you a question. What has happened in the last five months for her to make her LESS dishonest than she was? Did she apologize in her phone call? Did she even leave a message? Probably not. Things are not going well for her right now. She wants to know that you still are pining for her. Well, the BEST and ONLY response is silence. Whether or not she called you 5 minutes, hours, months or years AFTER you broke up, the first words out of her mouth should be I made a mistake, I'm sorry and I'll do whatever it takes to make things work. Anything short of that is peanuts, crumbs....nothing. She's calling for her OWN needs. Stick to NC and focus on yours.... As much as I agree with DustySaltus, I have this irrational need to tell you to pick up, act as if everything is cool and REALLY rub it in her face that your life is amazing. I'm sure if she wanted to apologize, or if it was something urgent, she would have texted. Maybe I'm just angry at my ex....
nomad0792 Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 hmmmm...well, she's probably drunk and sad and knows how you made her feel and when ur drunk you have the guts to call. Maybe I'm wrong, but if you were having problems with a girl on a Saturday night, you might be compelled to call an ex, right?
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