davegfx Posted March 27, 2010 Posted March 27, 2010 So the ex called today in the middle of the afternoon. As a bit of background, she broke up with me approx 7 weeks ago to be with another guy. I was with her for just over a year, and was very much in love with her and her son (2.5 year old who i knew since he was 1). I have had extremely limited contact with her since then, have not seen her or her boy (quite painful) since the break, and have been NC for 3 or 4 weeks. She sent me a random fb message a week ago (hey, do you have my bike lock) which i ignored. I've been pretty solid at the nc thing last few weeks. All my friends and family who I introduced her to and who she had some quite close relationships with she has cut complete contact with. Some of the people she introduced me to I have stayed in semi contact with, and have been particularly close with one of her cousins who i had a very strong friendship with prior to the breakup. When I was going out with the ex, her cousin and I would often do beers, and he became quite a good friend of mine. Since the breakup, I've kept in touch with him as I didn't see a reason to cut my friendships with people simply because she had 'first dibs'. Anyway, I've deleted her from my phonebook but got a call and recognised the number and I don't know why, answered the phone. She was very irate. I was meeting up with her cousin for a couple of casual beers with some other guys, and she called and said "what are you doing hanging out with him? it's making him uncomfortable. i just want you out of my life". (Apparently, she called him and wanted to go for a drink, and said sorry, i alraedy have plans. She pestered him till he said who he was going with) I was just like "well, its kind of none of your business, we're friends, and I'll do whatever I want with my life. And if it's a problem for him, I'm sure he'd tell me." So she went off on a bit of rant, which I eventually interrupted by saying "listen, you don't have any say over what I do. You broke up with me and besides, you started ****ing a guy the day i was out of the door" (i don't think she knew i knew that btw). So she responded "well, if you knew how to ****, you'd still have a girlfriend" and then hung up. OUCH.....but it more made me laugh. I'm not sure why she's so angry. She broke up with me. She left for another guy. I only found that out after the fact. We broke up on good terms. So jesus....what do i do in this sort of situation? I'm not going to stop being friends with people simply because she says so. Was the biggest problem I answered the phone? How should you deal with this sort of ****??? HELP!
skydiveaddict Posted March 27, 2010 Posted March 27, 2010 dude block her #. I must say you handled yourself quite well however. Just dont repeat this in the furture
Leia Posted March 27, 2010 Posted March 27, 2010 It's none of her business who you hang out with. Her cousin wants to hang out with you, so what? Let her deal with it.
threebyfate Posted March 27, 2010 Posted March 27, 2010 She's a hag. Just ignore her and hang out with whomever you want. I don't believe in swearing at exes but this one time, you should have said: Dear Ex. F**k off and die.
OndaChin Posted March 28, 2010 Posted March 28, 2010 She's a hag. Just ignore her and hang out with whomever you want. I don't believe in swearing at exes but this one time, you should have said: Dear Ex. F**k off and die. Spoken like a true man "with BALLZ of cold hard steel". It's amazing how well placed words can be so effective with those pesky exes!
Author davegfx Posted March 29, 2010 Author Posted March 29, 2010 K.....i just wanted to make sure I'm in the right in this. Breakups mess with your head so badly you start to doubt everything. But no, I can hang out with a friend if I want.
SlowHealer Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 Yeah dude, STAY AWAY! Once they start sleeping around and to make a comment like she did.......you just don't have much to go back to. I know what it's like to miss someone else's kids, painful. She will always have the upper hand on that one too! Put some more distance and time behind you on this one. Don't answer anything you aren't SURE who ur talking to. Good luck!
Dodgers27 Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 Yeah man, women are very weird in that sense. A week after my ex broke up with me I started talking to a girl I was friends with but stopped talking to during my relationship because my ex hated her. My ex starts bitching at me on Facebook "Oh, so you're talking to her now? I'm not talking to you if you are talking to her..." and she refused to talk to me until i told her that I deleted her off of my FB (which I then readded her after my ex told me she was dating another guy so soon after the break up). It's like, wtf, you dumped me, why do you care who I talk to? My advice to you, is to do what you want and talk to who you want, it's your life, not hers. She can just be mad if she wants if you two hang out, that's no one's problem but her own, especially if her cousin wants to stay friends with you. Stay strong.
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