missingandhoping Posted March 27, 2010 Posted March 27, 2010 My husband and I will Be married 20 years next month. I felt that we have always been very close and loved each othr very much. Well this woman started working with him he started coming home later came to bed real late. I Started questioning him about this other person because he was just suppose to be training her. Everybody else he trained didnt take but about a week or two he was with her all the time month later stiill with her he said she didnt feel comfortable going out on her on yet.I caught him talking to her on fb had her picture up.Then I saw the text on his phone said I almost got caught I will call u when she goes to bed. He has always said they were just friends nothings going on but yet he leaves me and she is still training with him 8 months later. But still claiming they r just friends.
Author missingandhoping Posted March 28, 2010 Author Posted March 28, 2010 Yeh we bought a house a year ago and when he met this ow he let our house go so I would not be able to live there. His mom lives out of state and has a house close to us so he moved there and now has no bills what so ever I have never been by myself before and not only do I miss him I am struggling really hard. He has not even asked if I am alright.I kick myself constantly for still loving him after what hes done but I dont know how to move on without him.
candymoon Posted March 28, 2010 Posted March 28, 2010 What's up with the 20 year mark? Is there a switch the people flick and suddenly things start going wacky? Wow, your H is taking the easy way out. Just walking out and leaving you holding the bag... You miss him. But what do you miss?If he is like this now, how callous has he been the previous 20 years? Surely, this OW is not the first.
Author missingandhoping Posted March 28, 2010 Author Posted March 28, 2010 As far as I know this is his first we have been separated 8 months now and he still says there is nothing going on they are just co workers but I know different from his actions and things he has said we have always been close and I trusted him with my life I still cant believe he has done this.
candymoon Posted March 28, 2010 Posted March 28, 2010 I couldnt believe it when my husband did it either. We will be at 20 years ourselves this September. The question is, are we going to be doormats and make it easy for them to do it again? or again? Usually when we suspect something like this, it's true. So he is lying, which makes everything much worse. If he was being man, he'd admit it. Like I said before, coward's way out. And given that that is obviously a fact, is he willing or capable of putting in the work to fix your relationship? Are you?
Author missingandhoping Posted March 28, 2010 Author Posted March 28, 2010 Hi Candymoon I dont hear from him any I dont know what would happen if he wanted to try again. I just know now I love and miss him and dont know how to go on without him. As far as I know now no he doesnt want to work it out, my son said he told him he loves me but hes not in love with me anymore.
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