AD1980 Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 Lately ive seen a few women drop guys they like becasue their bad in bed and one even got back with a somewhat abusive ex becuse he was great in bed Is sex that important to some of you? If you really liked soembody wouldnt you try to make it work instead of dumping him? Seems a little harsh to me
Johnny M Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 Well as a man.. would you? "Bad sex" is a symptom that can have many different causes. If it's bad purely due to inexperience/lack of technique, than it would be stupid to dump somebody for that reason, provided she was willing to learn. If it's bad for physical reasons (i.e. something about her body is unattractive), then yes, I would definitely dump her. If it's bad because of her attitude towards sex (i.e. if she's overly conservative or just lies there and does nothing) and is unwilling to adjust, I'd dump her as well. The bottom line is that sexual compatibility is extremely important in a relationship. You can't have a satisfactory relationship with someone if your sex life is unsatisfactory.
Disintegration Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 Sex is higly important in a relationship. I was seeing a guy back in the day and the first time we had sex was also the last time, why, because it was bad. There were many opportunities afterwards but I avoided it like the plague. He even mentioned that we had only did it once, I of course didn't have the nerve to tell him why.
mem11363 Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 If bad in bed means you think it is ok to get to the finish line without getting her there too than I think the women are 100 percent justified. If bad in bed means you don't give oral sex and she can't consistently come from intercourse than I think the women are 100 percent justified. If bad in bed means, to quote from the movie real genius: You cannot pound 6" masonry nails into a railroad tie with your penis - than - even though I personally would be fully disqualified under this standard - I think the women are 100 percent justified. Who am I to say how important a particular woman feels that sex is in the relationship. If she gives you a shot and you make a sincere effort to please her - she will likely give you another chance. If you try hard to pleasure her - and have some good basic sexual skills - mostly you won't get eliminated based on sex. My opinion - the most important basic skills are - you can get your partner to relax enough to tell you what she likes - you know how to test out her fondness for dominant men - being pinned down - being spanked - without being so dense you end up reading the situation wrong and really upsetting her - you are good at giving oral and LIKE doing it - you can last at least a bit when having intercourse Lately ive seen a few women drop guys they like becasue their bad in bed and one even got back with a somewhat abusive ex becuse he was great in bed Is sex that important to some of you? If you really liked soembody wouldnt you try to make it work instead of dumping him? Seems a little harsh to me
threebyfate Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 As long as the guy is enthusiastic and high drive, it's all good. IMO, bad sex equals sparse or purely selfish sex. Any guy with an ounce of empathy, can figure his way around the female body. Just listen for and feel her physical reaction and for the love of all you hold dear, shake things up a bit, so it doesn't become routine.
St. Nick Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 Women dump a man based on bad sex, cuz his penis was too small, or cuz he was a bad kisser, or various other flimsy reasons. Women are just as superficial as men when choosing a partner, if not more. Just check out the responses in this thread: http://www.tressugar.com/Do-Tell-Have-You-Dumped-Someone-Being-Bad-Bed-3237227
Author AD1980 Posted March 27, 2010 Author Posted March 27, 2010 Sex is higly important in a relationship. I was seeing a guy back in the day and the first time we had sex was also the last time, why, because it was bad. There were many opportunities afterwards but I avoided it like the plague. He even mentioned that we had only did it once, I of course didn't have the nerve to tell him why. Why couldnt you give him another chance or mayeb explain what he did wrong? I could see if you didnt like him at all but if you like soembody youd think youd give em a few chances to improve no?
PJKino Posted March 27, 2010 Posted March 27, 2010 As a virgin i shouldnt even approach women theyll kick me to the curb after we have sex. Women compalin about Men,women these days seem pretty shallow and brutal
CarrieT Posted March 27, 2010 Posted March 27, 2010 I have, yes. But I am one of those women who tend to sleep with men very early in a relationship as I do not want to invest a lot of time getting attached to someone, only to find out we are not sexually compatible. If the sex is not good right off the bat, I don't see how the relationship is going to benefit from multiple attempts, but I am a very intuitive person...
dazzle22 Posted March 27, 2010 Posted March 27, 2010 I agree that you need to clarify what you mean by bad sex. Are you meaning just not quite being "in sync" the first few times, or someone who is very selfish and self absorbed and not taking cues from his partner? The first reason - not a reason for breaking up, the second is a bad sign of where the relationship would go on many levels.
Disintegration Posted March 27, 2010 Posted March 27, 2010 The guy was supposedly more experienced, had been with about 8 females. He was rough and I don't mean rough in a good way either. I told him he was too rough and his words were "that's what the other girls said". So you think he would have learned, but apparently not. I tried communicating the fact but I wasn't about to relive the torment. It was just a complete turn off. I didn't exactly enjoy getting my pubs ripped out. haha He was great in other aspects just not sexually, not for me atleast.
sally4sara Posted March 27, 2010 Posted March 27, 2010 Yes I have. Admittedly, I was very young and still immature. I didn't consider it as a changeable circumstance where as now I would at least explore that as a possibility before throwing in the towel.
bac Posted March 27, 2010 Posted March 27, 2010 (edited) It depends on what a girl looking for. If she wants fun and FWBs, she will dump the guy who is bad at sex. If she wants to get married a very wealthy dude, she would be fine with a guy in 50s with ED. If she wants to get married because she wants to have several kids, she would get married a guy who is bad in sex. I hope you understand that making kids has nothing to do with great sex. I do not think that being great at sex depends on experience. It depends on high sex drive and emotional compatability. If a guy is bad at sex, he will be bad all his life no matter of his huge experience. Edited March 27, 2010 by bac
dazzle22 Posted March 27, 2010 Posted March 27, 2010 The guy was supposedly more experienced, had been with about 8 females. He was rough and I don't mean rough in a good way either. I told him he was too rough and his words were "that's what the other girls said". So you think he would have learned, but apparently not. I tried communicating the fact but I wasn't about to relive the torment. It was just a complete turn off. I didn't exactly enjoy getting my pubs ripped out. haha He was great in other aspects just not sexually, not for me atleast. Well, there are enough red flags waving on THIS guy, to get a blind bull reved up.! So, first, in answer to your response to his brutish behavior, he brings up "the other girls.". NICE.... That also tells you he doesn't let others' feedback of his brutishness modify his behavior in any way. Strike two... He's so rough that numerous women are compelled to offer negative feedback...strike three.. Enough bad signs you should probably post his name on one of those sites warning women to stay away from certain guys who have abused them!!!
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