cg27 Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 My breakup story – My ex and I had some problems. Nothing we could not work through. I told her I love her, forgive her and want to move forward with her. I did break up with her once before. We dated for about 2 years. She told me to **** or get off the pot. It did take me 3 weeks to finally get a ring and ask me to marry me. In her eyes 3 weeks was too long. She told me she needed time to think about it. (I did not like this it should have been an instant yes or no) I accepted it though, and after a month I heard nothing. I called her and told her I am taking her answer is a no. We have not talked in a month. I am going to walk away, and we will be going our own ways. She called me the next day, and told me she needed to see me in person. I agreed. We were sitting in her SUV in a parking lot. She asked me to hold her hand, and put my other hand on her heart. She did the same to me. She told me I am going to give you an answer but promise me you will stay in here for 30 minutes we agreed to talk. I told her ok. She started out saying I love you. I have attraction for you. My head says yes give this a chance. But right now my heart is hurting and I am not able to fully give it to you. I want us to go our separate ways, and realize we do not know what the future holds for us. So my final answer is a no. I am not ready to give myself to anyone right now. I don’t want to tell you yes, and doom everything for failure with me not being 100% ready. I am going to take the risk of losing you forever because I cannot hold you back anymore. I am also going to take the chance and see what fate, destiny, and the stars have in play for us, and see if something does happen in the future for us. She asked me for one last request. I her OK, she leaned over and kissed me once. Then asked me can I have one more kiss, and make it real. We ended up making out for about 2 minutes, and she said wow there is so much passion and a spark still there after a few months of not kissing, and she just needed to know that it still existed. She was right I felt the same way. She said thank you for loving me, I am going to make myself happy, and please do the same for yourself. She ended it with I love you. I walked out she put her windows down, and said she has one last thing for me. It was a kiss. I have never had a relationship end with hold hands, and hearts while breaking up. But I was OK with this because I got closure from someone who could never make a decision. I do have to say with the last kiss we shared it was magnetic, there was passion, and the spark was still there. I don’t know why I feel that way. But I do. I told her I am going, and will begin to move on. I am leaving not thinking about getting back together, but to move on. But I also told her we don’t know what the future holds for us. I will be taking this 1 day at the time. After this she texted me about 10 times that evening. Then we ended up talking for over an hour on the phone before bed. I am 30 and have had relationships in the past. I have been broken up with, and have done the breaking up. I can truly say that this has been the hardest one yet. I still feel that we are both holding on to something, and I don’t know what it is. This is the only girl I have ever bought a diamond for. And I feel like we are both losing our soul mates. Has anyone ever had a breakup like this? Why would breakup be so sad, but also so loving at the same time?
Rearden Metal Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 I usually try to give great advice, but this is making me want to punch things and vomit chunks of pineapple all over my house. Ugh. She's either incredibly full of sh*t, or she's a HUGE drama queen. Or, lastly, she's conflicted in the strangest of ways.
spriggig Posted March 27, 2010 Posted March 27, 2010 She dumped a gold plated turd on your face and then she dumped you. Time for NC and don't look back. GOOD GOD, DON'T LOOK BACK!
bluz73 Posted March 27, 2010 Posted March 27, 2010 It happened to me almost like you..the passionate kissing the chemistry and spark still there the i love you the stroke of my face telling me how beautiful i am the caressing my hair telling me how he loved it,making plans for the future..then in the next sentence while you were away i went out with someone while u were gone and i like her (he is 31 she is 18 GAG) but she moved away and i belived him. the next day the bomb was dropped..i slept with her and my heart has moved on and changed his number/email ect.. left me in total shock and what a mess..now im sitting back laughing seeing pics of them hearing stories..karma is a bitch..so i hope ur girl dont have someone else on the side..good luck i totally feel your pain and i am so sorry you will get thru this..my relationship was almost 7 years
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