Els Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 (edited) When my guy and I first started out online (we were friends IRL before that, but both unavailable and loyal), we were totally into the whole cam sex thing. Our cam sex sessions were so hot and passionate, I doubt some married couples even have that sort of passion in RL sex. We tried so many different things, as we were both newly exploring BDSM as well. He loved seeing glimpses of my nudity, hearing my, uh, sounds, watching me orgasm. Now, 2 years later, we have met IRL several times, lived together for a period of 2+ months. RL sex was always awesome, except for the mishaps or miscommunications that occur once in a blue moon. However, I realize our LD sex isn't all too great anymore. He's not nearly as enthusiastic to see my body, to watch me go at it. I suppose perhaps it's quite expected; now that we've experienced what RL sex with each other has had to offer, cam sex seems pale and drab in comparison. Besides, he's felt up every inch of me RL - how would a partial cam shot be interesting? It's not ALWAYS like that, just a week or so ago he revived a cool old idea that we used to use, and he initiated for the first time in our current LD state, and it was GREAT. But sometimes I get the impression that he isn't all that interested, and is doing it to make me happy - that was something that I don't and never wanted in the sexual department. If both people aren't completely enjoying the sex, I'd rather just get my rocks off by myself. I thought of spicing it up myself - planning something interesting and creative, and, uh, 'sharing' it with him one day. But honestly, I'm afraid of disappointment. Afraid that I might go to all that trouble and he won't like it, or his unpredictable work schedule will necessitate that he'll be so busy that week that he won't be in the mood for it, etc. Anything can crop up there, they use medical interns like bloody donkeys. And that'll just make things worse, won't it? Or... maybe I can just let it die a natural death, since I doubt many LDR couples do the sex thing on cam - I believe some prefer to just keep sex for RL visits. How about you? What do you think? Edited March 26, 2010 by Elswyth
aerogurl87 Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 Well I just started my LDR and we do cam sessions alot, hehe. Sexting is also nice, helps to set the mood for the day/morning/afternoon/night. Anyway, I can see how camming might get old after awhile especially if you're used to RL sex. If that's the case, lay off of it for awhile. He'll start missing it and when he does, he'll start initiating it again.
marionthelibrarian Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 We have what we call "date nights". Which is basically phone sex.
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