Family Poll

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Another thread I started got me wondering about familial contact and what's the norm or average for adults.

 

Please participate in my informal poll. If I get enough responses, I will compile the results TBF style, but I think I'll make a graph or two since I want to look at age and gender as variables. Here are the questions. Please abstain from answering if you live with your parents. If you were raised by a single parent, feel free to respond, but some of the questions will be N/A

 

1. Age

2. Gender

3. How often in a month do you speak to your parent/s (on the phone and see them in person excluding major holidays -- add the two together). For example, if you talk to them over the phone about twice a week and see them in person once a month the montly total would be 9. If you never talk to them over the phone but see them about once every three months, the monthly total would be .33. Make an estimate. Please don't give me ranges because it will increase my work.

4. How close (in miles) do you live to your parent/s?

5. Who calls more often, you or your parent/s or is it about equal?

6. Assuming both are still alive who calls more often, your father or mother?

7. Do your parent/s have a happy marriage, an unhappy marriage, are they divorced, or were you raised by a single parent?

 

Thanks in advance!

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Since this poll is informal, I'll include my responses as well:

 

1. Age -- 26

2. Gender -- F

3. How often in a month do you speak to your parent/s (on the phone and see them in person excluding major holidays -- add the two together). 5

4. How close (in miles) do you live to your parent/s? 100 miles

5. Who calls more often, you or your parent/s or is it about equal? Equal

6. Assuming both are still alive who calls more often, your father or mother? Mother

7. Do your parent/s have a happy marriage, an unhappy marriage, are they divorced, or were you raised by a single parent? mixed bag marriage (I'll add this as an option)

[laRubiaBonita]

1. 31

2. female

3. 5

4. 20

5. equal

6. mother

7. married/ happy

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***I've added "mixed bag marriage" as an option for question #7.

[threebyfate]

1. 35 years old.
   
2. Female.
   
3. Tough question since there are so many spikes and troughs to this. As a really rough average guesstimate around 4 times a month.
   
4. Within 15 miles.
   
5. My parents.
   
6. Hands down, Mom.
   
7. Happy marriage.
   

[Leia]

1. 26

2. Female

3. 9

4. 20 miles

5. My parents

6. Dad

7. Happily married

[sally4sara]

1. Age (mid 30s)

2. Gender (female)

3. How often in a month do you speak to your parent/s? I have no relationship with my father. I speak on the phone with my mother at an average of once every two months and correspond via email a couple times a month. I see her maybe once or twice a year in the flesh. Really we can only safely talk about sewing, gardening, or flowers.

I speak with via phone or email my grandmother about 6 times a year and see her face to face maybe once a year.

I used to talk a lot with my brother I grew up with but he has really turned inexplicably nasty in the last year (don't live close enough to him to have caused this ) and we haven't talked since October.

I speak with one of my other brothers I didn't grow up with about 3 times a year on skype video.

A cousin I see about once a year.

An uncle I speak with via phone about 6 times a year.

I don't speak with my grandfather anymore; he cannot hear well and not at all over the phone, now having alzheimer's prevents him from holding anything that could be called a conversation, but I see him when I see my grandmother.

I am closest to my exMIL. I speak with her almost once a week and she visits for a few days a couple times a year.

I see my son everyday!

4. How close (in miles) do you live to your parent/s?

I live a 7 hour drive from my blood relatives in two different directions. And 12 hours from my exMIL

My son lives with me.

5. Who calls more often, you or your parent/s or is it about equal?

I call all of them for the most part. It is about 50/50 with my exMIL.

6. Assuming both are still alive who calls more often, your father or mother?

My mom will call if a relative died or goes in the hospital. Maybe 2 times a year and it has yet to be about one I really know well. I do not know my dad so he doesn't call at all.

7. Do your parent/s have a happy marriage, an unhappy marriage, are they divorced, or were you raised by a single parent?

My parents were divorced before I turned 1 yrs. Marriage due to pregnancy, so it was a short lived situation and unhappy. Had an awful step dad for about 6 years, that marriage was unhappy and ended when I was almost 12. My mother's current husband came around after I was an adult so we never lived together. That marriage is unhappy but not tumultuous.

 

Sorry if I included non paternal relations; I really don't have anything that resembles a parental relationship so they are all equally considered. I have other relatives, but the fact that I am not a believer has cause my very christian cultish family to withdraw from me. If it means anything, I AM happier in general over this.

[hotgurl]

does emailing count of just phone?

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does emailing count of just phone?

 

Sure, email counts.

[threebyfate]

If email is included, I'm going to have to change the following responses:

 

3. Around 8 times a month.

5. Approximately 50/50.

[hotgurl]

Another thread I started got me wondering about familial contact and what's the norm or average for adults.

 

Please participate in my informal poll. If I get enough responses, I will compile the results TBF style, but I think I'll make a graph or two since I want to look at age and gender as variables. Here are the questions. Please abstain from answering if you live with your parents. If you were raised by a single parent, feel free to respond, but some of the questions will be N/A

 

1. Age 31

2. Gender Female

3. How often in a month do you speak to your parent/s 10 including email

4. How close (in miles) do you live to your parent/s? 40 miles

5. Who calls more often, you or your parent/s or is it about equal? my mom

6. Assuming both are still alive who calls more often, your father or mother? my mom

7. Do your parent/s have a happy marriage, an unhappy marriage, are they divorced, or were you raised by a single parent? I was raised by my mom. But she remarried when I was 7 so I consider my step dad my dad. The have a highly disfunctional relationship

Thanks in advance!

. I have no memory of my bio-dad.

[Pyro]

1. Age 28

2. Gender Male

3. How often in a month do you speak to your parent/s (on the phone and see them in person excluding major holidays -- add the two together). For example, if you talk to them over the phone about twice a week and see them in person once a month the montly total would be 9. If you never talk to them over the phone but see them about once every three months, the monthly total would be .33. Make an estimate. Please don't give me ranges because it will increase my work. Between the two of them, about 4 times a month

4. How close (in miles) do you live to your parent/s? About 7 miles each

5. Who calls more often, you or your parent/s or is it about equal? My parents

6. Assuming both are still alive who calls more often, your father or mother? Mum

7. Do your parent/s have a happy marriage, an unhappy marriage, are they divorced, or were you raised by a single parent? They divorced when I was 16

[tigressA]

1. Age -- 22

2. Gender -- F

3. How often in a month do you speak to your parent/s (on the phone and see them in person excluding major holidays -- add the two together). 2.083 (talk to them roughly twice a month/see them once a year)

4. How close (in miles) do you live to your parent/s? 250 miles.

5. Who calls more often, you or your parent/s or is it about equal? Me.

6. Assuming both are still alive who calls more often, your father or mother? Mother.

7. Do your parent/s have a happy marriage, an unhappy marriage, are they divorced, or were you raised by a single parent? Never married, split when I was 5.

[make me believe]

1. 26

2. Female

3. About 3-4x a month. Maybe speak to them once every other week, and see them once or twice a month.

4. I'm about 15 miles away from my parents

5. Equal

6. My mom calls more often

7. Unhappy marriage

[quankanne]

1. Age 44

2. Gender female

 

3. How often in a month do you speak to your parent/s (on the phone and see them in person excluding major holidays -- add the two together). For example, if you talk to them over the phone about twice a week and see them in person once a month the montly total would be 9. If you never talk to them over the phone but see them about once every three months, the monthly total would be .33. Make an estimate. Please don't give me ranges because it will increase my work. my folks are dead ... BUT! When they were alive, especially my mom, it wasn't unusual for her and I to call each other a couple of times a day to gossip. I'd visit every couple of months on top of that, I was really close to my mom. When she died, I bumped up phone calls and visits to my dad (which were rare before then) just to check upon him ... so, with mom, total about 60 phone calls/month with my mom alive; about 25 after she died. Visits were an average of 4 times a year while they were well and both alive.

 

 

4. How close (in miles) do you live to your parent/s? approximately 375 miles to my hometown

5. Who calls more often, you or your parent/s or is it about equal? again, with my mom, it was about even; with my dad, I called him about 98 percent of the time

6. Assuming both are still alive who calls more often, your father or mother? definitely my mother was the one who called more often

7. Do your parent/s have a happy marriage, an unhappy marriage, are they divorced, or were you raised by a single parent? married 50 years, but with problems they'd turn a blind eye to, IMO

Edited March 26, 2010 by quankanne

[Star Gazer]

1. 31

2. F

3. Not counting email: 9.5; counting email: 20+.

4. 40

5. I'm almost always the one initiating contact.

6. N/A

7. Single parent

[sweetjasmine]

1. Age - early 20s

2. Gender - female

3. How often in a month do you speak to your parent/s - 2 times a month

4. How close (in miles) do you live to your parent/s? - almost 800 miles

5. Who calls more often, you or your parent/s or is it about equal? - they call, usually

6. Assuming both are still alive who calls more often, your father or mother? - mother

7. Do your parent/s have a happy marriage, an unhappy marriage, are they divorced, or were you raised by a single parent? - not-so-happy marriage

[BUENG1]

Another thread I started got me wondering about familial contact and what's the norm or average for adults.

 

Please participate in my informal poll. If I get enough responses, I will compile the results TBF style, but I think I'll make a graph or two since I want to look at age and gender as variables. Here are the questions. Please abstain from answering if you live with your parents. If you were raised by a single parent, feel free to respond, but some of the questions will be N/A

 

1. Age

2. Gender

3. How often in a month do you speak to your parent/s (on the phone and see them in person excluding major holidays -- add the two together). For example, if you talk to them over the phone about twice a week and see them in person once a month the montly total would be 9. If you never talk to them over the phone but see them about once every three months, the monthly total would be .33. Make an estimate. Please don't give me ranges because it will increase my work.

4. How close (in miles) do you live to your parent/s?

5. Who calls more often, you or your parent/s or is it about equal?

6. Assuming both are still alive who calls more often, your father or mother?

7. Do your parent/s have a happy marriage, an unhappy marriage, are they divorced, or were you raised by a single parent?

 

Thanks in advance!

1. 24

2. male

3. 21

4. 120 miles.

5. parents

6. mother.

7. divorced(after I was in college)

[mammax3]

Another thread I started got me wondering about familial contact and what's the norm or average for adults.

 

Please participate in my informal poll.

1. Age

2. Gender

3. How often in a month do you speak to your parent/s (on the phone and see them in person excluding major holidays -- add the two together). For example, if you talk to them over the phone about twice a week and see them in person once a month the montly total would be 9. If you never talk to them over the phone but see them about once every three months, the monthly total would be .33. Make an estimate. Please don't give me ranges because it will increase my work.

4. How close (in miles) do you live to your parent/s?

5. Who calls more often, you or your parent/s or is it about equal?

6. Assuming both are still alive who calls more often, your father or mother?

7. Do your parent/s have a happy marriage, an unhappy marriage, are they divorced, or were you raised by a single parent?

 

Thanks in advance!

 

1. 33

2. Female

3. about 32x

4. 5 miles

5. About equal (maybe slightly more me)

6. Mother

7. Divorced

[allina]

1. Age 26

2. Gender female

3. How often in a month do you speak to your parent/s (on the phone and see them in person excluding major holidays -- add the two together). For example, if you talk to them over the phone about twice a week and see them in person once a month the montly total would be 9. If you never talk to them over the phone but see them about once every three months, the monthly total would be .33. Make an estimate. Please don't give me ranges because it will increase my work. 25

4. How close (in miles) do you live to your parent/s? 60 miles

5. Who calls more often, you or your parent/s or is it about equal? even

6. Assuming both are still alive who calls more often, your father or mother? mother

7. Do your parent/s have a happy marriage, an unhappy marriage, are they divorced, or were you raised by a single parent? happily married for 29 years

[SadandConfusedWA]

1. 31

2. Female

3. Speak every day, visit once a week - text multiple times a day so about 64

4. 20 miles

5. About equal (maybe slightly more mum)

6. Mum

7. Married for 30 years but have problems, my mum has to be a doormat and my dad is overly controling. My mum is not happy in the marriage but my dad is (because she always lets him have his way).

[Ariadne]

1. 42

2. F

3. 6/mo

4. 6,000 miles

5. Equal

6. Mother

7. Happy marriage. (Same as SaC, father is controlling and mom is submissive, my father is happy and my mom a bit opressed)

[SadandConfusedWA]

Compared to others my contact seems a bit excessive . Although my parents are the same with my brother, possibly worse because he lives about 5 minutes from them.

[Meaplus3]

1. Age Pre- cougar.

 

2. Gender Female

 

3.I speak with my parents about every other day. I am very close with them both. I see then a few times per month.. and in the summer more than that.

 

4. How close (in miles) do you live to your parent/s? 50 miles

 

5. Who calls more often, you or your parent/s or is it about equal? About equal.

 

6. Assuming both are still alive who calls more often, your father or mother? My mom

 

7. Do your parent/s have a happy marriage, an unhappy marriage, are they divorced, or were you raised by a single parent? They had happy moments.. and they had some rough times but, they stuck together and will be married 45 years this coming summer.

 

 

 

Mea:)

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Thanks for the responses, guys!

 

I'm hoping to get some more before I make the graphs.

 

Please participate if you haven't already!