lsb Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 My ex wrote me an email last week asking to start fresh as friends saying how he missed me. We broke up 10 months ago. I think he cheated on me and I never confronted him about it. It was early on in the relationship. But, there were also messages he sent to a certain woman that were flirty. For some reason these things are bothering me now. More the fact that I never said anything about them. My question is: should it matter? Should I tell him now what I know?
EYECANDY000 Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 My ex wrote me an email last week asking to start fresh as friends saying how he missed me. We broke up 10 months ago. I think he cheated on me and I never confronted him about it. It was early on in the relationship. But, there were also messages he sent to a certain woman that were flirty. For some reason these things are bothering me now. More the fact that I never said anything about them. My question is: should it matter? Should I tell him now what I know? Do you want to be friends with your ex? or do you want more?
Author lsb Posted March 26, 2010 Author Posted March 26, 2010 I probably would always long for what we were. Because that was the best. I think a friendship would feel like a watered-down version of what we had. Which I think I could maybe deal with if I got over the hurt. But him on the other hand - he is clingy and obsessive. I am not entirely sure he really actually wants to be friends. I think he is the one that would want more. And while I wish we could be more, I do not think the trust is there.
Weird Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 I say you simply be honest with him and get it off your mind. As for the friendship deal, it sounds like you still have feelings and you feel he does so a strictly friends deal won't work.
ADF Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 Men don't contact ex's to "start fresh as friends." Sorry, but they just don't. When men contact ex's it is for one reason only: to see if they can rekindle the relationship, or at least get laid. Given the history you have with this man and your suspicions, I suggest you forget the let's-be-friends idea.
Author lsb Posted March 26, 2010 Author Posted March 26, 2010 so basically. . . if im not going to be friends with him. . . it would be pointless to talk to him and explain why?
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