ladyem Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 I have been dating a guy for the past 5 weeks. However 3 of those weeks we didnt see each other becasue I was on holiday and then he was on holiday. It was a bit annoying becasue we had really hit it off and this affected the momentum. But during that time there was quite a bit of texting and he called me when he got back. We have seen each other once since we came back from our holidays. I joined him on a night out with his friends who were lovely and made a real effort with me. We have slept with each other a few times too. So here's the problem... I last saw him on sunday - he dropped me home and said he would call me during the week. I text him that evening asking if I had left my belt at his and he replied and told me that I had and to 'have a good week', there wasn't anything to reply to so I didnt. Its now friday morning and still no call! I text him late last night with some banter to ask him how much the randsom would be for my belt. Havent heard back. Im seriously confussed. There is something strange going on - he was alilttle distant on our last date, and a bit emotionally guarded. I cant work out whether he is just 'not that into me' or whether he has been hurt before and is therefore protecting himself. I know that he has only had 1 big relationship before (he's 32) so I'm wondering whether he is just rubbish with women. Am I being a typical overlly analytical female? What should I do. Any advice would be great.
boogieboy Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 Hes not that into you. He got what he wanted. If he doesnt need to hear from you for a week, he's not feelin you.
DustySaltus Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 "Have a good week", almost sounds like it could've been "Have a nice life". I think he may be trying to keep it a FWB situation or he's not really interested. A man would notice the "momentum" as well if he was truly interested. He would be much more attentive and available to try to get things back on the level they were heading before. Unfortunately, at this point he's not making that effort. Explore your options, good luck.
make me believe Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 "Have a good week" is pretty telling. He was letting you know that he didn't plan on seeing/speaking to you during the week, and for someone you've been seeing and sleeping with for a few weeks, that's pretty harsh. Even if he's been hurt before...so what??! EVERYONE has been hurt in the past. That doesn't mean he'd ignore a girl, that he's interested in, for over a week. Key words there - 'that he's interested in.' Unfortunately, I'd have to guess he's just not interested in you anymore.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 Was it a great belt? I'm sorry to say this, but if you don't hear from him the chances of you getting your belt back is slim to none. Always safeguard your possession, or at least that's my motto, because I always seem to lose stuff whenever I stayed over with someone.
Author ladyem Posted March 27, 2010 Author Posted March 27, 2010 Was it a great belt? I'm sorry to say this, but if you don't hear from him the chances of you getting your belt back is slim to none. Always safeguard your possession, or at least that's my motto, because I always seem to lose stuff whenever I stayed over with someone. Thanks for all your comments guys - the truth hurts but I supose I need to get a grip! I'm just really disapointed that after this number of dates and the length of time that we have been seeing each other he could'nt even have the decency to drop me a text let alone call to tell me he's not interested.What an A - hole! And yes it was a really special belt that I really want to get back -I thought I might lave it a few days then text him something very simple saying 'Can you post my belt to me' - what do you reckon?
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