tikster Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 so my most recent ex since september finally called me and apologized for how he treated my during our breakup and for the many months onward. He actually asked the next day if he could drive an hour to my college to take me out to dinner. He and I have a mutual friend, my really good friend. she was reluctant about it all. some background info: months before we dated she had a crush on my ex. a crush, he never asked her out and he even emphasized that they were just friends to her. however, he liked me and was asking me out all the time. after many months and making sure she moved on and that i wanted to be with him. we began dating. which only lasted a few months and i didn't want to tell anyone that we were official until i was sure he was there to stay. when we broke up i talked to her about it and i apologized for keeping her in the dark, but it was for my own personal reasons not to be deceitful towards her. we remained really good friends. present day: the night before i am to go to dinner with the ex to talk, my best friend calls me to tell me that she and he slept together 3 months ago. I was just devastated because i cried to her about how upset i was with our breakup. idk. I cancelled the dinner with the ex right away. HE then sends me a text saying that she's a liar and he's upset because it isn't true. He is done talking to me because i believe everything she says and to leave him alone. my question is: how did it become my fault? I was just reacting to some very hard news and i told him if it wasn't true then why is he so mad at me and why couldn't he talk to me? i'm so upset. i don't know what to do about my friend as of now i'm not talking to her she says that she understands because that's how she felt when i told her that he and I were dating, but i'm like it's not the same! we had a relationship and you just had a crush that you were over! I don't get it and i told the guy how much of a jerk he is for making me the bad person. am i wrong?
OndaChin Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 I suggest... "Dump both parties and make new friends" You can't trust either person anylonger and the nagging voices WILL ALWAYS HAUNT YOU on who's lying or telling the truth. You don't need that crap! NONE OF MY FRIENDS (incl. Me) SLEEP WITH OTHER FRIENDS (WOMEN)... unless it's a : "consensual" group session.
KevinHJW Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 man, i'm so sorry for the things u r going thu. to be honest, i'm not able to read the story. that must hurt alot!!! but u know what? maybe the good thing is u found out early and u still have the chance to move on and start real relationships. GOOD LUCK!
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