Kris30 Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 Well, the guy I'm interested in didn't call and yesterday I texted him (have a good day type thing) and didn't get a response. But last night I was thinking about it and we really haven't talked on the phone regularly at all before...it's just now since I'm interested I want to talk to him (lol). Maybe that's why he hasn't called? He iis very busy. He works a lot and he is a primary caretaker for his father who has alzheimers. We do have a date planned for next week so I'm sure he'll be in touch. But I want to talk to him before then so I can ask him to a party this weekend! I'm pretty sure this guy is interested, but is just not sure I'm interested. What do I do? Our mutual friend set us up and I'm seriously thinking of asking her if she knows if he's really interested. And asking her if I should call him and ask him to her party?
Fouts Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 Kris, don't take this the wrong way, but if you're as neurotic in RL as you are on here, you're going to push any man away, including this one. You texted him, he'll either get back with you or not. No matter how busy us men may be, if we like you, we'll get back to you. Wait and see what happens.
phineas Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 Even if I like a woman, I myself am not a big texter & unless someone sends me a text that is asking a question I probably won't respond unless i'm bored & looking for something to do. "have a nice day" type texts or FWD joke texts I don't usually respond to. But that's me.
bucky112 Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 I must agree with fouts here, if im really into a girl it doesnt matter what im doing i always make time to text them back, all men are different though so dont overthink it, good luck hope it all goes well for you.
befreckled Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 agree with the boys. disinterest to men, is as good as a rejection. no one is too busy not to reply to a text. to not text first, perhaps because, you aren't in his train of thought but, to not reply is rude and if he does like you, he would want to jump at ANY opportunity to be in contact more. just my experience.
Author Kris30 Posted March 25, 2010 Author Posted March 25, 2010 Alright I see what you're saying about how if he was interested he would get in touch... But if he's not interested why did he ask me out last time we spoke? We have plans to go see a movie next week. That just doesn't make sense to me...
befreckled Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 Alright I see what you're saying about how if he was interested he would get in touch... But if he's not interested why did he ask me out last time we spoke? We have plans to go see a movie next week. That just doesn't make sense to me... Someone told me this once and it made alot of sense to me so I'll pass along to you. If you like someone, watch what he does and not what he says. He could say, you are the most gorgeous girl on earth..make plans to marry you and have kids (not in reference to your situtation but, the most absurd possibility ever) tomorrow and then, not contact you at all. Sure, exceptions exists. Do you really want to consider yourself the exception and not the norm? That said, if he does get in touch then perhaps there's more weight to his promises. Until then, it's sorta of empty.
Austen Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 Rent the movie or read the book: He's Just Not That Into You. It will explain alot. If he still wants to go on the date, he will contact you. If next week comes and goes and you haven't heard from him, then you have your answer. You might want to text him one more time, but after that I would leave him alone and leave the ball in his court. Good luck!
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