Kevinds Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 there is a girl that is see twice a week but usually once or twice a month i get a sms from her being very sorry that she can't make it because of change of school schedule, how do i usually know if she is sincere or not? because she would then message me and say she wants me to meet next week.
Author Kevinds Posted March 25, 2010 Author Posted March 25, 2010 What is am basically saying is that I am seeing this girl twice a week so 8 times a month. but out of those 8 times ,she would would make an excuse twice. She is usually very sorry and would reschedule me the following week due to work or school. My concern is if she is just playing with me or if she is serious about working with me in the getting a relationship
boogieboy Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 She isnt sincere. If she really was into you, she would make sure that she can see you. What you need to do is not sweat her. Next time she calls, youre busy. Time after that, if she wants to get together, let her say so, but dont expect her to follow through. If she cancels again, ignore her. She isnt worth it.
bac Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 You see her a lot. She may be totally sincere. The only way to figure out is to ask her details about those things that she did when she was busy. If a person lies giving you detailed info, they are 1. Inconsistent with all details 2. Illogical, which means it is hard to believe that the stuff could happen if you try to see a big picture. 3. The most important thing is that you should repeat the same question next week or so and compare the answer. If a person lies, he/she will forget some of the details of their lies in a week or so. 4. When you ask her, be understanding and supportive. Let her know, that you ask her the questions because you are interested in her life and care for her. Do not show mistrust/jealousy, because she will have a good excuse of being offended by your mistrust not to answer your questions.
mrkleen Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 You seem needy. This girl is giving you 2 nights a week and every once in a while something comes up and she has to cancel and you are complaining? How much of her time do you think you should get after such a short period of time? Balance is VERY important to any relationship. Learn to make yourself happy and not have your happiness defined by who you are dating...and you will both be better off for it in the long run.
DustySaltus Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 You got to make sure you have a life outside of this girl. If you start questioning her you will see needy and look like you don't trust her. I think whta's going right now is perfectly normal. If things get more serious you set up boundaries but ti's too early to do that now. Just go with the flow.
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