neonthai91 Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 I'm still in High School but it was the first time in my life i've been in a relationship. I'm now a senior and i'm graduating in two months. Anyways it's been 11 months in that nice time i spent with my girlfriend. Right now we just broke up on Monday 3/21/10, and i'm not sure what to do. At first i was in complete denial of it ever happening but now it has. It started back on her birthday in November. She told me her feelings has changed and when i asked why she says "I don't know". which was weird. now that i think about it it was right after the honeymoon phase. i thought that we can make things work. but then we started arguing about the same things. we didn't spend enough time together, not keeping a promise, not being happy, etc. all the things that i thought we needed to make things work. then after a while we started arguing so much that it got unbearable to her and she told me she wanted to break up but she couldn't and i was grateful. but within the last two months she's been thinking about that way for so long. she's been fed up with me and she doesn't see anything in me anymore. so i told her we should take a break and i'll hear her final decision. I assumed she would see the wrongs and try to make it work this time. it was the past 5 months things were like this. and i wanted to atleast make things work for out one year thats coming up soon. right now we're officially single and we're trying to cope with the break up. but i feel like i need her because i don't think anything will work the same. we've contacted each other a couple of times but it turned into arguements again because i failed to accept the truth. now i have after 3 days of us sepearting even though it was really a couple weeks worth of it because of the time i told her we should take a break. I really want her back in my life, but i also understand that if i push for it, it will backfire and i will push myself further and further away. I really started to see how things went wrong now, i feel that things can change and work now that we've been apart. but she just doesn't see that. and it hurts to know that what she said of us trying things was just me trying things to make it work. it didn't and we never got our friends involved because i thought we could work things out ourselve. i was naive and now it turned into disaster. What should i do? we were looking forward to everything in the next two months... interim week (our school lets us do something the entire week for elective credits) and prom is coming up... Was the hints there the entire time? should i have broken it up back then? she really did make me happy but now it hurts to see us going away... What should i do? I can't fall asleep early enough for school and i can't go through a thought without her being involved somehow... when i close my eyes i see her smiling, when i stare to make my mind blank i see us holding hands like the sweet times. Was it the right decision? and what do i do?
jerrytodd Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 You are very mature for a high school kid so congrats -- that will make this easier. Sorry but I think you have your answer, you did the work, you gave it your all and sadly you cant make someone love you the way you want them to. So staying away from her and starting to work on new relationships and your self is a good idea. Best of luck to you, you will do really well.
neoskunk Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 I really started to see how things went wrong now, i feel that things can change and work now that we've been apart. but she just doesn't see that. and it hurts to know that what she said of us trying things was just me trying things to make it work. sadly things do not change(at least not how you are suggesting...perhaps with time). they might for a bit but eventually you will slip back into the same habits and arguments that you are having now. it doesn't sound like it's either of your faults really. you were simply being yourselves and things didn't work out. I know it feels bad right now but in the end do you really think it would be wise to change who you are for this girl? nothing to be ashamed of. like jerrytodd said, move on! it is your best option, i promise.
Author neonthai91 Posted March 25, 2010 Author Posted March 25, 2010 There's still one thing that i just need to know, Why did her feelings changed? i mean its one thing that it changed but its another to break up if she thinks things just won't work out.
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