SimplyIzzy2010 Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 It sucks when you've gone approximately 2 months nc, you think you're well, you're up late working one night and when you finish you go lay down, then your cell phone rings and for the first time in so long, you see their phone number. And you're faced with two choices: answer, or ignore. And its the hardest test I've ever been through. I ignored the call, but 2 days later, its still on my mind. What could he possibly want? Should I have answered? Easily, the biggest enemy of NC is the mind. Just needed to vent, I just don't understand. I need some advice :/
Rearden Metal Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 Ugh... I know that moment is only a matter of time before it's upon me. I know I have to do what you did and ignore. God, that sounds hard. Kudos for sticking to your guns.
brwneyedgrl3333 Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 Oh yeah...that's a tough one SimplyIzzy...just went thru that myself a little over 3 weeks ago. Although it was in email form not a phone call I'm pretty sure the feelings are similar. It was 2 months almost to the day since we last had any contact. I felt on top of things for the first 2 days or so after he sent a 6 word email asking me if I wanted to meet him somewhere and then I slid down into the pits of despair for a week or better. I didn't respond. I got alot of good input from people telling me that a pathetic 6 word email does NOT constitute him wanting to reconcile things and if it was the ice breaker for that, he would certainly continue to contact me, which he hasn't. Not another peep at all. There ya go. More then likely your ex is lonesome and missing you and needing to know, just to stroke his ego a tad, whether or not you will bite. What 'cha gonna do? Are you going to bite? You've been strong for almost 2 months Simply....Don't break NC!! Stay strong girl and take care of you!!
USMCHokie Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 So glad I will never have to deal with that situation...because I know I'd pick up every time...but that's only because I don't actually know her number anymore and wouldn't be able to screen...
Bleed Internal Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 been going through the same thing all week, buddy. i've ignored multiple calls and texts. hopefully she realizes that lying to me last week was the last straw. we've been back and forth in the 8 months since the breakup and i've taken so much crap from her. finally decided to do something about it and i've been NC for the past several days. of course, she's been trying to contact me, which is gratifying, but i don't plan on giving in this time. i'm ready to move on. you can do it too!
spriggig Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 Sheesh, I think I long for the day I get to ignore her crawling back to me. Because it will never happen. And it will certainly never happen as long as she knows I'd take her back.
Tamia78 Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 WTG for sticking to NC! The last thing my ex sent me was a text that said "hey" at 1am a few weekends ago. I didn't answer. But, like you, I did wonder what he wanted. It's hard, but stay strong! I'm not saying remember the bad times, but if it helps, remember the reasons why you guys just can't be together. That's kinda what I have to do...........because I want him back so bad. --T
Author SimplyIzzy2010 Posted March 25, 2010 Author Posted March 25, 2010 Hey guys! Thank you for the advice and the encouragement! Rearden Metal: Yeah, it is really hard but its so much better to ignore. that way you can keep moving on! brwneyedgrl: Thanks girl! that helped a lot! you're so right of course! its just that sometimes its hard to remember USMCHokie: That's not good! you should at least know what it looks like so you can ignore! i don't have my ex's number anywhere, but i have it memorized so that's the bad thing :/ Bleed Internal: I completely understand! this guy put me through hell and back, let me tell ya, it was awful, and i gave him like a fifth chance, and this is also my final straw and we both have to stick to our guns! spriggig: it doesn't feel as good as you think at does, especially when all you want is to be happy and in peace :/ Tamia78: yes, remembering the bad times is the best solution! its so hard but let me tell you, our lives are better off without them! we just have to fight our minds sometimes, but in the long run its better to start over and move on from them wondering what they could say is horrible, but breaking nc and finding out that its something bad, like "oh, im with someone else" or something, well i would rather not know!
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