VertexSquared Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 What should I do? This is via eharm: Me: "Would you be interested in drinks sometime after work later on this week? Do you have any free evenings coming up?" Her response: "Hmm not positive but tomorrow after work might be good. Otherwise, Monday would work out too. Orrrrr would you be able to go for lunch? That's always a lot more do-able for me. Or do you not work in a cool office like mine where you can just take off for a while? >.> Totally short notice - but some work totally cleared up today so lunch today would be great ?!?!" What is your reaction? I can't tell if she *technically* rejected my invitation or not in favor of something "friendlier" or something with an automatically short timespan, haha.
WhenIrishEyesSmile Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 If you're interested and can make it, I'd say just go. You'll get a better idea about those things after meeting her.
Author VertexSquared Posted March 24, 2010 Author Posted March 24, 2010 Would you agree with my concerns/sentiments given that reply?
dressing up Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 Why do you think she rejected you? She was the one who suggested the lunch, right?
WhenIrishEyesSmile Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 Would you agree with my concerns/sentiments given that reply? It's hard to tell with email. Since she suggested lunch, I wouldn't take it as a rejection, unless you have told her in the past that lunch is impossible for you, always. Perhaps she suggested lunch for the definite timeframe...but it's online dating, can you blame her? If you think that's what she's doing, don't take it personally. I merely took that at face value - lunch is more "doable" for her. I don't think you should read so much into these things, for the reasons above, but there are so many possible "explanations" and you will never know her via email - you have to meet her in person to really get to know her. For all you know, she doesn't drink. Or, Maybe she had the same concern as you in your other thread, maybe she doesn't want to get hammered (come across as trashy) or something.
Author VertexSquared Posted March 24, 2010 Author Posted March 24, 2010 It's just another case where, yet again, I can't tell if this is "potential interest" or "friendliness."
Author VertexSquared Posted March 24, 2010 Author Posted March 24, 2010 dressing up: I ask because I am really, really, *really* bad at interpreting this stuff. I've found that taking things at face value is rarely accurate -- people tend to be indirect. I am wondering if she is dismissing my initial invitation to some degree? I feel like lunch inbetween work hours is too impersonal.
boogieboy Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 dressing up: I ask because I am really, really, *really* bad at interpreting this stuff. I've found that taking things at face value is rarely accurate -- people tend to be indirect. I am wondering if she is dismissing my initial invitation to some degree? I feel like lunch inbetween work hours is too impersonal. She wants to do lunch because its short just in case. She also wants to do it on her time. You can tell her you cant do lunch, but you can do drinks after work tomorrow. She wants to make you come to her, dont do it.
Author VertexSquared Posted March 24, 2010 Author Posted March 24, 2010 Is she just not that interested?
WhenIrishEyesSmile Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 Is she just not that interested? If she wasn't that interested, she wouldn't have suggested an alternative date.You can't expext a high level of interest anyways - you haven't even met her yet, have you?Don't people who date online generally do it because they're busy?
Author VertexSquared Posted March 24, 2010 Author Posted March 24, 2010 If she wasn't that interested, she wouldn't have suggested an alternative date.You can't expext a high level of interest anyways - you haven't even met her yet, have you?Don't people who date online generally do it because they're busy? I do it because I am busy (but I know how to make time) and because I am very shy and have a hard time showing interest when I meet someone naturally (that is to say, things always become just friendly).
SadandConfusedWA Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 It's just another case where, yet again, I can't tell if this is "potential interest" or "friendliness." Uh, she is not on Eharmony to find friends.
Author VertexSquared Posted March 24, 2010 Author Posted March 24, 2010 Uh, she is not on Eharmony to find friends. That's what I would assume too, but I just can never tell with other people anymore, lol.
Author VertexSquared Posted March 24, 2010 Author Posted March 24, 2010 Do you think she might just be shy? Would lunch perhaps be a better way to meet? Or is that too friendly? Would it be forward of me to still offer to pay for her meal?
torranceshipman Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 For the love of God man, you asked her out and she accepted, so GO! Lol....
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