carhill Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 I like this ^^^^ OP, I'll guarantee you the day you get moist over some other guy and start this all over again, this guy will contact you. So, with that in mind, get some panty liners and get busy
Author marsle85 Posted March 30, 2010 Author Posted March 30, 2010 What do you want? I'll take sex. Personally i'd like to reDO that entire night. I don't want to set myself up for just a FWB relationship. - i'd be interested if he were to continue pursuit after, but if not- I'm down to move on, yanno? Either ONS or continue seeing eachother. I just want some of that, regardless haha. Since there doesn't seem to be any female posters awake right now I'll write down what they'd say if they were here: No! Make him beg for you. Make him crawl on the ground grovelling for sex from you. Don't call him again. Don't even say his name, it would be blasphemy. Everything that's happened has all been his fault. He's the son of Satan. If he really liked you he'd make more of a move to contact you. If he couldn't contact you by phone, then he'd contact you by email. If he couldn't get you by email, then he'd skywright your name over the Empire State Building. If that didn't work then he'd use telepathy to get in touch with you. Remember marsle, you're a good girl. You're sweet. You're pure. You're special. You've done nothing wrong. Ever. It's all his fault. Because he has a penis it's all his fault. And what would St. Nick say?
homersheineken Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 I'll take sex. Personally i'd like to reDO that entire night. I don't want to set myself up for just a FWB relationship. - i'd be interested if he were to continue pursuit after, but if not- I'm down to move on, yanno? Either ONS or continue seeing eachother. I just want some of that, regardless haha. You dirty little girl Nice. Wait a week from the last text and try again (call, don't txt) and invite him over to your place. You probably will not get him to pursue you. He hasn't shown that yet and probably never will. I really don't think dating is going to happen, esp if he's spending more than 1/2 his life at his job. Why would you want that anyways?
Author marsle85 Posted March 30, 2010 Author Posted March 30, 2010 The problem is I grew up with two older brothers and their friends, and I thrive on competition. I know that's not what this is, but I enjoy calling the shots. I guess in a way - doing this empowers me, and I know I got what I wanted out of it. It may not be right, but it's the honest truth.
homersheineken Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 I can relate as I thrive on it too and enjoy a good chase or challenge - hence I'm a phd candidate with a job in an opposite field. But you didn't get what you wanted out of it - your last post shows that Use your competitive spirit to find a better catch. Everybody loses and gets turned down, everyone - even Tom Brady has been rejected. Move on and find a better person to compete over. Btw - I like the blond better.
Author marsle85 Posted March 30, 2010 Author Posted March 30, 2010 I can relate as I thrive on it too and enjoy a good chase or challenge - hence I'm a phd candidate with a job in an opposite field. But you didn't get what you wanted out of it - your last post shows that Use your competitive spirit to find a better catch. Everybody loses and gets turned down, everyone - even Tom Brady has been rejected. Move on and find a better person to compete over. Btw - I like the blond better. I think my background also sponsored my behavior and theories here. Growing up with older brothers/friends all the time, with no sisters- I grew accustomed to men 6-9 years older than me. Like you, I am majoring in Psychology- but it wasn't quite hardcore enough, so now i'm moving into Neurobiology...what? I don't know if I even like brains, or how difficult the material is. I was NEVER tempted by highschool romances/little boys... college dating scene was better- but still pretty disappointing. So when this guy came around- he was the perfect age, legitimate job, in school, attractive, intelligent... All of these things were easy to glamorize- and not necessarily reality. Lust only made this whole issue worse... He checked off my list of turn-ons - and so I was sold. I liked his image, not him... because frankly, it's impossible to really like someone after knowing them for such a short time. I know this. I didn't get what I wanted, no. But I also am not the type to just sleep with anyone. I have to either be emotionally connected - or know that the sex will be really good. These can be exclusive of one another. Wow. I feel weirdly a lot better. And thanks! I thought Homer would prefer hair with more of a blue-tinge.
A O Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Haha, so much truth in this. I've been wishy washy When it comes to sex you have been wishy washy, mainly because he is (or was) such a prize to you, meaning, you were caught in two minds as to whether sex with him would have increased or decreased your chances with him. You took a gamble and you lost. However, there's little doubt as to what you really wanted here, you wanted it all (a relationship) because he is/was such a prize! Now, now you're trying to work out whether a piece of a prize is better than nothing at all. The simple answer to that is that it isn't. .
BobSacamento Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Hey - Highschool called, it wants its bad decisions back.
Author marsle85 Posted March 30, 2010 Author Posted March 30, 2010 Give me a break. Move off if you have nothing meaningful to say.
bayouboi Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Btw - I like the blond better. I'm gonna have to disagree with homer, here. The blond is hot, don't get me wrong, but the brunette was sexy+!
Jersey Shortie Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Hey - Highschool called, it wants its bad decisions back. Would have been more funny if you said High school Musical. I'll take sex. Personally i'd like to reDO that entire night. I don't want to set myself up for just a FWB relationship. - i'd be interested if he were to continue pursuit after, but if not- I'm down to move on, yanno? Either ONS or continue seeing each other. I just want some of that, regardless haha. You are setting yourself up to fail here. Don't ever put yourself in a situation with a guy you have a high interest in and settle for just the sex just because he makes you excited. It will end up worse off.
stillafool Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 I'm not sure what "Give him something he can feel" means... Stillafool, I feel foolish asking him over and then dropping this romantic dinner on him- when he clearly did not show interest in getting together again romantically. You think this would be effective? Yes I most certainly think it would be effective. Ask the guys if they think it would be effective. Don't feel foolish, so many times we let our pride get in the way and we miss out. I am a woman and I feel there is a misunderstanding between the two of you because to me there seems to be a "communication" problem. I don't feel there is anything wrong with giving it one last try. If there is no response then at least you will know you tried. What do you have to lose? Honestly, what do you have to lose? Don't tell your gfs what you are planning to do. I never involved my friends in those kind of decisions. I've lived a while and I can tell you it is not often in life a woman finds a man she has the kind of feeling you have for this man. Maybe he feels the same way about you but he is a grown man with grown man needs and doesn't want to play around anymore. When I say give him something he can feel. Well, it's hard to put into words, but you are a woman afterall, search yourself and you will find the meaning.
St. Nick Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 And what would St. Nick say? St. Nick would say you looked better as a brunette.
Kamille Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Don't feel foolish, so many times we let our pride get in the way and we miss out. I totally agree. We're often more involved in protecting our egos then we are in establishing real connections. When I say give him something he can feel. Well, it's hard to put into words, but you are a woman afterall, search yourself and you will find the meaning. It is hard to describe but I know what you mean. To me, that means: be your playful self, have fun, be relaxed. More importantly, know that you have all it takes to make some lucky guy very happy.
homersheineken Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 I think my background also sponsored my behavior and theories here. Growing up with older brothers/friends all the time, with no sisters- I grew accustomed to men 6-9 years older than me. Like you, I am majoring in Psychology- but it wasn't quite hardcore enough, so now i'm moving into Neurobiology...what? I don't know if I even like brains, or how difficult the material is. I was NEVER tempted by highschool romances/little boys... college dating scene was better- but still pretty disappointing. So when this guy came around- he was the perfect age, legitimate job, in school, attractive, intelligent... All of these things were easy to glamorize- and not necessarily reality. Lust only made this whole issue worse... He checked off my list of turn-ons - and so I was sold. I liked his image, not him... because frankly, it's impossible to really like someone after knowing them for such a short time. I know this. I didn't get what I wanted, no. But I also am not the type to just sleep with anyone. I have to either be emotionally connected - or know that the sex will be really good. These can be exclusive of one another. Wow. I feel weirdly a lot better. And thanks! I thought Homer would prefer hair with more of a blue-tinge. Glad I could help I think my prize should be for you to dye your hair blue and tease it up real high! Btw - I am not majoring in Psych, but Int'l Relations
Author marsle85 Posted March 30, 2010 Author Posted March 30, 2010 Yes I most certainly think it would be effective. Ask the guys if they think it would be effective. Don't feel foolish, so many times we let our pride get in the way and we miss out. I am a woman and I feel there is a misunderstanding between the two of you because to me there seems to be a "communication" problem. I don't feel there is anything wrong with giving it one last try. If there is no response then at least you will know you tried. What do you have to lose? Honestly, what do you have to lose? Don't tell your gfs what you are planning to do. I never involved my friends in those kind of decisions. I've lived a while and I can tell you it is not often in life a woman finds a man she has the kind of feeling you have for this man. Maybe he feels the same way about you but he is a grown man with grown man needs and doesn't want to play around anymore. When I say give him something he can feel. Well, it's hard to put into words, but you are a woman afterall, search yourself and you will find the meaning. Okay. Men, do you think this would be effective? I'm not really sure how to make us both okay with redoing the date, haha. I'm nervous/worried about being shot down again. The only reason why I even INITIATED anything was because my guy friends said at Date 4... after he's taken me out so much, it's my turn to do something nice. As for the girlfriends thing- I completely agree. They would NOT be supportive, but it's one of those things you have to resolve yourself. So what would you purpose asking? How do I phrase it so he knows I want to ...redo our last evening together (especially sex) - and NOT sound crazy? I'm a big supporter of "what do you have to lose" too- but I'd like this to go down as smoothly as possible. Lucky for me, at this point- regardless of what happens, I've had plenty of warning and wouldn't be thrown off my feet like I was before. I'm pretty comfortable with any outcome of this - as long as it includes me getting laid, haha. Maybe that was what he was thinking, lol. Maybe that's why things went down the drain.
amymarieca Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Since there doesn't seem to be any female posters awake right now I'll write down what they'd say if they were here: No! Make him beg for you. Make him crawl on the ground grovelling for sex from you. Don't call him again. Don't even say his name, it would be blasphemy. Everything that's happened has all been his fault. He's the son of Satan. If he really liked you he'd make more of a move to contact you. If he couldn't contact you by phone, then he'd contact you by email. If he couldn't get you by email, then he'd skywright your name over the Empire State Building. If that didn't work then he'd use telepathy to get in touch with you. Remember marsle, you're a good girl. You're sweet. You're pure. You're special. You've done nothing wrong. Ever. It's all his fault. Because he has a penis it's all his fault. St. Nick are you not feeling very good about yourself? You seem to criticize women constantly for having a different opinion than you. The language you use is beyond disrespectful. Each person is entitled to their own opinion and you should respect that. Whether your opinion is right or wrong, you present it so negatively that no one wants to listen to you. I don't think you really get that. At least the women here have tried to say something positive to the OP! The only reason you have returned to this thread is to criticize other peoples' posts and try to make them feel like crap for seeing it in a different light than you. Maybe you need better things to fill out your day.
holakitty Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 I live through my own personal Kill Bill movie every 28 days :lmao: Nothing like going on a first date with a guy on your heaviest day of the month, making the (stupid) choice to spend the night without having backup protection, and waking up to a very mortifying experience in the morning.....I'm afraid any more details would be too horrifying for the majority on this thread...
stillafool Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Okay. Men, do you think this would be effective? I'm not really sure how to make us both okay with redoing the date, haha. I'm nervous/worried about being shot down again. The only reason why I even INITIATED anything was because my guy friends said at Date 4... after he's taken me out so much, it's my turn to do something nice. As for the girlfriends thing- I completely agree. They would NOT be supportive, but it's one of those things you have to resolve yourself. So what would you purpose asking? How do I phrase it so he knows I want to ...redo our last evening together (especially sex) - and NOT sound crazy? I'm a big supporter of "what do you have to lose" too- but I'd like this to go down as smoothly as possible. Lucky for me, at this point- regardless of what happens, I've had plenty of warning and wouldn't be thrown off my feet like I was before. I'm pretty comfortable with any outcome of this - as long as it includes me getting laid, haha. Maybe that was what he was thinking, lol. Maybe that's why things went down the drain. I read your post, I just have to run out now. Will get back to you later.
Author marsle85 Posted March 30, 2010 Author Posted March 30, 2010 I read your post, I just have to run out now. Will get back to you later. Looking forward to it.
carhill Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Okay. Men, do you think this would be effective? Without prejudice and definitely not projecting, I would opine the result to be in line with Bob's responses here, as an example, even though they didn't set well with you. My personal response would be different, but I'm not a 20-something removing date's tops in my bedroom with roommates outside. The whole mindset in this dynamic is different than my style and experience. Rewards in life come with risks. I hope you find a balance that is healthy for you
stillafool Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 I can tell you when you call him for the invite he will get the message from your voice (about the sex). Just mention the dinner.
Kamille Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 No, do not frame it as a "redo" of the last date. From the few responses he's given you, he doesn't even think there was anything wrong with the last date. And if he or you think there was something wrong with the last date, it's all the more reason not to bring it up again. Simply tell him you've been thinking about him and want to return the favor and would love to invite him over for dinner at your house. And also, I would recommend you avoid hinting at sex: he'll get it. "Dinner at my house" will immediately sound his "maybe we'll have sex" bell. Be discrete and ladylike, flirtatious when he gets there and reserve wildcatness for the bedroom.
threebyfate Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 marsle, you shouldn't be chasing this guy, since IMO, you're doing it all for the wrong reasons.
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