VertexSquared Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 How do you typically invite someone to go on a first date and what do you ask them to?
skydiveaddict Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 How do you typically invite someone to go on a first date and what do you ask them to? Usually skydiving. but since that never works it's always dinner
boogieboy Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 Coffee, only coffee, unless I really got to know them in the first meeting.
skydiveaddict Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 Coffee, only coffee, unless I really got to know them in the first meeting. coffee is always a good first date I agree
Wallace1 Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 I usually suggest checking out a couple happy hours. They're really informal and low key, and if it goes well, there's plenty of time to extend it.
Author VertexSquared Posted March 24, 2010 Author Posted March 24, 2010 I know she enjoys low-key bars (as do I). How's this: "Anyways though, I was curious if maybe you'd be interested in meeting for drinks sometime after work later on this week (no pressure or anything)? If not, no worries!" This is through eHarmony so I am hoping that she doesn't think I'm simply using this to get laid by asking her to drinks as opposed to dinner? I figure if drinks go well, I can ask her then? Or maybe that's a bad idea?
SaintDragon Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 I'm asking my first date to go to the DIRT races..... Screw the typical dinner and a movie...I'd be twiddling my thumbs lookin like a moron..At least at the races I would know what to talk to her about.... 112 octane race gas and Hoosier DIRT spec tires...lmao.
skydiveaddict Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 I'm asking my first date to go to the DIRT races..... Screw the typical dinner and a movie...I'd be twiddling my thumbs lookin like a moron..At least at the races I would know what to talk to her about.... 112 octane race gas and Hoosier DIRT spec tires...lmao. nice!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
mrt336 Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 "Anyways though, I was curious if maybe you'd be interested in meeting for drinks sometime after work later on this week (no pressure or anything)? If not, no worries!" That. Is. So. Passive. The beauty of written communication is never having to come across awkward.
Awesome Username Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 Coffee or lunch is a good opening. It's also cheaper than dinner so if the person you are asking ends up not being thumbs up, at least your wallet didn't take a thumbs down.
hopesndreams Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 When asking someone out, through a dating site, dinners can be long and painful if you don't hit it off. You know within the 1st five minutes of meeting someone if there is a click. No click? One drink and it's done, bye bye.
flc Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 Meeting someone the first time from online would be generally be coffee for me but I have done drinks. I would never pick an activity that would have to last an hour or more if you figure out in the first 15m that the date was a mistake. I think both people appreciate a quick out. If you pick coffee or drinks and things are working out you can extend it to dinner or set that up for the next date.
mrkleen Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 Drinks usually...for all the reasons stated above. If it goes really well, we can grab a few appetizers and hang out longer...if it is awkward, I can call it an early night and not have spent too much money.
WhenIrishEyesSmile Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 For early/first dates I think there are 3 good options: Coffee and dessertDrinks (and apps if goes well)Lunch at a nice place (same great food as dinner, but cheaper)Because you mentioned that you met this girl online, I agree with other posters that 2. Drinks is the way to go. Be assertive when you ask her out - assume that she is interested and wants to go; don't assume that you are bothering her, or that you're hoping against odds that she says yes.
St. Nick Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 Women like to read more then men, so Barnes and Noble or Borders is my main spot. You can really get to know a woman by the books she reads; and even if she doesn't read any books then there's bound to be some gossip mags she'll like. We can sit down at the Starbucks inside and discuss ourselves over a cup of water.
carhill Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 How do you typically invite someone to go on a first date and what do you ask them to? 'I'd love to take you to lunch. Do you like xxx (food)? OK, let's go to xxx (restaurant)' If the answer isn't a specific 'yes', followed by an arrangement of time and date, then next
marsle85 Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 We can sit down at the Starbucks inside and discuss ourselves over a cup of water. I may be a "tease," but you're cheap.
reservoirdog1 Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 If it's a first face-to-face meeting, I recommend drinks on a work night. That way, if it goes badly, there's a good excuse to cut it short early, and besides, there's no automatic expectation of something more than an hour, maybe two. And if it goes well, then... keep it going!
St. Nick Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 I may be a "tease," but you're cheap. So you don't like water now? Water is more nourishing than coffee anyway. I hardly ever touch coffee, so why would I buy one for someone else? It's like a non-smoker buying cigarettes. And yes, you're still a tease, and not only that, it looks like you're a golddigger to boot.
Author VertexSquared Posted March 24, 2010 Author Posted March 24, 2010 (edited) The girl I've been messaging basically wanted to get lunch instead of drinks (implicitly speaking). Me: Would you be interested in grabbing some drinks sometime later on this week after work? Have any free evenings coming up? Her: Hmm not positive but tomorrow after work might be good. Otherwise, Monday would work out too. Orrrrr would you be able to go for lunch? That's always a lot more do-able for me. Or do you not work in a cool office like mine where you can just take off for a while? >.> Totally short notice - but some work totally cleared up today so lunch today would be great ?!?! Me: Today's been pretty busy unfortunately -- would you be up for tomorrow instead? Her: Yes, tomorrow for lunch would be cool. So you work on (location removed) and I work on (removed) so somewhere in between is pretty much (location removed), which is awful. I think a new (name of brewery) just opened on (location removed) , but that might be too touristy. Oh for just a good ass burger and milkshake, there's (name of some place) on the same block. What's around you to eat? And just so you know, I pretty much eat everything. A pig is a pig is a pig. So my question: What do you think this implies? Am I reading too much into this? (the fact that she basically turned down drinks in favor of lunch, which to me is a lot less personal, and more "friendly") Edited March 24, 2010 by VertexSquared
Wallace1 Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 ____________ What do you think this implies? Am I reading too much into this? It implies she wants to go out with you. (Duh?) As far as the difference between lunch/drinks after work, I wouldn't read anything into it other than she may do that to weed out people looking for a cheap lay.
carhill Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 What do you think this implies? She's interested. She's giving you an opportunity to put on your pants. I suggest you do so. *You* work out the logistics from now on, if this lunch goes well, and don't chatter on about them. Good luck
Author VertexSquared Posted March 24, 2010 Author Posted March 24, 2010 If that's the only reason then I totally don't mind being weeded out for that, since that isn't what I'm after. But if it's a way to say "I'm not really all that interested," then I'd be a bit disappointed, lol.
St. Nick Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 What do you think this implies? Am I reading too much into this? (the fact that she basically turned down drinks in favor of lunch, which to me is a lot less personal, and more "friendly") Are you gonna be the one who pays? After all that talk about her "cool office" she better be willing to go dutch.
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