Where to go

[mikeymad]

I've been NCed by her for the past 2 weeks, after we met to exchange stuff. I've gone through hell, and a hell of a lot of changes in the past 3 months since she initiated divorce proceedings, but she is "tired of empty promises". I don't know where she thought that calling our marriage quits a little over a year is ok without working on it (together 5 yrs total). I've had HUGE revalatiaions about relationships and i believe grown and matured a lot, but I don't even know if my attempts to contact her are getting through, short of going to where she is staying (not staying at her-our old- house because she has convinced herself she's "afraid of me) or showing up at her work. I mean, to what lengths should we go to make the other person realize that we are committed to this? It feels like i keep banging my head against the wall from rejection, but every time i feel like "this is the time where she'll get it".

[Perhaps]

That's where you're wrong. See, she has her won reasons why she's backing away. For you to try to contact her makes her run away more. You can prove yourself but you can't force someone to be convinced.

 

Let it be for now. Let her contact you if she needs you. It's quite immature of her to leave after 5 years without talking to you about it or trying to work things out.

 

Best,

[spriggig]

I mean, to what lengths should we go to make the other person realize that we are committed to this? It feels like i keep banging my head against the wall from rejection, but every time i feel like "this is the time where she'll get it".

 

I second the above post, every time you contact her and try to talk sense into her you drive her further away.

[Ilovecake]

She obviously has her reasons for not wanting to be with you. Give her some breathing room, stalking her at work and home will only push her away further. Like the other posters said you can’t force someone to love you, if she wants to be with you she needs to come to that on her own.