conehead Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 When I lived in NorCal for 3 years, I met my best friend there. I mean we were close and hung out all the time and talked on the phone alot. Then I moved away to LA and she even cried that I had to move away. 6 months after I moved she came down to LA with her bf of 2 months for her bf's family party and I met up with her. So the last time I saw her was a year ago. For that year, we exchanged phone calls or emails maybe just once every few months...sometimes she initiated and sometimes I did. The last time I emailed with her was October and she didn't mention any big news. Well I messaged her just yesterday just asking her how she is and she replied back saying she is already married to her bf of less than 1.5 years and she's also pregnant!! She said she's not kidding. I called her after I got the message and left her a VM telling her to give me a call back to let me know the details. I congratulated her but also put in a little 'i can't believe you didn't invite me to your wedding!' She hasn't called back yet. I thought I was one of her closest friends as we've cried on the phone and in person with each other over past bfs who hurt us. We got drunk etc together and were very close for those 3 years. Yet she gets married and pregnant without even telling me. I mean I know I live much further away now but does it hurt to pick up the phone just to tell one of your best friends you're getting married or you just got pregnant! I feel upset. And I also wonder if I should invite her to MY wedding when/if I get married? I mean I've even considered her to be my maid of honor if I ever get married. I just feel left out. I don't have many friends and it hurts that one of my best didn't even care to tell me such big news .
JustLooking123 Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 I'd wait until you find out the whole story before you judge. Perhaps it was a shotgun wedding? Who knows.
boogieboy Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 You were left out. Sorry to break it to ya, but calling her once every FEW months is not a best friend. Thats your bad. Out of sight, out of mind. She probably got new friends where she lives. You can get the story from her, but youre going to wind up writing her off anyway. She was your best friend, but you werent hers. So no, you dont have a right to be upset, you didnt maintain this relationship, maybe neither did she. You both werent good enough best friends to keep this going long distance. You kept a LDR with your ex, but your gf wasnt important enough.
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